Coke on nights out

[Mewme]

I don't know if my life has been a bit sheltered but is it quite common for people to have coke on nights out/house parties?

They're all in their 40's, successful, have dc etc.

I'm quite shocked tbh, I thought it wouldn't be a thing anymore and it's tainted what was a good night up to the point I realised what most were disappearing off to do. I don't want to be around it.

My thoughts are possibly clouded due to a family member who had a drugs problem. Maybe it's not the massive deal, that I'm thinking it is.

Completely agree with this.

Also, to all the people saying ‘it’s only rife on mumsnet’. That’s because it’s an anonymous forum, so people can speak more freely on here than in real life.

I have never knowingly been with anyone who has ever done it

I've missed two weddings this year that DH has gone to by himself (I had Covid for both). He came home both times and told me that I would have hated them because people were constantly disappearing into the toilets to do coke. Thankfully these are people from DH's work, not our group of friends, so we don't have to see them regularly on a social basis. They are all youngish people, 30s - mid 40s.

There are many social circles where it is prevalent across the U.K.

I don’t take drugs and started my career with a company who would drug test frequently so I’ve been very clear that I won’t be around it.

when I was single in my early 30s and came back to London, I said I wanted a guy who didn’t smoke weed or take coke and my friends told me I was very unlikely to find someone. 😂😂😂

DH’s old social circle meet up once a year and they all have coke on them. DH says they are subtle about it.

I’m yet to meet someone on coke who is subtle.

As someone who partook recreationally a lot in my 20s, there is something sad/pathetic/desperately clinging to long-past youth about 40+ somethings taking it on a night out. It’s all just a bit embarrassing, really.

I also thought this read was about fizzy drink!

No one I know does it, but I don’t move in high professional London circles. I’d be shocked if a friend did it and probably wouldn’t have anything to do with them.

@Mewme well none of my friends do it and if I met someone who did they wouldn’t be my friend for much longer. Deal breaker for me

I know some people who do it, but not my immediate/ close friends. It makes them really hyper and annoying to be around. They think they're the life and soul and entertaining everyone but they're just irritating.

I keep my distance and wouldn't be friends with someone who does it regularly, partly because of that and partly because of all the horrible issues surrounding it like county lines, trafficking and exploitation.

The reason I have a 'moral high ground' about drugs and not alcohol is around the trafficking and exploitation of vulnerable people including children.

If it were legal I might feel differently, but the illegality of it causes many problems and I just don't know how anyone can feel OK about their money supporting this.

This!

I was never interested in any drugs when younger (or now). None of my friends talk about drug use, except from the past (we're 40s/50s).

Part of the safeguarding training for work is about county lines. If that doesn't put people off, it bloody well should.

Aquamarine1029 · Yesterday 19:50
I wouldn't spend time with people who do coke. Total deal breaker for me“

This.

It isn't normal amongst my friends. Don't know anyone who does it, certainly not on nights out or at house parties we go to.

We know one couple where the man smokes weed if he dies to a festival but that's his limit. His wife doesn't like him doing that and it's reduced a lot apparently.

We are late 40s with friends mainly in their 40/50s. Mainly fairly well off, 'middle
Class' types.

I assumed Dh might know people due to the type of work he does but he says not. Says it just isn't happening with the people he knows. Alcohol is the 'drug' of choice in an evening out.

It genuinely isn't the norm everywhere.

It's rife on Mumsnet because Mumsnet has an unusually concentrated demographic of middle class people in big, fancy jobs, or whose husbands or friends are in those jobs.

It's definitely not the MC crowd doing it round here. It's the youth. Working class youth. If we're doing classes!

Common in some circles in London but not acceptable as far as I am concerned.

I would avoid these people like the plague.

In their 40s/50s they should know better. I would be more understanding if it was young people experimenting while clubbing but it becomes pathetic and dodgy to still be taking drugs when you are that age.

Yep it's all sorts that do not just those in high paying professional city jobs.

How do they afford it?

I've never done coke. Didn't know anyone who did in my circle years ago (or even now). My DH told me people our age do it on nights out and I was shocked.

Slightly off topic (or drug type) but when we were at uni some did Ecstasy (Manchester). My cousin once gave me half an E when I was 19.

We had a massive argument because I wouldn't take a full one and got called a pussy.

I very stupidly took half (even at that age I was undereducated about it and never had seen anyone talk about it in my friendship group) and actually thought I was going to die. I think I would have if had been a full one.

Once took a drag of weed at a neighbour's and vomited after. I don't dabble, it obviously not for me. I'm not interested too. Peer pressure is a bitch. Now I do my own thing, stay in and read a book, it's easier and safer!

I’d hate it.

I don’t knowingly know anyone. I’d probably be surprised. Not my scene at all.

And I find it disgusting if it’s people with kids who sit there pretending like it’s nothing.

How is it obvious?

Reasonably common amongst people I know - mostly professionals, mostly middle class.

Very common here. I probably know more people who do it openly than those who don't! Very much not middle class.