Do You Celebrate Valentines Day?

[SunshineLollipopsAndRainbows]

DH isn’t the biggest romantic all year round but I always get 2 dozen red roses & a box of chocolates plus a card. We usually eat a special meal at home but this year DH has actually asked if I want to go out. There’s a lovely Italian place I used to go to years ago with the biggest pepper grinders I’ve ever seen! Plus the waiters had tight black trousers & lovely bums! So think we’ll go there. Maybe not on the actual night as it will be busy.

Do the waitresses wear matching little black dresses ? might be why husband suggested going there.

We do primarily for the fact that a grandparent will pop up unprompted and say

"its valentines day coming up do you want us to have the kids for the night so you can go out?"

The answer will never be no to this question, so we will do something "nice".

Everyone saying they dont celebrate as they can spontaneously do something romantic anytime they want, must not have kids.

It's my birthday 🎂 and we do celebrate our love and appreciation for each other on Valentine's Day, although it's obviously less of romantic holiday 'thing' for us. But it's nice to spend time together any day. ❤️

No. We did do small things when we first got together but that was some 35 years ago.

Plenty of other days in the year do treat someone without paying inflated prices.

No. I don't buy into the commercialization of Valentines Day.
Restaurants are overpriced and crowded and most gifts are generic with no actual thought (roses & chocolate).
There are plenty of other days in the year to treat your partner and show you love them

Not really, we used to, but got fed up of spending loads more money on flowers and a meal out than we would any other day of the month. We usually get a card, but DH is not into cards really, so I have given him the same one for the last 3 years.... hasn't noticed yet.

No

Yes. We love it in our house. We lived in America for a bit where it's big deal (and in a cold northern state where it was also something to break up the monotony of the post Christmas winter months).

I've always made cards for my kids as well as Dh and I've got some little decorations I stick up. DH and I do presents and usually have a nice dinner. I used to make my best friend a card every year just to tell her I loved her as she used to feel very lonely on Valentine's Day when she was single-but now she's married so I just send her a text instead.

I just see it as a nice positive day more about general love for people than romance and I don't see how there can be an issue with that sort of sentiment really.

Couldn't agree more. They seem to think they are superior because they don't celebrate it.

As for the sad argument of "we show our love all year", well so do me and DH but we ALSO celebrate Valentines.

We don't buy each other chocolates or flowers. There are plenty of other gifts to buy. If we go out to eat we don't go somewhere that has a special menu and has, therefore, put their prices up. We just go to a restaurant we like, often a local indian and they don't put their prices up.

If you are both happy not celebrating it fine but why sneer at those who do?

Whattodo1975 DH has never been & I can’t remember there being any female staff at all anyway!

AutumnCrow thank you for your insightful feedback 🤣

Op your question totally reminds me of This Victoria Wood sketch!

well worth a watch!

no, not really. Just a card really

My husbands birthday is on valentines, so that sort of steals the show!

People have a million reasone why they do or do not things

If someone says 'I do this/don't do this so I am better than you' then I would call that smug or superior or bragging or whatever, if not I just presume they are giving their own opinion

I find people that have to find other people superior smug have issues which is nothing to do with the other person

…and we do that throughout the year too! We also celebrate Valentine’s Day! This year we’re going out for lunch to our favourite restaurant. We find we can be spontaneous throughout the year AND celebrate the day! Over 35 years together and we have always exchanged cards/gifts/ or weekends away for Valentine’s Day…❤️

Of course some people celebrate and some don't, for whatever reasons but why not just say, no they don't celebrate it. Why is it necessary in almost every case to tell us all they that they don't need to be told when to show love and also that they show love/give gifts etc throughout the year?

I don't think any of the posters who do celebrate have said anything negative to those who don't but the same can't be said in reverse.

We have been told we are mugs for being told when to celebrate, for buying tacky presents and/or overpriced flowers and for paying over the odds for a meal in a restaurant. Oh and we have also been told it is meant to be for singles not married couples

It's my birthday 🎂 and we do celebrate our love and appreciation for each other on Valentine's Day, although it's obviously less of romantic holiday 'thing' for us. But it's nice to spend time together any day. ❤️

It's my birthday too!

We exchange cards with thoughtful messages. On our first valentine dh went to work (Saturday or Sunday) and I was slightly peeved as no card. A few hours later a hiluge bouquet of red roses arrived and I was thankful I hadn't been snippy.

However that was about 35 years ago and even then I was askance at the fact he had paid a huge mark-up. Ever since he's given me £20 to buy flowers the next day when they are half price. . I might put a couple of chocolate hearts on his pillow.

Love isn't about one day but the little things. He always brings me up a fresh bottle of water when mine's running out and a cup of tea in the morning. I pair and fold his socks as he likes them and make him a bacon sandwich on Saturday mornings.

I don't. Each to their own.

What I don't like is the marketing of 'Valentine's weekend'. No it is one day, February 14th.

I don't celebrate Christmas or Easter, so you "guarantee" wrongly.

But I "guarantee" you don't refuse the time given off work for those events. And if you don't work I'm sure you observe the holiday with family or friends. So in essence you are celebrating them...

We don't, but that's only because usually we forget about it, despite it being everywhere.
That said, there's nothing wrong with celebrating it if that's what you want to do.

"But I "guarantee" you don't refuse the time given off work for those events. And if you don't work I'm sure you observe the holiday with family or friends. So in essence you are celebrating them..."

Not everyone gets time off. I don't work Good Friday, but that's because Friday is my usual day off. Our office is open. And I work Easter Monday. Don't do any Easter celebrations at all. It's not my thing.

That's the problem with blanket statements. They are rarely true for everyone.

I don't do Valentine's Day. Never have. No issue with others choosing differently to me. My only bugbear about it is it falls at the same time as the kids are off school, so going away for a long weekend with them is harder as hotels all hike up the prices because its valentines weekend. But that's just a minor annoyance and more to do with places hiking up prices.

Happy birthday, Upwiththisiwillnotput!

I think its overrated bo**cks.

That said OH isn't romantic in the slightest, does usually get me something. I'd be happy with a card. We are going out for a nice meal on the Sunday beforehand, so that'll be nice.