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Boys walking girls home

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listsandbudgets · 22/01/2023 11:19

DD (17) has quite a big group of friends and I've noticed that when they meet up one or two of the boys usually walk the girls home.

So last night a large group were here and every time one of the girls was going a couple of boys - not always the same ones - would walk her back and then come back here afterwards. It was freezing and they must have walked miles. (Before anyone asks I can't drive so dropping them was not an option and DP wasn't here). I know if DD had been elsewhere they'd have walked her home too because it's happened before.

I found it rather nice. Is this still usual or does DD just have an unusually chivalrous group of male friends?

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girlmumma23 · 22/01/2023 20:03

I'm so glad this is still the norm, in our group of friends as teens the boys always walked us home that was about 10/15 years ago

Survey99 · 22/01/2023 21:18

ozymandiusking · 22/01/2023 19:58

What lovely young men! Well done you Mums.

Pity there hasnt been a single post from the parent of a lovely young woman/girl we can say well done too because she has taught her dd to make sure she plans how to get home without expecting a lovely young man/boy to put himself at risk 🤔

Inastatus · 22/01/2023 22:24

Survey99 · 22/01/2023 21:18

Pity there hasnt been a single post from the parent of a lovely young woman/girl we can say well done too because she has taught her dd to make sure she plans how to get home without expecting a lovely young man/boy to put himself at risk 🤔

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Because that wasn’t the point of the thread! Anyhow as a parent of a lovely young woman I can attest to the fact that she is more than capable of finding ways to get home on her own if needs be. If she gets walked home by her male friends there is always more than one, they are not alone.

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EBearhug · 22/01/2023 23:02

I grew up in the country, so lifts or sleepovers had to be organised in advance (out of town taxis were prohibitive, despite not being far out of town.)

As an adult at uni and work, I think I've been walked home twice, unless it was a guy expecting sex (including boyfriends.) Mind you, I think i probably look confident and purposeful, as someone asked me for directions tonight. As my Dutch is minimal and I wasn't totally sure where I was, I was of no use.

Deathbyfluffy · 22/01/2023 23:09

Pyewhacket · 22/01/2023 14:11

She paid for her own lessons and passed first time. She drives my MIL's old car and her father pays her insurance. As for Uber, all her friends, male and female, use the app late at night, they'd be stupid not to. And if I ever found my 14 son walking home late at night, for what ever reason, he'd get an earful from me.

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You’re clearly ignoring the replies pointing this out, but I’ll say it anyway - there’s lots of places that don’t have Uber, and many of them are safe enough that they can walk home anyway.

Your experience is far from universal

ozymandiusking · 22/01/2023 23:27

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UsingChangeofName · 22/01/2023 23:29

Wow! What a bizarre over reaction.

Pyewhacket · 23/01/2023 05:34

Deathbyfluffy · 22/01/2023 23:09

You’re clearly ignoring the replies pointing this out, but I’ll say it anyway - there’s lots of places that don’t have Uber, and many of them are safe enough that they can walk home anyway.

Your experience is far from universal

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It’s pretty universal in the part of London where I live : you’d be putting yourself at risk to do otherwise , especially young males. And having a guy escort her or her friends home is something out of the 1950’s. When they get to university they’ve got to start think independently anyway. My daughters always have.

Pyewhacket · 23/01/2023 05:40

UsingChangeofName · 22/01/2023 23:29

Wow! What a bizarre over reaction.

Welcome to MN 😁

MonsoonMadness · 23/01/2023 05:45

My son would look after girls who had drunk too much or got themselves in compromising situations at clubs when he was younger. I’m sure he would have walked them home too. He’s very respectful and caring.

Oblomov22 · 23/01/2023 06:42

@ozymandiusking
Eh? Why are you telling Survey to fuck off. She has posted many sensible posts throughout.

Survey99 · 23/01/2023 18:15

Oblomov22 · 23/01/2023 06:42

@ozymandiusking
Eh? Why are you telling Survey to fuck off. She has posted many sensible posts throughout.

Ooooo! What on earth did I miss 🤔

18 years of MN and never been told to fuck off before, guess it was about time!!!! Disappointed I missed it! 🤣

Survey99 · 23/01/2023 18:25

ItsAnOrgasmNotAFabergeEgg · 22/01/2023 13:53

Sadly you would lose that wager. Women and girls are at higher risk from men they know than strangers. I didn’t want to be the one to bring the tone of this lovely thread down. But statistically those girls are more likely to be assaulted by one of those boys walking them home than a stranger. And that’s not me being a bitter old feminist banging on about toxic masculinity, it’s just true.

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Very good point. Mums of girls teach your young women that their plans to get home safety should not include being walked home alone, intoxinated, vulnerable by an apparently friendly uni mate she has only known a few weeks.

I have, over the years, heard first hand many stories of boys/men walking girls/women home and trying it on, and a couple that went too far. I have never personally heard of a problem with a taxi driver.

Paq · 23/01/2023 19:20

@Survey99 erm... you've never heard of John Worboys? The country's most prolific rapist? And all the Uber sexual assault (3,000 in 2018 in the US, we don't have figures for the UK but you can google to find many individual cases).

However, I agree that being escorted home when drunk by a male acquaintance also has risks. It's absolutely shit being a woman.

Tittyfilarious81 · 23/01/2023 19:25

It's the norm in my DS 16 friends group that the girls don't walk home alone

Survey99 · 23/01/2023 19:34

Paq · 23/01/2023 19:20

@Survey99 erm... you've never heard of John Worboys? The country's most prolific rapist? And all the Uber sexual assault (3,000 in 2018 in the US, we don't have figures for the UK but you can google to find many individual cases).

However, I agree that being escorted home when drunk by a male acquaintance also has risks. It's absolutely shit being a woman.

The John Worboys case was horrific. He was also one taxi driver and not representive of taxi drivers in general. 3000 cases in US, every single one horrific and unacceptable, out of a population of over 300 million is a tiny stat.

Agree it is shit and women shouldn't have to be aware, but I still strongly believe a young woman/girl is much much more likely to be assualted by someone who walked them home (especially when drink is involved) than the average taxi driver doing his job driving 100s of young women home every week.

Margrethe · 23/01/2023 19:36

I don’t know if it is still the norm, but I think it is lovely that these boys are thoughtful and caring.

ancientgran · 23/01/2023 19:38

Survey99 · 22/01/2023 12:37

Exactly. One of ds's friends was jumped when walking home alone after seeing a girl in the group home safely. They should all be responsible to plan everyone gets home safely, and girls should be taught this too.

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Yes, safety for all. Don't know if it's still the same but when I worked for local police force it was young men who were most at risk of attacks.

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