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Do You Celebrate Valentines Day?

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SunshineLollipopsAndRainbows · 17/01/2023 19:35

DH isn’t the biggest romantic all year round but I always get 2 dozen red roses & a box of chocolates plus a card. We usually eat a special meal at home but this year DH has actually asked if I want to go out. There’s a lovely Italian place I used to go to years ago with the biggest pepper grinders I’ve ever seen! Plus the waiters had tight black trousers & lovely bums! So think we’ll go there. Maybe not on the actual night as it will be busy.

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TangledWebOfDeception · 17/01/2023 19:38

We don't anymore, because our anniversary is in February so we celebrate that instead.

Italian sounds good. I would love a proper Italian pizza right now, can't get one anywhere around here. Angry

Blankiefan · 17/01/2023 19:38

We buy each other cards but nothing else. DH is generally very romantic on any given day but neither of us values Valentine's Day.

LoraPiano · 17/01/2023 19:39

No, I dislike being told by the establishment when I should celebrate what. I celebrate birthdays and anniversaries, which I find a lot more personal and meaningful.

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AnneButNotHathaway · 18/01/2023 05:55

We don't do much, I'm making a slideshow for Valentine's day with our most hilarious photos and we probably watch a silly movie or two. Last year we were watching horrors though 😂

Shoxfordian · 18/01/2023 06:30

Yeah we will go out for dinner on the Saturday before - although we would anyway because we’re seeing a show in London and then on the night we will have some champagne and steak at home

ripandhishorse · 18/01/2023 07:17

No. As someone above said, I don’t like being told to celebrate. We do spontaneous things together throughout the year. I don’t need a day for my husband to tell me he loves me and vice verse. I find it a complete waste of money.

I also hate the inevitable posts on here to say my DH forgot or, I only got a card, no flowers or I wasn’t wined and dined.

PlaitBilledDuckyPuss · 18/01/2023 07:37

We exchange cards. We don't go out for a meal - we prefer to eat out when it's quieter.

frozendaisy · 18/01/2023 07:46

Nope. Valentine's used to be for anonymous attraction. It was quite sweet then. Happy valentine from your partner is just a bit "meh".

Plenty of love all year no need for more spending. We don't even do our wedding anniversary, others do, us not so much.

CakeCrumbs44 · 18/01/2023 07:53

We haven't celebrated valentine's Day since we were teenagers,

mydogisthebest · 18/01/2023 07:53

Yes we always do something. Give each other a card every year. Sometimes we go out for a meal, sometimes a nice takeaway, sometimes we cook a nice meal. A few years we have gone away for a night or two.

We don't see it see it as being told when to celebrate but a nice reason to celebrate along with all our other celebrations throughout the year.

We have been married 42 years and show our love to each other year round with silly little gifts, thoughtfullness etc.

I find it odd that people say they won't be told when to celebrate/show love etc because they do that all year. Well why not Valentines Day then?

Last year our neighbours came into our house and the woman commented that we had 2 Valentines cards on our mantelpiece. She said "oh we don't do anything because we believe in showing love all year". They were holding hands the whole time they were in our house.

Things is they argue all the time, screaming and shouting and just before Christmas he threw her out!

tigger1001 · 18/01/2023 08:00

We don't. Would rather go out for a meal at a different time, when the restaurants are not so busy and haven't inflated the prices

Deathraystare · 18/01/2023 08:00

Nope. On my own so that would be weird.

Anyway ...Pancake Day is more my thing. Yahoo. Can't wait!

keepareaclean · 18/01/2023 08:01

Waiters with tight trousers Confused

Sure.

Girlintheframe · 18/01/2023 08:06

We do a card and often a token gift but that's it.

dudsville · 18/01/2023 08:18

I've only been out to dinner once in VD and it turned out to be something i didn't enjoy as much as I'd hoped. I'm in a lovely relationship that's "faur to middling" on the cheesy scale. We'll exchange cards and chocolates as always, but the cards are moonpig ones with some pic from the year that's funny or moving it whatever. I shall enjoy looking back through these later in life.

OneFrenchEgg · 18/01/2023 08:18

No I don't feel the need - definitely when dating and things were new and unsure, it was fun.

TangledWebOfDeception · 18/01/2023 09:13

Back when we did celebrate, it was with cards and a special dinner together at home (we didn’t live together then).

I don't see anything wrong with having a named holiday to celebrate, it’s only a bit of fun. But then we’ve always had a really good relationship with lots of affection and appreciation of each other every day throughout the year, and are still very close now, years later.

Must be horrible to be in a crappy/disappointing relationship or be taken for granted all the time and then get presents/fake love/card and flowers on a specific date because that’s what he has to do. No thanks.

WandaWonder · 18/01/2023 09:17

We just do stuff as and when, I am sure rises are lovely but for the money they die just as fast as normal flowers and cost more just because it 14th feb

We eat out when we feel like it, buy things we personally want when we want, have city breaks or holidays as and when so no we don't 'celebrate' Valentine's Day itself

TheTurn0fTheScrew · 18/01/2023 09:19

a little bit. We exchange cards and a token present like a paperback, or some bath oil. I have no argument with those who hate the commercialisation, but for me it's a reminder that my other half is pretty decent, and I'm happy to mark that.

NeedWineNow · 18/01/2023 09:19

Not really. We haven't been out to dinner on Valentine's day in years but always exchanged cards. However I don't think we're even going to bother to do that this year. We will have a nice dinner and a bottle of fizz which is what we usually do.

WomanFromTheNorth · 18/01/2023 09:22

No, it's totally cringey - the antithesis of romance. Can't believe grown adults fall for this crap.

mydogisthebest · 18/01/2023 09:28

WomanFromTheNorth · 18/01/2023 09:22

No, it's totally cringey - the antithesis of romance. Can't believe grown adults fall for this crap.

YOU think it is crap. Me and DH think it is fun. My parents gave each other a card every year for 68 years. They loved each other deeply and showed it all year round too

BackIntoTheSun · 18/01/2023 09:30

No neither of us can be arsed! Pancake day though, definitely 😋

mydogisthebest · 18/01/2023 09:32

WandaWonder · 18/01/2023 09:17

We just do stuff as and when, I am sure rises are lovely but for the money they die just as fast as normal flowers and cost more just because it 14th feb

We eat out when we feel like it, buy things we personally want when we want, have city breaks or holidays as and when so no we don't 'celebrate' Valentine's Day itself

We also do things as and when. We often buy little gifts for the other and have holidays, nights away etc.

I get that some people don't celebrate Valentines but why do they almost always have to say they show their love other days? It's not either/or. You can celebrate it and show love the rest of the year

barneshome · 18/01/2023 09:33

Despise the whole commercialism of this rubbish.
Americanization of our culture.
Valentines was great when you sent/received cards to/from someone and it was anonymous and you had the fun of trying to work out who it was from.
That has been totally lost and is not any fun but is a way for pubs, restaurants, shops amazon to make a fortune from mugs.
How many mugs are going to waste money on a present/ meal etc then the next week whine about how expensive everything is? - Millions I guess.
(sighs at peoples stupidity and inability to see how they are being manipulated)