Thinks I only read about on MN

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I know this has been done a million times before, I think I may have even started a thread about it some time ago but I'm feeling irritable this morning so here we go;

"Put on your big girl pants" - I really truly fucking hate this saying. Does anyone else picture Bridget Jones with her big pants? It's such a stupid saying. Can you imagine anyone saying to a man "put on your big y-fronts"? No, of course not. It's utter meaningless. Just give whatever advice you are giving, if you have any, no need to preface it with stupid shit.

"He/She is an adult" - sometimes referring to an 18 year old (so just about, legally, an adult), sometimes referring to a person who is or may be upset by a situation. Surely we are all upset by things at times, not always reasonably but we are just human, most of us struggle at times, doesn't mean we are not adults.

"Man-child" - FFS, another daft one.

One that really and truly grates on me - "He/She is being manipulative" again referring to someone being upset by a person or situation. I have read this in relation to a parent being upset by their (adult) child moving overseas. In my world certainly, it would be acceptable for the parent to be upset, to cry even, at the loss of their child / grandchildren. Even to say "I wish you wouldn't go", it's not being manipulative, it's just being human.

"It makes my teeth itch" - it doesn't..

Also, and I know I'm a cow, but my inner response to many AIBU's is just "For fuck's sake, of course you are not being unreasonable, you know you're not. If you just want support or for people to agree with you then just say that."

There, that's helped. A little.

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I agree with the use of AIBU as vent for someone to moan about something slightly mean that someone has said or done and they are a bit upset about it.

'Just move house' if there are any dispues with neighbours

They may exist but people don’t trot out the phrases outside of Mumsnet.

I thought it was put on your big girl/boy pants as in knickers/underpants, i.e. when you’ve grown out of nappies!

Ah OK, fair enough

Nothing wrong with a good old moan.
I have those days too 😁

Oh, just shut up about your MASSIVE salads.

And all other food related batshittery where people fall over themselves to boast about their DCs prodigious fruit and veg consumption and how they've never been to McDonalds.

@EvilRingahBitch Your explanation made me laugh and I love your username!

Boundaries on which others trample

before the tedious pyschobabble speak this would be having standards

But people DO mention Red Brick and RG unis in real life. Definitely isn’t just a mumsnet thing

Your instead of you're. Primary school level mistake rarely seen outside of MN.

You’ve never been on Facebook then?

I was just going to say that. It is everywhere.

Of course people talk about groups of universities, and make spelling mistakes, outside of MN.

Further to the posts about LTBs - there is also ALWAYS one post that reads exactly like this: "have my first LTB"!

Agree it feels cultish

This weird obsession with class, to the point that everything in your life from where you worked in 1996 to which pot noodle colour is your favourite to which finger you use to pick your nose is a signifier of what class you are, and that every single person is obsessed with it to the point that colleagues will openly talk about how many sugars you have in your tea and how that makes you working class. In real life nobody I know says anything like that, and I couldn’t hazard a guess at how my colleagues (of any class) dry their clothes.

I find this really sad. That the GC stuff related to the erosion of women’s rights is simply seen by some as bitter and hawkish (did you mean mawkish?)

I find MN one of the only places where it seems safe to discuss the (very real) issues related to self-ID etc. I find it mind-boggling that anyone (not just women, men too) wouldn’t see this as a very real and potentially dangerous mindset that absolutely needs discussing openly and not shutting down. Especially in light of what’s happening in Scotland atm. Scary stuff.

It’s not scary as the Scottish decision isn’t about self iD which any trans person can do now they just say to doctor etc I am trans that’s self ID . The vote in cork and means they get a gender certificate quickly meaning that they can change passports and stuff so you gender criticals don’t really understand this do you? Also maybe some of us women like me don’t feel scared by trans people like you do

Dam can’t edit that meant to say the vote in scotland not cork wtf lol

If you really think this I feel sorry for you. You honestly don’t understand the ramifications of men being able to declare they are women and use women’s only spaces? Good grief.

Good for you if you’re not scared - you should be.

Then maybe you need to check your privilege? Easy to not be scared when you are not being personally affected. Pray that you will never have to share a prison cell with a man self identifying as a woman. Pray that you will never be a rape survivor being denied a woman only safe space in which to heal.

Sobbing and shaking because MIL took PFB to first Santa/ballet lesson/acid house party.

Nah not scared oh and yes trans women are women but there we go before you go oh she must be trans I am not but I think scotland looks a really progressive country now in the other hand me being English now in England with a gov that seems really nasty to trans and other minorities seems to me very backward.

Check m privilege fucking hell I am as poor as it comes and after just reading a woman beheading another woman just been sentenced in court maybe it’s other women not trans that I also should be scared off using your logic?

@Freespirit42

Thank heavens most people aren't mens rights activists like you are.

And you have the cheek to say that women who believe that women are a sex class a cult.

Laughable.

Nothing to do with hating or being scared of trans people everything to do with women needing rights. But you know that.

Crack on with your women hatred.