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Coke on nights out

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Mewme · 11/12/2022 19:47

I don't know if my life has been a bit sheltered but is it quite common for people to have coke on nights out/house parties?

They're all in their 40's, successful, have dc etc.

I'm quite shocked tbh, I thought it wouldn't be a thing anymore and it's tainted what was a good night up to the point I realised what most were disappearing off to do. I don't want to be around it.

My thoughts are possibly clouded due to a family member who had a drugs problem. Maybe it's not the massive deal, that I'm thinking it is.

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RampantIvy · 11/12/2022 20:41

And when people say none of their friends/people they associate do it - well I'd say that's being naive.

I disagree. It is something I have talked about with my friends. I don’t know anyone who does coke or who has admitted to doing it. Mind you, our social life revolves around having dinner with friends or going to the local pub. We don’t go to parties, clubs or other crowded and lively places.

I find it depressing that some people insist that everyone does it. They need better friends. You will get a lot of “cool” mumsnetters who say that everyone is doing it, but it will only be because they associate with people who do. As far as I know none of my workmates indulge either, but I don’t work in the kind of industry where it is commonplace. Our drug of choice is alcohol.

DD is 22 and has just finished university. She knows people who do weed, but not coke.

Personally I think it's a bit pathetic when proper adults with jobs and kids and responsibilities take recreational drugs. Time to grow up really

I agree.

PauliesWalnuts · 11/12/2022 20:42

I saw it a lot when I worked in the media in London, but have never touched it. Being cornered in a bar by someone off their tits on coke isn’t fun - they just turn into dickheads.
My friends at home haven’t used it - we were always the goody two shoes at school. I’ve never seen the appeal of snorting something up my nose - it makes me feel a bit sick thinking about it. Twice in the past year I’ve got on off-peak intercity trains and seen early teenaged kids travelling and am fairly certain they are couriering something illegal. The last time the BT police got on due to a disturbance down the train and the little lad nearly wet himself.

pigonalipstick · 11/12/2022 20:42

roarfeckingroarr · 11/12/2022 19:51

It's common, yes. More so in some places than others. In London, especially nice bits, it's everywhere.

See I disagree. Only on mumsnet does it seem to be rife! I'm mid 30s professional in a 'naice' part of London and only know a few who do it, when they party. But they've no kids and aren't super settled

Mañanarama · 11/12/2022 20:43

FfeminyddCymraeg · 11/12/2022 20:34

Meh, I wouldn’t bat an eyelid. Most older professionals I know do it and (imo) it’s one of the less offensive drugs I’ve been around.

Exactly. I’d rather be around someone who’s had a line or two, than someone who’s completely shitfaced on alcohol and a total liability.

OddBoots · 11/12/2022 20:45

I work in a role that deals with the human cost of the drug trade so I would be very surprised if anyone at work took it. I don't think others I socialise with would either but it is possible they are just discrete in front of me.

maddy68 · 11/12/2022 20:45

The majority of my friends and collegues all take coke recreationally.

It's very very common. Personally I don't get it. I have tried it. Doesn't do anything for me except sober me up so a massive waste imho

Benjispruce4 · 11/12/2022 20:47

I wouldn’t take it because it feeds the exploitation that exists in the drug trade.

maddy68 · 11/12/2022 20:47

RiverSkater · 11/12/2022 20:25

That is so sad, wasn't the joy of the reunion enough??

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Do you feel the same about them drinking alcohol?

RampantIvy · 11/12/2022 20:49

Only on mumsnet does it seem to be rife!

I get that impression as well.

What sort of places and workplaces are people in where it is rife?

UnshakenNeedsStirring · 11/12/2022 20:52

I dont, but know of friends do. All in 40s and 50s SE london

Survey99 · 11/12/2022 20:54

All cocaine users are dicks and best avoided. Ime and my social and family circle it is neither normal nor condoned.

Anyone who is a drug user in a job where other people lives are in anyway at risk better keep their drug usage from me as I would report them in a heartbeat. That includes anyone in any healthcare role, driving jobs, heavy machinery, emergency services, etc etc. Anyone regularly using cocaine and continuing to drive would also be reported.

Bing4859 · 11/12/2022 20:56

I know lots of people who do but it’s tapered off since kids and many moving out of London. I think lots of people are unaware of how common it is because if you’re not looking out for it you wouldn’t see it. I did it in my 20s but the thought of it now makes me shudder.

Anothernamechange1010 · 11/12/2022 20:56

Nope, it's a BIG.FAT.NO from me.

I couldn't / wouldn't be around it, seen it, heard it, fallen out big time with a family member over their use of it.

If you don't like my views on it then either stay away from me full stop or don't do it / talk about it in front of me.

I always thought I wasn't good with boundaries, until coke.

Oh and for the PP that compared it to drinking alcohol - grow up and stop trying to defend / justify your coke habit.

RampantIvy · 11/12/2022 20:58

I think lots of people are unaware of how common it is because if you’re not looking out for it you wouldn’t see it.

Or perhaps they just don't do it?

I hate it when people who do coke and know people who do tar everyone with the same brush.

SheldonsShoulder · 11/12/2022 20:59

None of my close friends use it and those I’ve known who do have all been ego maniac assholes. There’s a tragic human cost to the production and sale of cocaine that users ignore.

Bing4859 · 11/12/2022 21:01

@RampantIvy I don’t do it though. I just remember how genuinely shocked a friend was when he found out people at our work did it when it was clearly rife

WeightoftheWorld · 11/12/2022 21:03

I'm only in my 20s but have always had fairly 'sensible' friends hah, I can only think of one night out I went on when it was freely around and being used a few yrs ago in the circle we were in. And that wasn't even my friends mostly, DH and I were staying with a couple we are friends with, so it was them and their crowd. DH and I didn't partake, didn't want to and felt uncomfortable and made excuses to go back to friend's and go to bed soon after. Didn't enjoy the behaviour of them all once on it. It's not something that has ever appealed to me and no I wouldn't want to out socialising with people doing it.

MaryMollyPolly · 11/12/2022 21:07

I don’t know anyone who does, and I work in London in the media. Perhaps the occasional person 20-odd years ago. Now no one. But maybe I’m out of touch.

Pandor · 11/12/2022 21:09

I find it really odd that in 2022 the only legal ways people can experience mind altering effects in the UK are still pretty much limited to alcohol, nicotine and caffeine.

it seems a no brainer that there should be more options available - the demand is certainly there. It seems so odd that people attach morality to the act of ingesting substances, or the desire to experience altered states of mood and consciousness.

what we see instead is that desire being funnelled into purchasing those substances illicitly, funding crime. We need a far more grown up and nuanced attitude to the whole subject.

tunthebloodyalarmoff · 11/12/2022 21:11

It's absolutely rife these days. People from every walk of life

Twokidsanddone · 11/12/2022 21:13

Was really common among friends and colleagues in their early 20s. Far less common in people i know 40+. The only people I knew in that age bracket doing it were the ones who never really grew up and still drank with people in their 20s.

blueflagflyhigh · 11/12/2022 21:22

I wouldn't want to be around that either. Not my thing I'm very anti drugs. I just don't get it.

A couple of years ago near where I live girl in her early 20's went on first night out after having a baby. Baby was a few months old. She took cocaine and died. How bloody tragic. You don't know what ur taking! Turns out what she was given was pure.

elevenplusdilemma · 11/12/2022 21:26

Dramaalpacas · 11/12/2022 20:30

Did anyone else think this was a thread about fizzy drinks?! No? Anyway.. I guess that shows how foreign it is to be that people I know would do it. Get some new friends.

Yes me. I almost commented about how I only have coke if I'm driving Blush so am grateful I stopped and read the post first Grin

Squeakyegg22 · 11/12/2022 21:35

If you're very openly anti drugs, people who do drugs are not going to do it in front of you. They'd do it with their other mates, or keep it under wraps. Maybe you'd know if your close mates did it or not but how on earth would you know about your colleagues? Or acquaintances? I don't know what my siblings get up to on nights out either. I don't do coke (anymore - I've done it when a youngster) but I don't get this moral high ground with it. I've had far worse times on alcohol and know more people with alcohol issues.

tobee · 11/12/2022 21:40

I'd say probably not much amongst my friends but plenty in my Dh line of work (forgive the pun) and my dsis and dbil.

I'm quite risk averse generally. Maybe this makes me sound a wanker but I've always prided myself in not being one to feel the need to follow the crowd on this sort of thing. The kind of "chill out, unclench, everyone is doing it!" To me it strikes me as trying to show your sophistication that makes you like rather childish.

The few occasions when I've found it people I know indulge I'm almost surprised by my how I'm disappointed in them.

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