If I knew I’d be ok, I would…………..

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Take myself off to a cottage in the country for a couple of months and finally write that novel that’s rumbling around in my head.

Oh actually, I’m doing this too. It’s my retirement plan, at least 30 years away so I’m hoping it’ll be possible.

I'd buy a round the world ticket and go travelling would love to visit every continent and tick off my bucket list

Wouldn't part of the thrill be not knowing if it would be ok?

Well that's the point. If I knew I was going to be 100% OK I could travel around, actually talk to women, learn what's going on for them, help if possible, spread the word. Observe and report at least.

And, selfishly, they are stunning countries with wonderful people. Just run by evil bastards right now.

Have a breast reduction .
Travel solo in my Campervan for months on end

I actually could do both of these things ( well in the van I think id have to take DH along also because he'd want to come but that would be ok .. )

I am just a bit scared to ..

The thing I cant do any longer sadly is travel solo or with DH in my campervan for months on end in Europe .. but If i could id do that also ..

So somehow blag an EU passport ( not sure how I can do that one sadly ) needs to be added to that list

Stop working.
Have the professionals investigate every single niggly ache and pain I have in this creaky body.
Walk, sit, think, walk, sit, think for a few hours every day until I was all thinked out and this brain stopped jumping and racing around all day every day.
Eat loads of fancy salads made up by someone else so I didn't have to do all the slicing and chopping and thinking about it.

Resign from my job and be a sahm/house wife.

I’ve always been career focussed. Loved my job. Dc are 11-14. I have a new manager and joined a new toxic team. I never knew work could be this shit. Keeping house has suddenly started looking inviting. Never ever thought I’d say that. Sadly we need money.

Whoosh 💨

Tell my boss to fuck off

stop all contact with my mother.

Retire (early) and go travelling.

Quit work and Homeschool. And tell one particular in law to do one and then stop all contact

Ooh I have another, have a gastric sleeve.

The major thing putting me off is not being OK after. Read a horror story once about a woman who's surgeon took away too much stomach and she died slowly of starvation.

No thanks!

Give up work
Buy a home overseas

I did this last year before christmas, you can and you Will be OK. ❤️

Very succinct @NotAnotherBathBomb

This one. I'd start with the Wicklow Way (which I should do anyway as I live quite close to one end of it) . I'd do cold places like Alaska/Canada/Chile in summertime and hotter places like Spain in the winter (or perhaps not at all, I'm not good in the heat). And I'd have a team to support me by picking me up at the end of every day's walking to take me to a lovely hotel, transferring my luggage, doing my laundry, arranging meals, someone local to walk with me and tell me about local history and customs. I'm not great at roughing it, can you tell?

I'd say at least about 20% of these are do-able.

Life is short.

It is never worth worrying so much about what people think of you that you stop yourself from doing what you know to be right for you.

It's scary to step away from what's comfortable and familiar. But what keeps us safe often keeps us from growing, living, breathing - and all of those are the greatest gifts we can give ourselves, and those we love.

Oh - and get that therapy. You'll be okay. You might have to walk through some dark woods for a while, but if you have the right therapist, they will be with you.

@BlackAmericanoNoSugar thats my kind of plan !

I would go home, I miss it so much.

That's correct. In England you don't have to. I also never changed my name on marriage.
Therefore, I asked where the poster lives that does not allow her to go back to her legal name. What with it clearly not being England, because it's not the case in England.

I actually investigated it a couple of years ago! Very few trains have 1st class carriages with private berths and bathroom facilities and those that do are ££££
But once I have the time and saved the money, it's top of my list.

Quit teaching

Go to Australia.

See where my late son lived and died, speak to people who knew him, see what kind of life he had there, where he worked, what gym, pub did he go to, where did he shop, just the normal day to day stuff, what bus did he get to work.

But I'm not sure if it would help me with accept what's happened or make me worse.

Take ayahuasca