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Desparately need advice on a sad situation and not sure where to turn. Will my 17 yr old niece be able to stay in the council flat if her mum passes away?

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Janieread · 26/11/2022 13:46

My dsis had a liver transplant last week (many years of alcoholism), sadly despite initially going well she has internal bleeding and has gone back into surgery. The surgeons were very bleak about her chances of even making it through the difficult and complicated surgery, as she is now extremely poorly.

I am currently staying in her flat to support my 17 year old niece. Her dad isn't on the scene. The flat is about 150 miles away from my own home - I have three children and am married, my fil sadly died a month ago.

What will happen to my niece if my dsis dies? She is currently at art college which she loves. She can of course come and live with me, but we live very rurally with no art college near by. She's currently in a city which she loves as she exists solely on takeaways - no delieveroo near us! Can she stay in her council flat if my dsis passes away? Then I could come up for part of each week.

I know if she passes we'll be almost too devastated to care, but I'm trying to work out what to do before the worst. I have contacted my dneices dad but he wasn't interested.

Any advice or kind words appreciated!

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RosettaStormer · 27/11/2022 16:29

Paq · 27/11/2022 00:10

It sounds like the opposite is true, superficial self sufficiency but no real resilience or coping skills.

Exactly.

Janieread · 27/11/2022 19:05

Hi. Not much change from yesterday so i suppose no change either way is positive.

D niece's dad has flown over and she's out with him and her cousin at the moment which if my dsis knew would be livid about, but if she should not come through this then they need to build a bridge.

I've eaten a whole 4 pack of M and S blackcurrant sundaes. That's allowed under the circumstances isn't it??

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Noonesperfect · 27/11/2022 19:24

Janieread · 27/11/2022 19:05

Hi. Not much change from yesterday so i suppose no change either way is positive.

D niece's dad has flown over and she's out with him and her cousin at the moment which if my dsis knew would be livid about, but if she should not come through this then they need to build a bridge.

I've eaten a whole 4 pack of M and S blackcurrant sundaes. That's allowed under the circumstances isn't it??

Most definitely allowed in these circumstances 🙂

Swiminanglesey · 09/12/2022 12:50

Hope it’s all ok @Janieread

Janieread · 09/12/2022 16:39

Thank you. She pulled through thank goodness, but is still in intensive care with various problems. It's been very tough.

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LadyEloise1 · 09/12/2022 17:57

@Janieread
I'm glad she pulled through.
Have you come to any decision ?
You seem to be a lovely aunt.

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