Did covid screw anyone else's life up?

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Interested to hear on this as I have been reading a thread where people loved the solidarity of it all. For me it was redundancy, house lost, business lost and savings...

@troodles1
I'm so very very sorry to hear that, there can be absolutely nothing worse, my heartfelt sympathies.

My DD had started to MH difficulties prior to lockdown, Tbh at the start of lockdown I felt a sigh of relief as daily struggle of school ended.
However in reality it made it much more difficult to get help and possibly made her condition worse. Waiting lists got even longer, professionals were dismissive as they said oh yes lots of people feel like after lockdown so it wasnt taken as seriously.
It's taken 3 years to get her the help and support she needs and she's missed nearly 3 years of education.

troodles1 I am so very sorry for your loss. Unimaginable. I have an 18 yr old ds, it was so hard for teenagers. They were totally and utterly failed. Sending you love and strength x

Yes, I agree. Schools are breeding grounds (said it then, still saying it now) but the mantra of 'schools are safe; children don't get covid' was a downplay of my reality.

Troodles that is absolutely heartbreaking, I’m so sorry

There were lots of awful parts, the worst of course losing 2 family members to covid. Day to day being locked down with 2 small children was very tough. It was scary at times, so much uncertainty, and heartbreaking to be unable to travel to see family.

But no, it has not ruined my life. There is a lot of life left to live and enjoy and I am doing that. Things feel normal again now.

I think on a societal level some good things have come out of an awful situation. For instance, developments of new cancer medicines. The increase in opportunities for remote working. I hope lessons will have been learned about how to contain the next novel virus that arises in the future.

This broke my heart. I remember reading some of your posts. I wish you were in Perth because I would help you, I would help you get to that airport so you wouldn't be alone.

Two things - if you do get to book your next ticket, ask for disabled aassistance and you can even request the buggy so that you are taken to the departure area. Tell them your circumstances so they can treat you accordingly.

Secondly, you can do this, you just need the right help and support.

So many of us are struggling mentally, you are not alone and you are not a failure. You are doing it tough and you are not well but you will get there.

But do look in to disabled assistance because having airport people assist you, could tar away a whole heap of stress.

You've got this xxxx

I had 2 miscarriages and 1 subsequent (very difficult pregnancy), with no opportunity for external support from family or friends, and no access to professional childcare for my 3 year old son. My world was reduced to my son and my husband (whom I now recognise was psychologically abusive throughout our 8 year relationship), who worked very long hours from home and was unable/unwilling to help.

Lockdown finally ended. I survived, just. But then out of the blue, my world, quite literally, fell apart.

Right after the baby arrived, my husband left me in the most heartless, catastrophic way possible. Raising the kids alone, post-partum, with absolutely shattered mental health has been ... challenging.

After more than a year of very intense therapy and self development, the darkest days are (finally) over. This weekend, I am moving out of our (isolated) family home and relocating 50 miles away to be closer to my support network.

Finally, our new chapter begins, and the sun is shining.

#AndSoSheRoseAgain

We all caught something in October 2019 too. Was poorly for weeks with that cough that would not go.
by reading all the science things etc regarding covid. It was around earlier and wasn’t reported.
china bought all the worlds PPE in early October 🙄 it’s shameful how all the world is still suffering and all governments ignoring it

Lost tastes and smell then too

I’m so pleased for you! Well done.
Your story is so similar to mine - pregnant and gave birth in lockdown, partner left me when baby less than a year old etc etc.. I recently moved out of our shared home and it has really helped. Still have some very dark days but definitely lots of better ones too. All the best X

I liked the lockdown at the time.
but for us husband still worked and I home schooled. We enjoyed our daily dog walks more than we’ve ever enjoyed walking…
For us it’s been since the end of lockdown that things have gone to sh#!…

I cannot unsee how rapidly people morphed into vengeful, gleeful totalitarians who convinced themselves they were good citizens as they phoned the police to report lonely unhappy people sitting on park benches, or taking toddlers to playgrounds. The rules were absurd and disproportionate, and those that cheered for harder and longer lockdowns were invariably the same laptop jockeys in comfortable homes with gardens who were thrilled to be able to cosplay apocalyptic scenarios because they were bored with their lives, and fed up of long commutes. Those people have an outsize influence in framing national debates because they're articulate and comfortably off. Far more actual normal people suffered massively but were basically told to suck it up (the job losses, the financial catastrophes, the undiagnosed illnesses, the inability to go to a gym, the health anxiety, the fear) because 'we're in a pandemic you know'. I was about to start a job in the tourism industry (obviously that fell through) and managed to get something unrelated eventually in the education sector - and I have seen for myself how many kids will never get back in the saddle educationally. Lockdown was a crime against humanity and the current economic downturn (glaringly obvious right from the start) is killing and maiming far more people than covid ever did. Don't get me started on the disaster that was home-schooling.
Did it screw up my life? Not as much as many others. Burned through a chunk of savings, but my OH (luckily) got the self-employed grant. But I will never forget how quickly and enthusiastically people latched onto ludicrous and ridiculous rules that resulted into millions dying of undiagnosed cancers, obesity, depression, heart disease, poverty, job insecurity, homelessness and misery. It's definitely damaged my faith in government. And yes, I did get the vax.

Reading everyone's heartbreaking comments makes me very sad and maybe those who suffered less shouldn't complain. But it did affect all of us profoundly and I think it's worth remembering that.
My world has shrunk. I no longer do the charity work that I loved, I no longer sing in a choir. Friendships have been hard to retain, and it has been very difficult to maintain family harmony when relatives had such different views about the right way to behave.
Maybe some of the things that I've lost can be recovered or replaced but at my age the future is looking much bleaker than it did in 2019.

Some of you have suffered the most awful experiences since Covid. Well done and best of luck to those who've managed, or are managing, to turn things around. And commiserations and hugs to those still dealing with the fallout.

I was forced to work in a non-essential role during first lockdown, caught Covid, which gave me pneumonia and an ongoing heart arrhythmia and along with long Covid, have massively impacted what I can do. I tried going back to work & had to give up. I'm having a heart procedure this coming week, in the hope it'll make life easier. It's scary, but I'm trying to concentrate on the prize - getting my life back, providing all goes well and it works. I used to be very fit, healthy and active. Now my life revolves around medical appointments and fear of getting Covid again. I hate that that makes it much less sociable. I miss my old life so much.

These posts are heart-wrenching. Giving hugs to you all and I don't care if it's "unmunsnet!

Lost my BIL and a dear friend to Covid.

DS and I are lucky in that we didn't get it - unless asymptomatic - but it has certainly taken a toll on our life. More him, he used to be outgoing and sociable, now has become more of a recluse.

That's just not how I remember it. I remember people being very glib about what lockdowns actually meant - 'it's just sitting around watching netflix' 'it's a great chance to spend time with your kids' 'work on your hobbies' - I felt it was really minimised. Perhaps you remember it differently.

However, as others have said, derailing a good thread ... probably shouldn't have brought it up ...

@Troodles1 I’m so sorry x

My dd 8 now has social anxiety, is selectively mute, struggles with school anxiety and just wants to stay home all the time. Is now self harming at school as the pain takes the worries away.Won't go to clubs, refuses to go in a playground if others are there.

Camhs rejected the referral last year.Doctor has now referred for asd testing but if accepted that list is 2-3 years away.

Sorry to hear about that. I hope you have got your life re-established
🙏🏻 it’s been a very odd time with the top tier earning multi millions & many civilians losing everything. Good luck🌷🌷🌷

I'm so sorry to hear this.

CAMHS sound like they're not fit for purpose. Surely if your DD is self harming they have to treat her?

Hope the procedure goes well and you feel much better, soon.

Millions and millions of people died where? In England and Wales for the whole of 2020 and 2021 it was just over a million and surely they weren't all down to undiagnosed cancers, obesity, depression, heart disease, poverty, job insecurity, homelessness and misery. Another sixty something thousand in Scotland in 2020 but I couldn't find the figures for 2021. So closer to a million than to two million for 2020 and 2021 and surely some of those deaths would have happened covid or no covid and some were covid so nowhere near millions and millions dying of those lockdown related issues.

I'm not saying lockdown didn't cause health problems and that some people died who wouldn't have but coming up with completely made up figures that exaggerate the size of the problem isn't helping anyone's mental health.

@Jdmwestlondon
you are so right

@ArabellaScott
Thank you so much 🙏

@Jdmwestlondon well said. How many children will have died or had their lives impacted for years because of this ridiculous policy. We know 128 children were murdered by carers in lock down. Head injuries in the under fives went through the roof. Everyone who cheered it on has blood on their hands IMO. I understand at first being scared, we were made afraid. But if after a year you were demanding harder lock downs, more restrictions then I hold them responsible as they were the ones swaying the government. I know one person who died of covid, my 85 year old great uncle. I know three people that killed them selves in lock down. All 20’s/30’s. Two of them parents. I believe all of them would be alive now if they hadn’t been isolated, unable to access medical care or not lost their jobs. And now we have the financial and long term health costs of shutting the economy and closing the NHS. This thread has made me so sad and so angry.