Did covid screw anyone else's life up?

[girlmeetsboy]

Interested to hear on this as I have been reading a thread where people loved the solidarity of it all. For me it was redundancy, house lost, business lost and savings...

I don’t live in a rural area but used to dream of it. It’s horrible where I live but actually one of the few people who sat on a park bench with me - because I was crying - was a drug dealer!

I really relate to what you are saying in other ways. I have no stake or interest in society.

@DesolationRow That sounds really tough, well done on coming out the other side.

The lockdowns were actually OK for us...quite a peaceful time. But since then, it has been horrendous. Two of my daughters have eating disorders and one severely self harmed....we've been in A&E so many times. I don't think things would have been nearly so bad if covid hadn't hit. I'm so sorry to hear that so many people are in the same boat.

Yeh and the posters who made the place hostile. Shameful.

For us it was a catalyst, in good and bad ways. DS1 had a real mental health dip which in hindsight was already coming. It prompted us to get help and now, after a very hard period, things are much better than before. I was made redundant which was rubbish, but now have a better more flexible job. It also made some family relationships more distant and we're now trying to get back to where we were. And I got into terrible eating and drinking habits and am struggling to manage my weight. So a mix of good and bad. Overall we were very lucky.

We had it tough, not financially but DH health, he needed a follow up operation 6months after prostate surgery. Hospital shut down, no appts no consultants in Urology. Finally, he had an emergency operation 7.00am after massive blood loss. He is a shadow of what he was.

Don't want to go into too much detail but both the lockdown and getting a bad case of covid quite seriously affected DD. Her MH was very badly hurt by online uni; she developed social anxiety and had to take time off. Now back at uni but she is not the same, and I wonder if she will ever be. Used to be outgoing. Now prefers her room :( I really think the effects on the young can never be reversed. Though I was strongly in favour of lockdown back then.

@NameChangeForARaisin, I am so very sorry.

@girlmeetsboy This is the most humbling and important thread I've ever read on here, I think. You've brought so many people together here to offload, share the pain and hopefully not feel quite so alone. All power to you. x

I'm so sorry to read this. I remember reading about mothers having babies alone at the time and thinking how unimaginably hard it must have been.

I have noticed that many of the more interesting posters on this site have disappeared during Covid. The tone generally now is nasty, attacking and judgemental. I think human nature has changed. Like others I have lost faith in everything and feel very wary and much less hopeful about life.
All the screeching and finger pointing that went on during lockdown shows how quickly we turn into witch hunters and Nazis . Civilisation is skin deep. It’s something I will never forget.

I don't think I expressed well what I was trying to say. I am very sorry for everyone who went through hell during lockdown (even though it was different for me).
I do think the media should show the reality and devastation after lockdowns. I didn't know the extent of it, as in the amount of people in this forum with such devastating stories.
My world stopped once. I totally get how it feels when your world turns upside down. I was trying to sympathise, but didn't do a great job.

That's what we ended up doing. Scottish schools closed around 18th December 2020 and did not open again until after the Easter holidays, around mid-April. Those cold, dark days in January and February were HARD with three teenagers trying to do online learning and 2 parents working at home. After about three tantrums of toddler proportions from when then almost 16 year old, who was going nuts stuck in the house with just her family, I texted her friend's mum (who is a nurse) and asked how she'd feel about her DD coming over for Netflix and pizza with my DD. This was about 10th Feb, from them to the end of the lockdown whenever that was, they saw each other every 2-3 days and they were much happier and more balanced for it.

I do not regret breaking those rules one little bit.

Same!
I'd like to request this thread is moved from chat so it doesn't disappear.

How would you feel about that @girlmeetsboy?

Yes I agree @stayathomegardener . It’s an important thread.

Yes

speaking of which, I know many of us have name changed but if MercyBooth is reading this, I hope you are as okay as it’s possible to be. I felt people were particularly awful
to her, though I appreciate my memory is hazy, but Mercy was one who I really thought was appallingly treated.

Unhealthy eating and wait gain, depression and anxiety. Younger child is struggling at school due to first years at school being disrupted. Feel very guilty for following the rulezz, denying my children their freedom due to repeated isolations.

I'm only four pages in and I want to send everyone

I'm so sorry for all the losses and heartache. Some of it is hard to read.

I think we're only now starting to come back to any kind of normal life, and it feels as if everything is still very raw and strange. It will take time.

I will try and be more patient with people in day to day life - we all have to recover, I think we've all been affected in ways we maybe don't even realise.

I'm so glad that we have all been able to share, I originally posted after yet another argument with my husband about how pissed off I am about the whole situation we are in but now realise people have been through so much more. I've no idea how it can be moved though as I'm not that techy. But yes please if you know how. Love to you all xx

@claretblue79 Thank you :)

Haven’t read the whole thread but completely agree with this!!!

My friend died and not only could we not have a proper funeral but we couldn’t visit his widow to comfort her.

Differing attitudes towards covid wrecked several longterm friendships.

Various family members disappeared down anti-vax rabbit holes and have not come back. My relationship with them has been shattered because they won’t accept anyone with a different opinion from them.

I was lonely a lot of the time.

I’m glad that the human cost of lockdowns is now being recognised but I wish to fuck someone had considered it at the time.

I don't know a single person who came through the last couple of years unscathed. It has been horrendous. Just really really shit.

On one part it was amazing for my business and helped me boost my finances immensely. We had a chance to breath and escape the constant busyness we were caught up in of after school clubs and moving around. The children were quite happy working at home and were kept occupied with craft etc although they did miss their friends. I got to see the other side of my husband and hear all the cringey words he’s used with his colleagues and his buzz words which half horrified me and kept me amused. I also now know it is possible to do 10,000 steps at home walking backwards and forwards whilst on the phone. The worst part was watching my friend struggle with her business that she had just moved into a town centre shop and literally had no traffic due to lockdown. Along side her health problems and money stress she ended up taking her own life leaving 5 children behind. I think that was a pretty hideous outcome.

In retrospect I wonder whether closing down schools and unis was a good idea. Effectively threw a whole generation under the bus. I thought young people would bounce back at the time, but DD is so completely changed I can't recognize her. It breaks my heart. Much love to previous posters who have had it even worse.