How independent are you?

[Alwaysonyonsn]

Could you (for example)

• Live by yourself?
• Travel alone?
• Drive a long distance?

Or are you very reliant on your partner?

Why would you be relient on a partner for any of those things? They're quite basic life skills for an adult.

Completely off topic, but I got a surprise to see your username, as one of my many previous usernames was NurseBernard. Love her!

Very.

-Yes
-Have done
-Have done

I once, whilst married, went on a 3 month work secondment overseas. It was a great test of my independence, living alone in a hotel suite, with no friends or family, havingbto occupy myself during evenings and weekends! I got on absolutely fine, although was very happy to come home.

"How independent are you?"

How very patronising. Fancy asking a bunch of grown-ups that question.

These are just things I’d expect any adult (bar any disabilities) to be able to do. Except driving, as a non driver (failed 5 times and couldn’t afford to keep learning, now live in London) I don’t see not driving as a lack of independence providing the person doesn’t expect lifts. Neither my partner or I drive but as I said we live in London so it’s not an issue and many other people we know don’t drive.

Have lived alone for four years now and I’m in no hurry to move my partner in. In fact I was quite happy being single, I met him by chance after I decided to delete all dating apps! Likewise travelling alone, have done it many times and would do it again if I fancied.

I'm disabled and use walking aids or a wheelchair so I'd really struggle to live alone. If I need to get a train, I have to book someone to help at either end with luggage & boarding/alighting.
I can drive but find it very painful so don't drive very far.
As my health has got worse, I've definitely much of my independence.

Very independent.
It's a life thing.. if you don't get offered help or you get let down, you become quite fierce about NEVER asking for help.

@OohMrBingley I too love Nursie Bernard and I'm also a nurse so it seemed fitting!

I moved out of home from 20 and didn’t meat my now partner til ten years later so yes I’m very independent and can do anything by myself as needed

I'm in my early 60/s and could do all those things.

The driving certainly wouldn't be a problem as I do almost all of that anyway. I confess that I prefer to have a second person in the car when I'm driving abroad (especially somewhere where road signs aren't in English), but that's more for moral support than any practical reason.

What about you Alwaysonyonsn?

Could I, yes.
Have I, yes.
Would some of it it possibly take some recovery time? Maybe, depends very much on where I am with things when the need arose.
Would being somewhat reliant on my partner during said recovery time
significantly speed up my recovery? Yes, definitely.

What's your point OP?

Yes to them.all.they are not particularly challenging.Have lived alone years. When I have been in a relationship it has been.nice if my partner has taken responsibility for things I have traditionally done for myself