would others see this as weird creepy or offensive

[namedoesntmattter]

i started a group due to anxiety im a guy i get on with one of the other women we dont socialise just talk in group shes called claire today i called her claire bear just because it rymed one of the other women who run the group gave claire a look like i had said something unnaceptable and claire said she had no issues with it she often gets callled it but to me it seems like people take offence too easily specially over something that has nothing to do with them and the person who its said to had no issues with it does anybody else find it a strange thing to call somebody

The op said “i started a group”

Also calling them Claire bare is surely a term of endearment which could be accused as sexual harassment?

Started at he means. It's just dialect. The actual.facilitator is mentioned.

Sexual harassment is a bit OTT.

@findmybalance have you attended these kind of groups before out of interest?

Absolutely nothing to do with anything. Given your responses on other threads I dont believe you're posting in good faith.

Well it is actually. I attend peer support groups four times a week and have done since 2016 so I have experience.

An anxiety group Will have people there with varying triggers that bring back trauma. one lady in one of my groups suffered abuse as a child and this would have upset her. But anyway what do I know. Enjoy the rest of your night

And the op on the other thread had no problem with my opinion speaking as a father of a 15yo daughter myself and a teenage son

Lovely.

I think youl find the whole thread has told him it was wrong so you're arguing with yourself. I just found your sexual harassment comment OTT and a risk to the completely united thread we had (and as I said before, ice seen your opinions on the sexualisation of.women be very different before).

If you mean I don’t believe in the sexualisation of any women you would be spot on. I want my daughter to be a powerful independent woman and I try and protect her so she can concentrate on getting a good education

The previous group leader's lack of action when you were called names, has absolutely nothing to do with this woman. You're complaining that the last leader did not step in, now upset that this one did, albeit with a look to Claire to check she was okay with a term of endearment being used. And now seem to have decided it's because they are women. Are you sure a female led group is for you?

By the sound of it once Claire said she didn't mind, then nothing else happened and then group went on as normal. No one reprimanded you or said you had been offensive. It's you who is fixation on a perceived offense being taken for what you perceive was an inoffensive endearment.

Personally I think endearments are for family and friends, not a therapy style group. Are you hoping to develop a friendship outside the group with Claire? Because I think that would be determintal to you both as members of such a group.

OP: is this weird

Everyone: yeah, it's weird and creepy, don't do that

OP: but you're all totally wrong because <spurious reasons amounting to ACTUALLY SHE LOVED IT>

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Seen it all before. Stop being creepy. Stop with the nicknames. Leave her alone.

That is true, however, group programmes are delivered in group for a specific reason. It may give Claire an opportunity to explore boundaries and people pleasing behaviour in a safe space, if this is an issue for her. They OP may have a better understanding of appropriate boundaries if other people are able to share their thoughts and feeling

I thought this would have been deleted by now 🤣. Skimmed it earlier and thought this won't last long with OP's reactions 😂

Yes you sound creepy.

Are you Russell Greer?