Petty things that annoy you on Mumsnet.

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What little things on MN annoy you more than they should?

People responding to others on a thread but not quoting them so I have to scroll back pages and hunt for the comment that they were responding to.

People referring to 3 and 4 year olds as toddlers.

If someone's posts annoy me and their name involves something that I love, then that bothers me even more.

The one poster who always responds to a "What's your favourite episode of a show? or What's your favourite dish from the Chinese takeaway?or similar threads by informing us how much they hate takeaways or wouldn't watch said show if they had a gun held to their head.

The phrase "Give your head a wobble." It's utterly infuriating.

I sometimes find the paragraph spacing doesn't work even though I put it in. I don't know what causes that.

You did say you wanted petty…

The word ‘outwith’.

The baby name ‘Maeve’. It seems to make its way onto most baby name threads as a suggestion, regardless of how appropriate it is. Someone could ask for a three syllable boys’ name with a botanical theme and someone would pop up with ‘Maeve’.

‘You sound unhinged’

seems to be the new put down

Mine is people using threads about petty/irrational/pet peeves to air grievous complaints.

There's never once been such a thread to my knowledge which hasn't started off with minor quibbles about 'hollibobs' or the way the lady on The One Show looks up when she says 'good evening' then very quickly become about abusive SILs, Tories and breast feeding.

Massive drip feeds that change the whole context

Yes it’s the new “are you on glue”

Click bait titles.
'Would it annoy you if your boss...'
'Can I eat pickles with this'

Sure, sometimes a situation is too complicated to put into a title but usually these things are straightforward and could have gone into the title. I very rarely will click on such a thread especially if it is in chat or aibu.

3yos are toddlers aren’t they? I thought 0-1 was baby, 1-3 toddler and 3+ preschooler/infant.

here’s what annoys me:

1. ’SEX not GENDER’ yes but ffs nobody wants to say ‘sex reveal party’
2. When somebody doesn’t like your posts but can’t work out why so does some ludicrous extrapolation or jumps on some minor word play and says ‘ooooh that’s very telling’. Is it really mystic Meg 🙄
3. When an OP dodges and dives answering a question about their AIBU that would clearly make or break it for them (presumably break). Usually how old their kid is or whether they work or not.
4. Posters that trawl through your old posts to discredit you. Not just to point out discrepancies but to bring up completely unrelated things to ‘smear’ you or ‘prove’ you’re not worthy of being listened to.
5. Its absolutely fine on here to say you would’ve hated being a young mum for X and Y reasons, but you dare say the same about older mums and you’ll be absolutely slaughtered. Lot of projection there

Putting down a perfectly reasonable, measured OP who’s offering normal responses with “Are you always this anxious?”

I actually enjoy the AIBU battle axes who refuse to ever concede they are being U and will hinge their whole argument on a 1% YANBU vote or one “can see both sides” comment: I admire the doubling down, the stubbornness, the sheer grit and determination to be a cunt. Inject that energy into my veins!

Ages in months after 1yo.

Quoting the OP's first lengthy post. Stop it.

"He's a great dad" after a lengthy description of how he's been banging his coworker, stolen from the work's charity fund, had never changed a nappy in his life and didn't know which nursery his kids when to so couldn't collect them after you'd been seriously injured in a car crash. That is not a "great dad".

Also, the abundant use of ‘grim’.

People who pull posters up on their spelling or grammar.
Classist, ableist bullshit.

People who go on to threads they don't agree with simply to say so.

eg
OP
Does any one know any good crochet patterns for xmas decorations.

Answer
Why do you do crochet - it's a stupid hobby.

People who are so so obviously raising grade a brats.
Eg.
torquin is 9 and won't sleep in his own room & throws a tantrum if he doesn't like his presents.

The very sentence "gentle parenting"

Almost every mum I've ever met tries to be gentle & if they are not it's down to bloody good reason.

Oh and my favourite pet gate.

People who say their child is 26 months or 36 months - aaaaargh stop infantilising your child.

They are 2 and a bit or 3

They are not babies and the three year old is even past toddler stage. Why why why

If you want a baby so much, have another.

Anyone using the words mansplaining, manspreading, norks, naice or using the phrases, ‘boils my piss’ or the absolutely dreadful ‘This to shall pass’!

I also can’t stand any of the abbreviations DH, DM, DS etc

This new 'trend' of finding the OP to always be in the wrong, regardless of what they've posted regarding and even if they've not posted in AIBU! These fault finders will pick apart every word & subtext of anything the OP says and the tiniest thing they could've got wrong and BAM! MN court is in session & the cross examination begins. It's bullying and MNHQ need to be doing more to stop it.

See also (as mentioned by PP upthread) the condemnation of anyone who dares to have an opposing opinion to the majority, regardless of how politely & constructively they say it

Outwith is a perfectly legitimate Scottish word.

Alot, abit, beable...

Vile, grim and everyone screams, no one shouts any more.

People who pull posters up on their spelling or grammar.Classist, ableist bullshit.

it’s a bit unnecessary and snide but classist and ableist, really?!

The word ‘outwith’.

That's a perfectly normal word in Scotland - they aren't saying it to be quirky.

I also hate it when people labour on with 'they' when referring to a known person without any kind of gender/trans/preferred pronoun issues - just a completely 'standard' man or woman but still a 'they'. I think people sometimes do it to counteract the perceived MN 'women always right/men always wrong' trope; but it kind of gives it away that, by your doing it, the sexes are clearly going to be not the way people will probably assume.

I'm very much in agreement re the people claiming 'no interest' in a topic who nevertheless don't just click on it (when the title is clear) but actually go to the trouble of commenting. 99.99999999999% of the people in the world won't comment on any particular MN thread, so the fact that you are one of the tiny minority who have does kind of suggest a certain level of interest!

X-posted with Trez1510 there.

Also, thread police who will 'inform' you that you could have just got the answer you're after by simply Googling. Some people want human interaction and are seeking experiences, opinions and suggestions rather than just pure, cold facts.

People who make an AIBU thread that has no question or anything to do with being unreasonable or not, but are posting there "for traffic".
People who make an AIBU thread where it's obvious there's only one appropriate answer, like "AIBU to think this nasty abusive house guest who trashed my house, is in the wrong?".

Posters who can't even be bothered to read the OP and just respond to the title and ask questions that are right there in the OP or suggest things that the OP says they have already tried or can't do.

Posters who reply with a suggestion of what the OP can say/email/write by writing out an exact email in their own words (always awful):
"Oh OP, what you should do is write the CF who STILL hasn't paid you the money she owes an email saying:
'Dear friend, how are you? Are you almost ready for Christmas yet? Hasn't the weather got cold? I was just saying to Mabel about how expensive turkeys are this year and it reminded me that I don't think I got the money that you owed me for the holiday that I booked for us last year? I might be wrong, so let me know if you did pay me, but I've checked and can't see it at all. Sorry for bothering you, but if you could even just give me a little bit of it now, as I know times are hard that would be great. Anyway, if I don't see you before, I'll probably see you in the Dog and Duck at some point over Christmas - hopefully old Fred will behave himself lol. Take care. Sorry again for mentioning the money. Sorry. "

@Bubl

The word ‘outwith’.

What on earth is wrong with it?