Petty things that annoy you on Mumsnet.

[PettyAndIKnowIt]

What little things on MN annoy you more than they should?

People responding to others on a thread but not quoting them so I have to scroll back pages and hunt for the comment that they were responding to.

People referring to 3 and 4 year olds as toddlers.

If someone's posts annoy me and their name involves something that I love, then that bothers me even more.

The one poster who always responds to a "What's your favourite episode of a show? or What's your favourite dish from the Chinese takeaway?or similar threads by informing us how much they hate takeaways or wouldn't watch said show if they had a gun held to their head.

The phrase "Give your head a wobble." It's utterly infuriating.

People who think they're clever by being snarky about SpaG.
Though, in fairness to the twats who do it, that's not petty, it's pathetic.

People not knowing how to use commas.

OPs who start a thread about something trivial and it turns out the actual issue is that they/their kid is being abused, but just get replies about the trivial thing.

‘Every.single.time’-about the cringiest retort

Mortifying ‘comeback’ suggestions.

Oh dear. I always thought babies became toddlers when they were able to, well, toddle. So mine were 18m and 14m when they became toddlers.

Really vague subject lines annoy me, like "Is it really bad to do this?" or "AIBU to think this is unfair?" As if people have nothing better to do than to click on them all for the big reveal!

Who makes the rules on this stuff?

I was taught this when studying child development and 12 months-36 months is the most common definition, at least in the U.K.

People proclaiming you a troll or goady if you have a different opinion to the main of the thread.

No I am not a troll no I'm not being goady I just happen to have a different opinion to you on this subject. Agree to disagree. We won't always agree.

The amount of LTB that are stated I wonder often how the relationship that poster is in. My dp ate all the cheese and left none for me LTB. Err no talk agree he goes to pick up more. You know communicate like adults.

People assuming that England represents the whole of the UK

Where I am from preschoolers are 4, to me a toddler is about 18months or when 'toddling' as in walking then till 4ish I guess

Eve then I probably would think twice I'd someone even referred to a 4yo toddler really

I didn't there was a set in stone definition

Well I don't know about yours but MY three year old is a toddler, this is the hill that I will die on. Let me have a toddler for another few months at least!

To avoid doing the "derailing thread by picking up on small detail and fighting over it instead of answering the question" bug bear - people who passive aggressively pretend to be asking for clarification while actually berating the OP, e.g. "and what did he say when you told him it was unacceptable and broke up with him?" When it's obvious that the OP hasn't broken up with him. Also the LTB crowd who act like they don't understand that it can be emotionally and financially difficult to leave the father of your children. So many blasé 'just LTB, you'll be happier, he probs won't want the kids full time anyway' as if it were easy to not see your children for half the week or to land your kids with an every other weekend dad! Sometimes it seems that they're trying to validate their own choices by making it seem like a brilliant option.

I really don't like the use of the 'D' before referring to husband, child, parents etc - I have no idea where that came from or why it's universally used but I can't help but roll my eyes when I see it, which is pretty much constantly on here!

I know that I've done it myself in the past and internally cringe as I'm doing it.

When the OP's child/husband/sibling etc does one thing slightly out of the ordinary and majority of the replies immediately ask if there's any ADHD/ASD etc

I don't like it when immediately a bully or troll type jumps on a post, and then a lot of sheep support them. Its awful to see grown women behave like the nasty girls in the playground. And very often when the OP has real need of support.

Especially when you consider what AutoCorrect does with that kind of reply! The poster must be there forever changing dog to ddog.

In a thesis, essay, novel, at school or any 'offical' setting I get being anal about grammar or spelling

On a forum I don't care

And the word anal annoys me but seems fitting

Another. People who post one question but really ask a very different one e.g I want something to watch What's your favourite film? People respond with their favourite films but the OP dismisses all of the suggestions and eventually reveal that they're only interested in New Wave films starring John Malkovich where he plays an Argentinian postman with arthritis and a Oedipus complex.

Sometimes the spellibg/grammar police is just plain bullying of posters with dyslexia. Spellcheck doesn't pick up when you swap words that look similar.

Posters that when responding to a problem type out a whole reply for the OP to use word for word, as if they were going to send it/say it.

Faux naivety (like the specsavers autistic child one where 90% of posters didn't know hand gestures exist alongside verbal communication). And zero reading comprehension when on the attack (recent royal mail thread comes to mind).

Oh and calling everything that isn't being a doormat controlling. You always do the weekly shop? Are you always so controlling? You got angry when DH threw your jewellery away by mistake? No wonder he lies to you, so controlling 🙄

Ohhh and the irony of calling everyone batshit crazy and then virtue signalling about mental health. Because batshit crazy is okay but loony, mad, crazy (without the batshit), etc. are all slurs.

Shouldn't have got me started 😅

The “D” abbreviations irritate me because in my head I still say “darling”[* inserts appropriate relationship word] so I annoy myself 😂

Referring to kids’ ages in months after they are 1 year old 🥴

The answer to every relationship issue is not LTB 🙄

People who don't read anything apart from the opening post and never check for any updates from the OP.

I'd say "always" tbh.
MN are good at deleting them though. And, as you can see from PP, they aren't ever nearly as clever as they think. Criticising not knowing how to use an apostrophe while not knowing how to use a comma yourself is hilarious.

I get annoyed by the constant moralising and sanctimony about things that aren't moral issues, and the obsession with class. And the overuse of "vile" and "grim", but I guess that's because the average user favours 90s terms.

I also dislike how quick some posters are to call other posters cunts. I don't need my smelling salts or anything, but I do think it's a particularly offensive word - presumably they do, too - and I don't think it's warranted for something like a difference of opinion over gardening or reclining your plane seat. I always report it when I see that. I report name calling anyway, but it's funny how infrequently "cunt" is used for truly awful stuff, yet how often for petty crap.

I'm on a roll

People who feel they have to state they've name changed and mention old posts to prove how long they've been around. Not to avoid being thought of as a troll, but because they think there's some sort of mumsnet hierarchy based on length of service 😂

People who passively aggressively change someone's comment to make it mean something different but more palatable to them, then add, There, I fixed it for you.

People saying 'just leave' a marriage with kids, and 'haven't you got a friend you can stay with?'
Then there will be a thread saying 'my friend has been here 2 weeks with her kids and she's getting on my nerves...'