Did covid screw anyone else's life up?

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Interested to hear on this as I have been reading a thread where people loved the solidarity of it all. For me it was redundancy, house lost, business lost and savings...

It’s devastating to read these experiences which shows me we got off pretty lightly despite significant impacts on our lives. My thoughts and prayers. It seems very weird looking back on it how we all fell in to that strange new way of life.

I, along with lots of other colleagues, went from hero to zero when we all lost our jobs because we wouldn't have the vaccine despite working all the hours under the sun during lockdown.

I worked in the private healthcare sector in a psych hospital and it was even worse than usual because all visits were stopped and the one thing our patients had to look forward to was snatched away. Suicide attempts went up and it was heartbreaking watching patients suffer so badly, totally cruel behaviour with no regard to what lockdown would do to some of the most overlooked and vulnerable people. Compulsory vaccines for patients because they lost the right to choose due to being detained, this didn't sit right with myself and a lot of colleagues and patients families but there was nothing we could do.

Personally my teenage Dd developed an eating disorder and her own mental health is in tatters. I'm lucky that I could bypass our GP and know where to go for help for her due to my job but I know so many teenagers are not that lucky and are still waiting for CAMHS. If I didn't have private healthcare insurance through my Dp job I don't know what the situation would be for my daughter now.

When it came to "no jab, no job" I knew that was the hill I was willing to die on. I couldn't help our patients get the choice for the vaccine but I had it and wasn't prepared to trust Whitty and his cronies anymore. I miss working in mental health terribly but I couldn't go through it again if we ever had another outbreak of a virus. Someone needs to be held accountable for the damage to peoples mental health which for most is worse than catching covid.

@Pandabearmug im so sorry to read what you post, I don’t know what else to say, I hope you find the strength to prioritise yourself again xx

Just welled up reading this thread. Not enough people are talking about this. Families under incredible strain. Permanently fractured relationships. So many still in shock. And - of course - there is a huge social and emotional downside from working from home for many individuals and companies alike. I suspect many of those not impacted so negatively have become less socially engaged with those outside their direct families. This is not good for communities or any positive notion of society. Very grim.

Please please please get some help and get out of the controlling marriage. You are not alone!
I struggle to get out of bed every day I know how you feel.

It is interesting to observe an orchestrated panic even if it's now in the rear-view mirror. The facts are COVID-19 never was a modern day Black Death. It was and is just a relatively benign strain of the 'flu. That's what the epidemiologists are now conceding. All the flambouyant government control measures were unnecessary nonsense. These are just the unpalatable facts. Sorry.

Lives not loved.

I initially secretly liked being in lockdown. However, as it went on and on I got more and more anxious and depressed and some days I didn't even get dressed or have a shower. The long term effects have seen my daughter turn into a horribly depressed drug addict who has got no direction in life anymore. My son has issues too. I'm still suffering with crippling anxiety which prevents me from sleeping more than a few hours and makes me vomit all the time.
Not sure if these have been caused by the lockdown or if they would have happened anyway but both kids seemed to be doing fine beforehand.

I'm not able to carry on reading beyond page 15 atm because it's so upsetting and making me cry it's also giving me pain in my heart I got myocarditis after getting covid this summer despite being vaccinated.as for the lockdowns the 1st one triggered severe anxiety and depression in me due to fear for my brother who's cev and my mother.then my middle son who had started uni suffered with his mh and my youngest school age son became very withdrawn .it has all been awful

@StopGo omg I’m so sorry to read your post. This must have been just horrific for you all.

sending you love and strength

I don't know that I'm so angry with the UK govt, but just govts generally.
The official response came from a place of blind panic.
Because Covid should never have spread across the world as it did.

Western govts knew the score by late December 2019.
They knew there was a deadly 'pneumonia' spreading by air droplet transmission in SE China.
So where was Plan A?
People have known from the time of antiquity that the best chance of stopping the spread of an infectious disease is to prevent humans or animals moving about!
And yet we had thousands of people flying from Wuhan province to Italy, thousands of soldiers to Iran, thousands of flights from SE China to California (how the 1967 flu spread too, incidentally, via Hong Kong).
It still astounds me, it makes me furious to think of the squandering of the chances to prevent a global pandemic.
That all non-essential travel, flights and sailings from China could not have been cancelled in January 2020, the travellers compensated (a drop in the ocean compared to the eventual cost) and all essential travellers quarantined?
Why wasn't the world better prepared for such a profound existential threat? Lockdown of entire societies was the closing of an enormous door after the bolting of a very tiny horse.
And yet I have a horrible feeling that we will be vulnerable to this again, and the same errors will one more be made.

Yes and no - I wouldn’t have been made homeless, had financial troubles and denied seeing my Mum before she died. Furious about the parties in government.

I’m a lot stronger, and tougher as a result.

That is precious.

I think we are all still being affected, eg problems in the NHS etc the only difference is that it’s become normal.

Sending everyone a hug 🤗 and best wishes for the future.

Please please dont teacher-bash. This thread is meant to be a safe place to discuss our horrendous experiences of covid not to criticise
others. Your last line is particularly nasty, and obviously untrue. So many forget that teachers have children too.

I know this is a minor thing given pp who have suffered deaths, but I just went into DDs room and found her taking an anxiety pill just to be able to get out of bed and shower. She used to leap out of bed on the weekend and go out with friends or for a walk :(

What do you think OP?
medical and care staff traumatised and having to
live with the PTSD

Parents and children losing loved ones without the proper chance to say good by or bury them in keeping with their norms and customs

businesses such as your own forced to close and plunged into financial uncertainty

I promise… it wasn’t only bad for you!

Life was definitely better pre covid but Overall we didn’t fare to badly. Kids were a good age to cope (pre teen) and we kept our jobs (albeit my salary was halved) . However I can’t stand the covid nostalgics. It was a time of such loss for others that I think it’s the height of thoughtlessness to gloat about how much you enjoyed it.

The problem was if our government hadn’t locked down there would have been a public outcry the the Conservative government were sending everyone to their deaths
For a long time there was a huge outcry that we hadn’t locked down early enough or for long enough.

Look at “Partygate” I know on here and in the media there was this huge uprising against Boris and there were pictures of him sat in his garden at No 10 with his work colleagues around and people pointing out there was no SD.

It was utterly ridiculous

You might as well have taken a picture of me or one of the many millions who worked throughout Covid as there was no SD at a lot of workplaces. Then at the end of the day we would have to leap apart and treat our colleagues as potential killers if they came close.
It was ok to have coffee with someone sitting side by side at 4.59pm but come 5pm you were breaking the rules

No one could see the stupidity of the problem.

Lockdowns might have had a huge affect on my life But in the end has saved me £13.56 per month
Reporting Partygate at every opportunity for months after month made me rethink my need for a tv licence
I only ever watched the news regularly on tv.
Given the news was the same headlines over and over again there was no point in paying £13.56 per month to watch the same tv show over and over.

The tiredness is unbelievable isn't it. I've never known anything like it, just getting through the day doing the bare minimum is a struggle. When I get up and have a shower I wrap myself up in a big towel and get back into bed, it takes me an hour or so to recover enough strength to get dressed.

I had what I think was Covid at the end of 2019. I thought it was just a bad post viral response

It took me probably 18 months to 2 years to get over it
I used to walk miles but I could hardly walk to the bottom of. The garden and back. Still had to work throughout

My 18 yr old daughter took her life, I no longer work as a result, my life has changed forever.

It is hard isn't it. I'm retiring which is sad but I'm nearly 70 so not like I'm losing my career but I didn't intend to retire yet. My employer doesn't want me to go but I feel so guilty as I have been useless since February. My DH is disabled so going to my job was also my social life.

It is quite humbling reading this thread. It makes you realise how much people are struggling and continue to struggle, not made any easier by the politicians making such a holy mess of everything, bickering like children and compounding people’s stress and misery.

Yes, I lost my 23yrs old career, we lost our home, had to move back to UK after ten years abroad (my daughter was born overseas so had to leave everything she knew). 18mos after arriving in UK, I still don't have my career back, had to take a job at lower pay and skill, and am slowly clawing my way back. Oh and we left all our furniture behind and had to sleep in a relative's living room for 8mos. It's also very disorienting coming back to my hometown as it's changed so much. Doesn't feel like I came home, just came somewhere new that is slightly familiar. I miss Spain every day.

I'm so sorry for your loss x