Entitled CFs at Christmas - stories please!

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I always love the CF threads on MN and thought I'd start one with a Christmas twist..not much to add myself but csn offer the story of my uncle, who never used to lift a finger at Christmas (Or any time) and expected all the women of the house to scurry round fetching him drinks and snacks, then would complain about whatever he was given, 'these mince pies have way too.much pastry' or similar. Even as a child I remember getting frustrated on my aunt's behalf!

Anyone got any stories to share?

We had a friend come over for NYE one year and she asked if she could bring a work friend and her husband, we didn't know them but thought that was fine, it was a nice evening. We put on dinner and nibbles, lots of wine and beers etc - they brought a bottle of vodka which they had a bit of but there was a lot left over. I tried to push it in their hands when they left but they wouldn't take it. Our friend turned up the next day to take said vodka as it was her friends so she wanted it !
This same (now ex) friend was the person when out for dinner with friends and we'd all pay our share and our tips, would take it all to the counter / or tell the waiter quietly, she'd pay what's left, so waiters never got a tip we'd all paid, and I'd seen her also pocket any tips left over ... she was a cheeky fucker friend!

Tell them, you assume that the Royal Mail strikes have meant the presents for the last 5 years to your child have gone missing, the same as this year with your presents their child

Just reply saying you assumed you weren’t doing gifts any more?

No where near as bad as these, but one that still winds me up is delaying pudding for a 3yo while his baby cousin was put to bed.
3yo was asking to play with toys I'm trying to entertain him at the table while unaware pudding was delayed for the baby.
Put me of doing dinner with them ever. Had similar issues when we attempted a short break together. Never again!

Well that's your own fault for not throwing him out after his first offence, frankly! Nobody would get away with ruining our Christmas!!!

BIL & SIL invited themselves, turned up three hours late empty handed (not even a selection box for the kids) and eventually explained that they were late because their child had spent the whole night throwing up, he spent the day lolling and occasionally going very green, they didn't know when it was time to go home and two days later wee were all throwing up!

Message back that their present is in the same place as your DC's...

Bloody hell that's awful! Bastards!

That’s so awful, I am shocked they didn’t get you anything and thought you’d enjoy watching others open their gifts! I always keep spare presents here in case extra guests arrive.

I hope your life is good now. Did you stay with that boyfriend long after that?

@Sugarfree23 yes I think he was embarrassed but he was so under the thumb did nothing.

For those asking I didn't stay with him for long after that.

New Year one.

I was 39 weeks pregnant with my eldest and H and I had settled down on new year’s day planning a quiet one, two plates of leftovers waiting to be reheated for our main meal (we had a roast on new year’s eve with my mum). At around 11am knock on the door and SURPRISE!! unexpected guests B & SIL who live around 3 hrs away with their two small kids and a load of second hand baby stuff. They stayed all day, expected to be waited on hand and foot with ongoing hot drinks, snacks etc. I made sandwiches for lunch and hoped they would clear off after a few hrs, but no they were expecting a full on new year’s day roast dinner before they left. I suggested the local pub, but they were only up for that if we paid for everyone since they were our guests and all (which we couldn’t afford).
What really pissed me off was they took over the sofa and armchairs leaving me with a hard dining room chair to sit on all day or the floor, and I had to walk to the local shop to buy more veg to make our leftover plates for two feed 6. Brother couldn’t run me to the shop in his car as they only had just enough petrol to get home apparently, and H was too much of a selfish twat to offer to go to the shop for me (we didn’t have a car then)- he volunteered to stay at home and keep on entertaining the guests, big man that he was letting his 9 month pregnant wife walk to the shop in the freezing cold and with ice on the ground.
Looking back I can’t believe how stupid I was, being guilt tripped about their kids being hungry, should have told them to feck off and find a mcdonald’s on their way home after a couple of hrs, I even ended up thanking them for the baby stuff as they left despite being really passed off at the time, and it took me 6 years and another child to fully realise what an inconsiderate arsehole I was married to, needless to say he is very much my ExH. I was young (22), naive and stupid.

have not yet decided how I will reply. Or at all. They have pushed me to my limits in the past year or so for various reasons (mainly being user fuckers). I genuinely feel completely disinterested. (Or perhaps a sense of slight interest to see if they do follow it up). I'm tempted to just laugh in their face tbh.

Not as bad as some.of the CFs on here but 36 years later it still rankles. Living in London in the 80s I met a Cockney guy ( he used to explain about every 5 minutes that he was born in the sound of the bow Bells etc) I fell quite heavily for him. he was divorced with young kids. I invited him to spend xmas with my family in a lively northern seaside town. He agreed ( probably because he hadn't had a better offer. We travelled by train on Xmas eve and stayed around 4 days . From the moment we stepped off the train he complained non stop (mainly muttering under his breath loud enough so I heard) what a back water he'd arrived in, as if he'd stepped.into a past century, ooh they don't do this in London etc etc. He criticised everything, even the ringtone of my parents landlines, which was one of the old dial phones, which, being mid 80s were pretty much the norm. I felt a little embarrassed because I had told all.my old friends how great he was and he came.across as a big mouth know it all who made it clear he wasn't happy up north ( he thought everyone was thick)
The relationship didn't last much longer after that, although it was him that ghosted me😉

I love a good CF thread. I just like the term CF.

Last year went away for a family New Year holiday. Paper thin walls. Next door CFs were out their tree, had a massive argument then acted like nothing happened. So I had to listen to why she had a funny face and why he was a dickhead.

Then.....they went through their entire bloody phone book phoning every fucker they knew shouting "happy new year, I fucking love you"

Then some cheeky sod opened our apartment door (my fault for leaving it unlocked) I just saw this hand come in. It was just a drunk holiday maker getting the wrong door. He is a CF because he was that drunk he did it again and I said something along the lines of, you fucking what? To which he said, oh shit, really sorry (slurred).
Happy New Year CF (under my breath).

Sister invited me to Boxing Day buffet.
Offered to bring some stuff.
No not needed
I reminded her I dont eat meat.
Yes thats fine she says.
I said well dont worry to much about me I am happy if there is a cheese sandwich.
Offered again day before,no its fine I have everything just bring yourself.

Buffet on table,I say what is ok for me to eat
Oh I didnt have time to faff I had allllllllllllll this to do.
Nothing for me so I said have you got bread and cheese and I will make myself a sandwich.No

Been NC for a few years

Currently I am a godmother and the parents send me a christmas list each year where the cheapest item on it was around £50. They however are also godparents to one of mine and have not sent him a present for the past 5 years at all. This year I just did not send one and received a text about an hour ago saying they 'assume' Rotal mail has not delivered it yet. I am sitting on my hands......

I'd be tempted to reply "I'm assuming it's lost where my DCs is - and where the ones you've sent the last 5 years ended up?"

Every single item on the table contained meat? That's quite an achievement and seems deliberate.

Not cheeky fucker but definitely creepy fucker.

One year I hosted a female relative wanted to bring her new 'friend' as he was going to be alone at Christmas.
Fine with me, I'm a 'more the merrier' type of person.

He's was a man in his 60's and for the entire dinner he stared and me and sister and I mean STARED.
As he made himself at home he started with the innuendos and sexual jokes.

He referenced that the turkey wasn't the only sexy bird in the room with beautiful breasts while looking me in the eyes!

He was vile but we did all find it funny, more because we couldn't believe someone could be like that.

We found out later he had a conviction for setting up spy cameras in toilets to film women which female relative said was all a misunderstanding. Hmm...

I keep forgetting I have one! I was 39 weeks pg with DC1 and in-laws had asked if we could host a family gathering after Christmas so we could get together with some relatives from overseas around 16 people in total. Our house was convenient location wise. Quote from MiL don’t worry, we’ll all help and clear up so you don’t have to. Famous last words…… We sorted out food, ended up serving, whilst both MiL, FiL and BiL sat on their backsides, the overseas guests helped more and one certainly looked like he was horrified that I was having to do so much when I should have had my feet up. FiL helped himself to my hidden bottle of nice non-alcoholic stuff that I thought I’d hidden and was saving. Overseas guests departed and non-immediate in-laws departed. Then despite the fact, there was washing up needing to be done, dishwasher loaded, tidying etc. in-laws announced they’d have a cup of tea and be off, we were so gobsmacked, we forgot to say something. I now put tea towels in people’s hands/hand out jobs - lesson learnt!

@icanwearwhatiwant ,it was definitley diliberate no doubt about that.
It would have been my punishment for something....could be anything from losing weight,her finding out I had been out with friends etc.

Very bitter,jealous, toxic person.
If I complement someone on their hair it would be seen as a slight....and she would be heard huffing and muttering

Not sure it's in the realms of CF but it's pissed me off and put a real dampener on the run up to Christmas.
We were due to have 4 family members for Christmas - 2 arriving Christmas eve, leaving on 27th (Couple A) & 2 coming for Christmas lunch and leaving early evening (Couple B).
On Monday Couple A cancelled their visit due to illness (admitted to hospital). To be honest I was relieved as it's never relaxing having them over the Christmas period (they have been staying for the past 7 years) and I was looking forward to a chilled Christmas morning with our children (& no passive aggressive comments about how may presents the children get - more than 2 each is excessive apparenly! etc).
I did all the food shopping on 22nd, bought a turkey, nibbles etc based on 6 people (us and Couple B). 10pm on 22nd I get a text from Couple A saying they were well enough to travel now and were coming. A phone call to ask would have been nice.
They couldn't understand when I got frustrated about their assumption and I tried to explain that I'd not bought enough food for 2 extra adults for 3 days, the extra cleaning (that I hadn't accounted for having to do), that I'd need to fit in another trip to the shops on Christmas Eve or having our plans for a relaxed Christmas period significantly changed.
Apparently I am the unreasonable one because I was looking forward to the first ever Christmas morning with it being just the 4 of us at home and that there's no difference between having 2 people for a few hours on Christmas day and having 2 people to stay for 3 days taking over the entire Christmas period. FFS!
Perhaps I'm the CF (although DH doesn't think I am) for not just throwing open our doors and welcoming family but as of this moment I'm still quietly seething!

Not Christmas CFery but similar. A few times this year, I've hosted get togethers because my house is in a central location for my friends.

Everyone turns up with wine and a little something like flowers which is lovely but not expected.

On each occasion, one particular 'friend' turns up empty handed with the exception of a tupperware box. She waits until everyone has left and I've cleared up and then I find her in my fridge, loading up the box with leftovers. The last straw was firework night when I called her out on it. She said they were just leftovers and she planned to use them for her lunches during the week. 'I'll take a couple of those bottles of wine, too' she said. I laughed, gently took her arm and said she certainly wouldn't and guided her out of the front door!

She's far from hard up, too!

First time they came to us PIL insisted on Christmas Eve no one open presents until he was up. Stays in bed until 9.30 despite noisy DC who had been clamouring to open gifts since 6 - THEN GETS UP AND ASKS ME TO MAKE HIM A BACON SANDWICH

Going to my MILs. She was hosting us and it was my first Christmas away from home.

She had not bothered to clean or tidy - I hadn't really been there before so didn't know how filthy and chaotic her house was or how utterly terrible she is at sorting anything out for guests.

Cat shit everywhere. So our first job was to pick up all the cat turds and clean the floor. One of her cats was fed in the bath so I couldn't have a shower as it was the cat's tea time.

Had to sleep in a makeshift bed - fine. But it turned out to be some quilts draped over cardboard boxes so that it just looked like a bed. The quilts were thin and we were so cold that we slept under our coats.

She had invited friends without telling us so we had no gifts for them but they had brought gifts for us.

She only has one small sofa which is where she sits with the dog and so I spent all Christmas perched on a dining chair.

We were not allowed to put the TV on all day. And then when we did, she had to choose and she chose Casualty.

I was so glad to leave and have never stayed at her house since. We sometimes stay in an AirBnB round the corner and her house and hosting is still the same 15 years later. She complains endlessly that we don't visit.

OldTinHat

Everyone turns up with wine and a little something like flowers which is lovely but not expected.

That sounds like my SiL. I'm more or less NC now.

She'd invite us over, then send me to spend £30 on the food. She'd say, "Oh and you can go and buy a bottle of Such And Such wine," the co-opt me into helping to cook. She'd come to ours, no wine, leave the kids to run riot etc and have a go at me for not letting them into the compute room and wreck my books, CDs, camera etc.

One time swoon! she turned up with a bottle of wine! She drank two of ours and was fucking mortal. As she was leaving, she tried to take the one she'd brought and started a massive row, she said, "But you haven't drunk it!"