Did covid screw anyone else's life up?

[girlmeetsboy]

Interested to hear on this as I have been reading a thread where people loved the solidarity of it all. For me it was redundancy, house lost, business lost and savings...

Im so sorry for all of you, i feel guilty for posting now, reading through but im really fed up atm, especially reading the 'should i remortgage etc posts' as that was me once and now i feel like im stuck renting etc. Huge hugs to everyone who lost or nearly lost someone x

My DS aged 12 tried to kill himself in the most violent and horrific way just pre lockdown. The subsequent period did have some positives but school hokey-cokey was incredibly bad and the rest of his life will be impacted.
The lack of care and services provided during lockdowns and subsequently has had a life changing impacted for many.

Alot of friendships fizzled out.

Isolated raising a newborn has effected my mental health.

The dynamic of work in the office has changed massively although benefit of WFH still outweighs the cons of that

Some of the posts above resonate with me quite a lot and while I'm sorry so many of you have been through the ringer, it's interesting for me to hear your stories because I've been feeling like the impact of lockdowns is not really acknowledged, especially the loss, anxiety and sense of isolation. It's almost as if everyone is expected to just get on with it like it didn't happen. Not just in the media, but in my work for instance, no-one really talks about it and I sometimes feel I'm the only one of my team that feels so affected by it, but I can't be surely.

My daughter developed uvietis after her first and last covid vaccine which is an inflammation of both eyes that can cause blindness if untreated.

We go to the hospital now every month atleast twice. She has been taking steroids for months and is affecting her mentally and physically.

She is 12. And yes the doctors had to admit it was a reaction, even advised me not to let her take anymore vaccines.

I have been feeling very guilty every since.

I am so sorry op 💐much love to you xxxx

I completely get this and I feel like im the only one who it impacted, having work mates boasting about how much money they saved working from home/not going out etc was really hard.

There's also the impact on the NHS of course, and other services. The added pressure now on the NHS due to backlog built up over covid will mean that people will continue dying as they are not treated soon enough. Or will suffer for far longer waiting for treatment and some will deteriorate permanently to more extreme levels of disability.

Thank you xx

Yep. I had my first baby pretty much alone. (April 2020) and i am so bitter. Pretty traumatic birth too. DP grandfather also passed away while I was in hospital. Such a hard time for us.
I'm so scared to have another baby, I'm scared I'll have to do it alone again. 😔

Lost my mum in circumstances I would not wish on my worst enemy, still can't think about it without getting upset

Family member in 20s with life changing disability that might have been avoided with better medical care over the last couple of years

Significant financial loses running into several tens of thousands as self employed dh couldn't work for the best part of 18 months and still had bills to pay

For me, long Covid has cost me my health, my ability to work FT, and to have any kind of a life. I am very isolated and miss being able to have a happy, busy life so, so much. It also means so many choices, a successful career, and financial security, are a thing of the past.
For DD, it meant her ASD wasn’t picked up until a lot later than it should have been, and effectively cost her a year of schooling, and making friends, which she is struggling to catch up from now.
For my beloved Mum, it cost her the life of her best friend, and I am honestly not sure if she will ever recover.

Gosh I am so sorry for the awful things you have all been through.

Mine seems trivial now, but I do feel like I’m a really crappy parent now and I’ve been wondering if it’s due to covid. Going from one to two was hard, more so with very little support, threats of having to labour alone, questioning the legality of having a grandparent care for our elder child etc, I mean when you think of it now it seems insane! I used to be a really hands on mum, loved playing, setting up crafts etc. but I genuinely feel like I gave every last ounce I had to give during the lockdowns, keeping it all together. These days the kids are lucky if I chuck some play doh their way and I never want to see a tuff tray again in my life!! I feel so drained, physically and emotionally, and think a lot has stemmed from that period.

@girlmeetsboy The thing is, I feel really guilty for feeling like this because I didn't actually lose any family and didn't lose my job although I was furloughed (when quite a lot of others in my department weren't, and spent the whole time on my own and ever since then I just feel crippling anxiety.

So I can't even imagine what some of the rest of you are going through and I hate feeling sorry for myself when all I had to do was remove myself from the world for a few months while getting paid to do so. But so many of you went through a devastating amount of loss and I just don't understand where you get the support or strength from to deal with it, because it honestly feels like there's so little acknowledgement about what happened.

Pre covid my asthma was well controlled. After my first infection, I now need COPD medication.

I’ve become a person that likes to stay at home. I used to go to gigs, now I can’t be bothered. I like to be in bed reading at 10pm.

It was a tough time, but actually on the flip side, it forced us in a few directions that have turned out to very much be blessings. Because of COVID and not being able to travel, some things happened which brought to light information about a close family member, which allowed dh and I to cut contact and keep our dc safe. Oddly, if not for being unable to visit, a conversation never would have happened which led me to learn about this person's past and their risk to children. I would have gone on none the wiser and it makes me sick to think what might have happened to my children.

And it was horrific at the time, but we had a very much wanted house purchase fall through because sellers were CEV and decided to stay put. It was so heartbreaking. But it took us another 18 months, but we finally had an offer accepted on a new property. It's been exactly the right move for us, we moved to a beautiful part of the country, even closer to family, into a lovely community where we fit right in like we'd always lived here. Kids love their new school, etc.

So actually some really good things have come out of it in the end, but yes, god, it was fucking awful at the time. Physically, it's certainly taken a toll on me.

I actually worked and went to the office every day but my husband who had a city job was made redundant so I didn't even get to WFH, although It probably would have suited me as I do crave my own company

Financially we have been very lucky and managed okay, but mentally it's been so hard (nurse). Still feel quiet traumatised by the things I saw and had to do, with very little support from my employer. I've recently started antidepressants and planning a route out of nursing so hopefully things are on the up.

I lost my mum, my dad, my job and went months without being able to properly see my DD (she lives a 3 hour drive away, so not even the "rule of 6" covered it). The whole thing left me broken.

Completely devastating for our family. DH couldn't get the cancer treatment he desperately needed, even getting a diagnosis was impossible until it was too late. He died alone, frightened and in pain having being denied his basic human rights.

My DC lost their father, my lovely MIL her firstborn child and we all had to cope in isolation. MIL was in another part of the country so visiting etc was impossible.

What really makes me angry is it wasn't just our family it was thousands of families in the UK alone and for what?

I have handed my notice in at work due to never having recovered from the stress and anxiety the pandemic caused.
A colleague who had bullied me before covid ramped up the bullying knowing how I felt.
It certainly didn’t help that the NHS Trust I worked for changed during early 2021 which meant having new rules and new managers.
This year, a new system took over the one I used 98% of the time, and have been expected to use it despite not having the teething problems ironed out beforehand.

I wasn’t due to leave until I turned 60, but I just couldn’t carry on.

What really makes me angry is it wasn't just our family it was thousands of families in the UK alone and for what?

I feel the same. Mum was cremated in the 3rd week of the first lockdown and under the "roolz" my 82 year old dad was expected to return to, and be alone in, the home he had shared with mum (no bubbles then). It was such a cruel and inhumane way to treat a man who had just buried his wife of 57 years.

Took away the last few years of holidays and decent outings I could have had with my mum and I’m not sure the vaccines didn’t trigger her sudden health decline and then her passing away as it started so soon after the booster and we never got a proper diagnosis.

@TimBoothseyes Gosh, that's really heartbreaking.