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Do You Celebrate Valentines Day?

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SunshineLollipopsAndRainbows · 17/01/2023 19:35

DH isn’t the biggest romantic all year round but I always get 2 dozen red roses & a box of chocolates plus a card. We usually eat a special meal at home but this year DH has actually asked if I want to go out. There’s a lovely Italian place I used to go to years ago with the biggest pepper grinders I’ve ever seen! Plus the waiters had tight black trousers & lovely bums! So think we’ll go there. Maybe not on the actual night as it will be busy.

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CallMeBubbleDarling · 18/01/2023 09:35

We do cards and a something small. When we first got together it was much more of a thing but now we will just probably have a nice meal in a watch a film. We do this a lot throughout the year but it’s another excuse to do it so I don’t see the harm.

longtompot · 18/01/2023 09:56

Not anymore. We just get a M&S meal deal and have a nice dinner with our two adult kids, probably watch a film

EcoCustard · 18/01/2023 09:56

No. DH & I have never sent each other a card on Valentine’s in 23 years or been out for a specific meal to celebrate. I find it’s another retail opportunity to sell more tat, chocolate and crap flowers. Was a florist for a time and I hated Valentines, and the flowers, especially roses, spring was betterI Always thought the idea was to send something anonymously to someone you liked.

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TangledWebOfDeception · 18/01/2023 10:00

I love cards because they’re a tangible thing you can keep forever and when/if the person’s no longer with you their words still will be. So I take every opportunity to give to/receive one from my DH. It just doesn’t make sense to do it twice in one month, otherwise we’d have continued doing it.

Exactly as pp said, it’s not either/or. We’re very close and very happy together every day.

xogossipgirlxo · 18/01/2023 10:57

Not in full blown way. We buy each other cards, might go for a coffee, or sushi (from supermarket :D). Nothing fancy really. I like the time together though, as we don't have much of it nowadays.

CornishGem1975 · 18/01/2023 11:04

We don't really get opportunity at home but we will 'celebrate' by exchanging cards and having a nice meal at home.

I always think that Valentines is for single people - when I was younger it was all about the surprise of getting an unexpected card.

katseyes7 · 18/01/2023 11:17

No, l'm single and staying that way.
But a few years ago my best friend and l decided that we'd give our single friends a little something on Valentine's Day, just to let them know someone loves and cares for them.
It doesn't have to be anything expensive. Maybe just a thoughtful card or a small gift to let them know we appreciate them.

Fluffygreenslippers · 18/01/2023 11:19

I love the aesthetic of Valentines day. Pink & red & hearts everywhere. I like dressing up & doing some fun makeup. I always get DH a card and gift. Why the fuck not?

mindutopia · 18/01/2023 11:35

No, at most we might get a Valentines meal deal for the weekend because they are fancier than the normal meal deals.

YorkieTheRabbit · 18/01/2023 11:39

No. We have never celebrated it in the 18 years we’ve been together.

IntentionalError · 18/01/2023 11:41

No, we don’t, and we never have. Valentine’s Day is commercialised nonsense, just like halloween etc. I don’t need the marketing department of a supermarket to tell me what to do, so I don’t buy into any of it.

mydogisthebest · 18/01/2023 11:45

TangledWebOfDeception · 18/01/2023 10:00

I love cards because they’re a tangible thing you can keep forever and when/if the person’s no longer with you their words still will be. So I take every opportunity to give to/receive one from my DH. It just doesn’t make sense to do it twice in one month, otherwise we’d have continued doing it.

Exactly as pp said, it’s not either/or. We’re very close and very happy together every day.

When my parents died in 2021 we found all the cards they had sent each other over the years - birthdays, wedding anniversaries, Christmas and Valentines. They had such lovely messages in.

I have kept all the cards me and DH have sent each other in our 42 years of marriage and every few years look through them.

Ohgoodyanotherone · 18/01/2023 12:02

No. if he (or anyone else), needs to be prompted into showing how much they "love" you, by a date on the calendar then it means nothing. Being taken out or bought a gift means a lot more if it happens on a random day.

mydogisthebest · 18/01/2023 12:17

Ohgoodyanotherone · 18/01/2023 12:02

No. if he (or anyone else), needs to be prompted into showing how much they "love" you, by a date on the calendar then it means nothing. Being taken out or bought a gift means a lot more if it happens on a random day.

As I said before, it is possible to do something on Valentines as well as other days.

We often buy little gifts for each other. DH often buys me flowers (not roses as I dislike them) but it's nice to celebrate Valentines as well

Thepossibility · 18/01/2023 12:27

After we got engaged we more focused on our anniversary (we got married one year later to the day.)
To me Valentine's Day is more of a new couple thing, that don't have an anniversary to celebrate.

StarlightLady · 18/01/2023 12:43

I celebrate it, but not always with the same person 😻.

Sparkletastic · 18/01/2023 13:07

DH (on the spectrum) is not a spontaneous or romantic person so needs clear indications of when romance is 'expected' .

We always exchange cards and nice gifts and cook ourselves a posh meal. That sees me through another year in our long marriage Wink

Deathraystare · 18/01/2023 14:29

Mum and Dad went out for a Chinese and us grown up kite decided to go to a newly opened Thai. They presented every woman with an orchid Nice touch I thought. It suddenly occurred to my two brothers and I what day it was. I wonder if anyone was thinking we were a threesome?????

Deathraystare · 18/01/2023 14:30

Kids not kite!

Floralnomad · 18/01/2023 14:33

No , we’ve been happily together for a very long time , married for 30+ years and have never done Valentine’s Day , we don’t feel the need . My husband is very romantic all year round .

Flurffyy · 18/01/2023 14:34

I didn’t use to but for the last ten years or so have got into it. It’s right near my birthday so now we always go away and have a posh meal
out. Last year we went on a cold European city break, this year we’ll be in a Mexican cruise.

GOODCAT · 18/01/2023 14:35

We have a nice meal at home. I like it as we both make an effort. We don't do cards or presents.

Usergjdksndjsn · 18/01/2023 14:37

Love the don’t tell me when to celebrate brigade
bet most of them celebrated Christmas

Walterwhiteswifey · 18/01/2023 14:37

Those of you saying you "dont like being told when to celebrate" presumably this applies for Christmas, Easter etc no?! And I guarantee you celebrate those. What a bizarre argument. Just say no its not really our thing 🙄

Facecream · 18/01/2023 14:42

No but it’s more of a been together so long thing as he did the first year we were together: had our beagle (we hadn’t had him long) with a red ribbon tied around his neck with the card on it and lots of other sweet things. We also got engaged on V day. But it’s also my sister’s birthday and I’ve always thought of it as that really.
This year I’m in court the day before, facing the defence for the medic who assaulted me so if there’s bubbly it’ll be for getting through that experience