I guess this is another mental load one, but it's really getting to me lately that DH never uses his initiative with anything!
I asked him to make sure he had a decent suit to wear for a funeral, as he doesn't wear suits often and I couldn't remember what it was like. Said he'd done it, then the night before the funeral he decides to look for a shirt and tie and realises he doesn't have a decent white shirt. Didn't think to look for a shirt at the same time as looking at the suit. And if I hadn't said to him about the suit, he wouldn't have thought to check it out in the first place and could well have realised the night before the funeral he didn't have anything appropriate to wear.
Child was sick, he didn't think about the fact they may well not be able to go to school the next day and how we might manage that if we're both meant to be working.
I am just mentally exhausted. I feel like I have to think about everything, including things that a person should naturally just sort out themselves without being told what to do, like sorting out what they're going to wear to a funeral.
I was actually just thinking tonight, do some husband's just start up a conversation like,..... Is DD taking packed lunches or school dinners tomorrow, and if it's packed lunches what food do we have in the house or do we need to go to the shop? Because that would never happen in my house, I would be totally astonished if those words were to come out of DH's mouth.