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Boys walking girls home

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listsandbudgets · 22/01/2023 11:19

DD (17) has quite a big group of friends and I've noticed that when they meet up one or two of the boys usually walk the girls home.

So last night a large group were here and every time one of the girls was going a couple of boys - not always the same ones - would walk her back and then come back here afterwards. It was freezing and they must have walked miles. (Before anyone asks I can't drive so dropping them was not an option and DP wasn't here). I know if DD had been elsewhere they'd have walked her home too because it's happened before.

I found it rather nice. Is this still usual or does DD just have an unusually chivalrous group of male friends?

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Atethehalloweenchocs · 22/01/2023 12:52

How lovely - I hope you tell your son how proud you are.

Survey99 · 22/01/2023 12:57

Oblomov22 · 22/01/2023 12:42

I like the fact both my boys do it. But I think it happens a bit too much, it's fine on occasion if there is a problem, taxi booked doesn't turn up, but if it seems to be happening quite often then I think girls need to plan better.

Yes and girls/women need to be taught not to put others in awkward positions.

Ds told a girlfriend who was visiting he would be more comfortable if she got a taxi home instead of walking, even offered to pay if money was an issue. She insisted she was fine to walk home meaning ds felt he had to walk with her to make sure she was safe (which she had no problem with).

It doesn't even cross many girls minds they are leaving someone else vulnerable walking back home alone. But because they are a boy it doesn't seem to matter.

Mommabear20 · 22/01/2023 13:00

I feel like there was a drop in this kinda thing when I was a teenager, but I'm glad it's making a come back!

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NaomiS1 · 22/01/2023 13:09

Normal in my 14 year olds friend group too

Pyewhacket · 22/01/2023 13:09

Walk home, seriously ????. They'd be on their mobile booking an Uber.

titchy · 22/01/2023 13:10

Pyewhacket · 22/01/2023 13:09

Walk home, seriously ????. They'd be on their mobile booking an Uber.

Uber isn't everywhere you know!

Paq · 22/01/2023 13:10

Norm when I was that age. So depressing it's needed but nice that the boys are stepping up.

Pyewhacket · 22/01/2023 13:10

And at 17 she'd be driving herself home.

Paq · 22/01/2023 13:11

Pyewhacket · 22/01/2023 13:09

Walk home, seriously ????. They'd be on their mobile booking an Uber.

We have exactly zero Ubers in my county.

Paq · 22/01/2023 13:13

Also, putting a sole 17 year old in a taxi at night is also, sadly, a risk (or a woman of any age really). Remember John Worboys?

DuplicateUserName · 22/01/2023 13:13

Pyewhacket · 22/01/2023 13:10

And at 17 she'd be driving herself home.

Well it's nice to know your daughter can

A. Drive
B. Afford a car and its running costs.

But that's not the position of every 17 year old is it?

Luredbyapomegranate · 22/01/2023 13:18

That’s sweet!

I don’t think it was, but we lived in a fairly safe area - I do know that when people tried to walk me home I used to run off a lot 😁 it was partly a statement of independence and partly I just like my space. Nothing like a drunken potter..

I do think though that the boys are at least as vulnerable as the girls - far more likely to be set upon - so I am glad they do it in twos.

Luredbyapomegranate · 22/01/2023 13:19

Paq · 22/01/2023 13:13

Also, putting a sole 17 year old in a taxi at night is also, sadly, a risk (or a woman of any age really). Remember John Worboys?

Yeah but come on - you cannot remove all danger from life. We’d never leave home..

Paq · 22/01/2023 13:20

No, but if was a choice between a male friend or an unknown mini can, I'd wager the former was less risky 🤷🏻‍♀️

bloodyplanes · 22/01/2023 13:22

My DS 16 does this.

Survey99 · 22/01/2023 13:23

Paq · 22/01/2023 13:10

Norm when I was that age. So depressing it's needed but nice that the boys are stepping up.

This is exactly the expectation that is unfairly putting pressure on young boys to put themselves at risk.

Everyone, boys and girls, should be "stepping up" and put in place a bit of thought and planning to ensure all young people are not put in vulnerable positions and get home safely.

I would be disappointed with any young girl who allow a young boy to walk them home without any consideration how that boy would then get home themselves.

YetMoreNewBeginnings · 22/01/2023 13:30

Very common in my elder kids friends groups.

We live somewhere relatively small so there’s always a plan so that no-one is left walking alone. With DS it’s usually him and one other lad that walk folks home as they both live in the same street so means they’re also not alone. DDs friends had it set up in a similar way.

No ubers or taxis easily found here at night without booking well in adavance so very common for them all to walk.

Pyewhacket · 22/01/2023 13:34

Luredbyapomegranate · 22/01/2023 13:19

Yeah but come on - you cannot remove all danger from life. We’d never leave home..

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Exactly, that would mean you'd never ever get in a taxi or go anywhere on your own.

Uber are safe enough plus I'd get a copy from her so I know where she is. And it's certainly a lot safer than walking home late at night, even in my part of London.

Survey99 · 22/01/2023 13:38

Paq · 22/01/2023 13:13

Also, putting a sole 17 year old in a taxi at night is also, sadly, a risk (or a woman of any age really). Remember John Worboys?

One high profile case does not mean taking a taxi is a high risk, it is still very low risk. If you thought that about everything you would never leave your house.

Young boys are probably more at risk of being jumped than a women in a prebooked registered taxi is of being assualted. If she feels particularly vulnerable of all taxis she can call someone on her phone during the journey.

It is unfair to be selective and put risk onto another person.

Reclining · 22/01/2023 13:39

This is so lovely! I obviously was hanging around the wrong boys ten years ago. Bunch of stoners, absl no chance.

MrsRinaDecker · 22/01/2023 13:41

Ds16 does this as well.

AnnieFarmer · 22/01/2023 13:42

My sons always do this as do all of their closest friends.

Oblomov22 · 22/01/2023 13:44

I agree completely with Survey. All of these involved need to show respect and consider how 'everyone' gets home safely. How does the boy, having got said girl home, then get home safely himself.

Myonlysunshine123 · 22/01/2023 13:47

My son does this, hes 15, then walks home by himself, I always say but who is walking you home? He says he doesn't mind.

msssm · 22/01/2023 13:52

My son (17) has recently started seeing a girl and without any intervention from me always goes to pick her up and walk her here and then walks her home.

I'm so proud of him for thinking of her safety. I always collect him after he has walked her home though as I worry about him walking the mile or so home alone late at night.