I've not even been engaged 48 hours........

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And people are already creating drama.

Sat and had a cry earlier because I was so happy the dp finally proposed. Now it's become a political minefield keeping everyone happy. One person getting annoyed at another for buying me a planning book. Another getting annoyed that I'm going to try on dresses with a friend......it was more to give me a kick up the ass to lose a significant amount of weight (which is long overdue)
I have no intention of buying a dress, nor do I have the funds to do so!

I just don't want the whole planning process to be people bickering. I'm not interested.
I said to dp that if this continues then we will take the kids and elope. I hate arguing.

I love my family very much. I want them at my wedding but actually what I really want is to just marry the man I love. That's all thst matters. I'd love a pretty dress because I never look pretty. I'd love a big party. But none of that actually matters.

I know thst there's going to be arguments over the bridesmaid choices, the dresses, the hen do 😫

I wish we hadn't told anyone our news and kept it to myself. It's completely burst my bubble.

Congratulations OP 💐
It's a shame that other people around you feel that it's all about them, but try to gently ignore them for a while, and bask in the glory that's rightfully yours 😎

Elope! Wish we had!
Congratulations 🎉

Congratulations OP. My advice is - do what you want, how you want, with who you want, when you want. You can't and you won't please anyone so just please yourselves.

www.rocknrollbride.com/2021/05/i-said-good-day-sir-how-to-avoid-wedding-advice-that-you-did-not-ask-for/

this.

and congratulations 🥳

Don't have a big wedding - small weddings are always the best. You'll be so happy you did.

I organized my own wedding in 4 weeks, registry office, nice lunch. No fuss, no interference.

We got engaged, no fuss, just a ring and a promise. Then, two years later, flew off on a holiday, telling only the parents our intention, got married for $100 at the Civic Hall in Florida (no need for witnesses or anything else or even an appointment), had a great holiday and came back to no drama, no debt and job done! Could not be doing with drama and debt.

Sounds awful! This is why we got married at a registry office with only 2 witnesses.

This says it all 👆🏻

This is outrageous! That little girl should have been firmly told by her parents that the bride and groom make the decisions, choose those involved and then invite/request participation and that it is rude to ask. Fair enough she’s only 10 and asked in innocence but you could hardly say yes to her on the spot not knowing what kind of wedding ye wanted and then letting her down afterwards so you did the right thing with your response as you could make her no promises.

Congratulations OP! 🥂💍
This is exactly why we’re eloping in March, just us - having nice wedding outfits and a good photographer. Nothing to do with expense really but the thought of spending thousands of my hard earned on folk I don’t really care hugely for does go through me a little. I want a marriage not a wedding. Hope you manage to reign them in and do it your way x

Congratulations to the love birds! ❤️

So sad to hear that the bubble has been burst for you, especially over such petty things. Everyone wants to be involved and get a share of the excitement but unfortunately that takes away the enjoyment for the people who should be enjoying it the most, the bride & groom.
another poster advised you stop sharing so much… hard but true. Keep ideas to yourself until they’re booked and even then there’s no need for anyone to know all the details of the day, keep a few surprises. It should be the wedding of your dreams, everyone else already had their wedding day. Make up your own minds what you guys want and then stay firm to that. Best of luck x

Elope x

Tell your family and friends exactly what you put on your post. Tell them its going to be a small wedding and if the bickering continues you will be eloping and no one will come. It really is that simple.

YABVVVVVVVVVVVVVU to be going to try on dresses with no intention of buying. That quite literally costs wedding boutiques money and they are almost always small, independent businesses

Book an amazing holiday and simple simple simple wedding with just your fiancé and almost nobody else.

Use the holiday as inspiration to lose the weight you want to lose.

Job done.

Why put yourself through that stress?

Friend of mine literally just booked Gretna Green and buggared off with her fella and got married just the two of them.

And you know she looked so happy and content in her wedding pics!

OH finally proposed. Women in 2023 hanging on for some man to decide they are suitable to marry. Awful.

Congrats on finally being suitable for marriage.

Wow. Someone’s bitter

😂

Yes, I wonder if they’re single?

Oh huge congratulations to you - how lovely that he proposed, that's special.

You're getting married for exactly the right reasons, it's all about you and him, and your future together. Don't let others spoil your day with their wants and suggestions, do it the way you want, when you want - and enjoy every minute. You'll look amazing whatever you wear because you'll be glowing and happy - I've never seen an ugly bride, have you??
Good wishes to you both for a happy future together ❤

I did the MN unthinkable and eloped to Gretna Green. It was an absolute scream!

I was 9mo pregnant at the time and all the tourists wanted their photo with a pregnant bride.

Left the older kids with husband’s mum and dad and told no one. Text everyone our happy news while we dined on chips, iron bru and whiskey (for the husband). I wore green and carried dried flowers. Stayed in a posh hotel in Carlisle.

Brought everyone back a pack of biscuits from the gift shop. Nobody was upset in the end. I laughed the most I have ever laughed that day. It was so romantic. Wish I could live it again.

10/10 would recommend eloping.

Not read the entire thread, and have no advice to offer but sending you a hug and congratulations, I hope you can find some joy in the middle of this.

All these suggestions of eloping are unhelpful- that will obviously cause arguments and bad feeling too. OP can’t win here!

Yes they’ll cause one argument, planning the wedding is likely to cause months of arguments and stress, I know which I’d rather! And honestly if I was OP I’d cut a lot of these people out, life’s too short to deal with overbearing people with no boundaries.

"You've had your wedding day. This is ours and WE will do what makes US happy".

Or "When you have your wedding day you can have X. This is ours...etc".

Your wedding, you decide what you want. If you have lovely relationships with your family I'm sure you'll choose to include them in some planning/events. If you don't have that type of relationship then you really needn't/shouldn't involve them.