Did covid screw anyone else's life up?

[girlmeetsboy]

Interested to hear on this as I have been reading a thread where people loved the solidarity of it all. For me it was redundancy, house lost, business lost and savings...

It was without a shadow of a doubt the worst thing that ever happened to me. My industry was decimated, my freedom of movement destroyed and I have had to deal with the delay in the diagnosis and treatment of my grandson.

I know that I will never look forward to anything ever again knowing how quickly that can be taken from us. It was indescribably bad.

I will never recover

Yes, my dad was diagnosed with acute luekemia at the start of lockdown 2020, he needed chemo, bone marrow transplant etc, my parents don’t live local so couldn’t go and see them and also he was shielding as no immune system, my job as a care assistant in a care home was too much of a risk to him, he had all the treatment, spent loads time in hospital but was told in July 2021 it was a successful transplant, so everything was good, hr then got covid after numerous trips to hospital for blood tests etc, my mum, sister and brother in law caught it, but sadly my dad had no more fight left, he went back into hospital on the 17th aug 2021, with oxygen, all other meds and then cpap, hr gave up his fight on 1st sept 2021, my parents wedding anniversary, he was 69. Even now I am still upset, it just shouldn’t of been, we should of all been planning things for this summer.
so yes it changed mine and my family, and it’s still hard to come to terms with. I still se my dad in hospital and can still see exactly how he was laying there.
I saw covid at work and what it was like but it was awful when it’s your family, and you are on the other side.

My dad passed away from covid. He could have lived a much longer life. None of us got to say good bye to him. None of us know how he died, whether he was conscious, what his last words were. It’s been a year but I am still deeply traumatized by this.

It certainly changed me....the outbreaks where horrific. The clients that I had looked after for years literally dying one after another.....the look of helpless on staffs faces as we begun another 12 hr shift. Really riles me when people say it's "just a cold" or non existent.....eh no I seen the devastation it caused🥺🥺

How about volunteering for the NHS? Or the Samaritans? Yes, you need training. But you had your fun while people made food, delivered essentials to you, cleaned the streets. Instead of saying sorry on a public forum, why not do something helpful?

who did you ignore when they cried for help in lockdown? Maybe get in touch with them.

This is me too 😔
It’s a very lonely sadness, not socially acceptable.

@pinkkoala - I am so sorry to read that

In England, about 1 in 21 of all covid deaths are those with leukaemia. So of the 206,000 who died, that's about 16,500 people.

About 8,000 people, many of them children, are diagnosed with leukaemia annually.

Yet still the government will not make Evusheld available - it's a travesty

@girlmeetsboy
Thank you for starting this thread, I think it’s good to share and feel some empathy for each other.
So many awful and sad stories, my heart goes out to so many 💕

@etopp I remember being on a thread and saying a lady local to me had been murdered by her partner and how lockdown must have been horrific for people living with domestic violence, someone on the thread more or less said at least it wasn't covid that killed her. That was a turning point for me, I realised people had lost their fucking minds in the quest to keep locked down.

Youokhn friends not acknowledging your father’s death is bloody shocking. My friends were lockdown followers but I do know of a few deaths and not aware of anyone being left alone. My mother was ill with other things so wasn’t able to visit people but she’d not have followed the law for a bereaved person.

Yup. Long Covid. Irregular heart rhythm. Burn out. Compassion fatigue. What a great time it's been 😅

I think I remember that

it was awful because I turned to MN needing company and found a bunch of crazies. I deregged and rejoined when I thought the coast might be clear.

I work as a HCP so many placements broke down for patients because of COVID. I was never the most extroverted person but I literally cannot stand city centres/ busy shopping centres / large gatherings/ concerts anymore. I get really bad sensory overload anxiety and headaches. It's not going away, this is my new default normal.

Oh this thread is making me cry. I thought I was alone in still feeling fucked up by lockdowns. In 2019 life was really good, I’d built up a self-employed business that I loved, had savings for the first time in my life and had fulfilled my dream of moving to the countryside.

Overnight I lost all my work, then used up all my savings and went on to UC. I live alone and before long felt despairing, even suicidal many days, because of the isolation. The local public transport was cut and never returned once lockdowns ended.

I lived in a beautiful tourist area and the atmosphere was vile - constant talk of ‘invaders’ (people coming for walks!) and GO HOME being sprayed in six foot letters on our country roads. People putting hand made placards up on their fences basically telling people to fuck off back to their towns.

Some things I’ve been able to sort out eg I’ve lost the three stone I put on and I’ve built up a new, entirely online, business. No savings yet but I can pay my bills.

I’ve moved to a town as I don’t want to risk that level of isolation again but I seem to have lost my ability, or even desire, to meet new people. And many older friendships have just evaporated.

People seem to have changed, or maybe it’s just me. I’m so angry about what was done to us. I used to be really community minded but now feel like I have no stake in society now, I hate the government and I don’t trust people to look out for each other after seeing such vicious judgementalness during the pandemic.

I’m so so sorry for every one on this thread. People have suffered terribly 💐

I understand how you feel because I lived through the same during lock down. DD got Covid which became long Covid with serious side effects lingering afterward. She was despondent for about five months but finally came out the other side. All is well now. ❤️

It might be terrible but I don’t get why Long Covid is any different to people having ME or other post viral issues.

I am not sure I understand what you are trying to say here. As you recognise these can be horrible illnesses and as I said regarding ME full recovery rates are low. As it seems that covid is triggering in some people a form of long covid that may turn out all but indistinguishable from ME or similar pathology this could mean even if the rate is low (estimates vary from 1 -3%) with so many people getting a covid infection it could work out tens of thousands in a country like U.K. may end up having a long term disabling illness which currently has no effective biomedical treatments. Some with this form of long covid recover but not all.

WHO are at least recognising the condition is devastating people’s lives and livelihoods and money must go towards epidemiology and biomedical research. WHO have also just shared research is indicating the more times a person has Covid the higher the risk of developing long covid.

Had illnesses like ME not been minimised and trivialised for decades preventing large scale biomedical research there may have been more biomedical treatments available by now that would’ve helped people with the main form of long covid that shares overlapping symptoms with ME.

@EmmaH2022
During the lockdown I was able to WFH, and I didn't experience what others did. It was good luck.
It was all about luck like everything else in life.
Bad luck for the self employed and people working in essential services. You have no idea whether or not I volunteered or what I did back then in order to help other people.

Life is about luck. I have been through cancer when my youngest child was only a baby and I do not think my MH will ever fully recover from that experience. It was deep shit. And I would make anyone to go through what I went through so they can understand. It was bad luck.
Stop preaching.

Oh and I don’t want to name names

There was a young adult suicide near me in a notorious suicide spot.

his note was clear but at the time, his parents couldn’t get the newspapers interested. They didn’t want money. Just to highlight how desperate times were affecting people.

I knew that I wouldn’t recover but in a way, it’s good that I knew? I think some people are struggling because they think they should be over it but I never thought that.

Mixed here. Lost a job effectively because of lockdowns but am now in better paid one but a tougher role and longer hours. Enjoyed working from home during lockdown but developed plantar fasciitis once stomping to work again. Family wise relationships have suffered as my mum still won't let us in the house have had brief respites where I have been allowed to sit in the corner but now she is very scared again. She never goes out any more.

• I meant I would NOT make anyone to go through what I went

Bloody hell. How do you stop yourself shouting “ you are not immortal “?!

You don’t know what anyone has been through. Neither do I. But if you’re ready to say on a public forum that you enjoyed lockdown, you will get responses that fit that.

@AssignedSlytherinAtBirth, you are welcome. I am very sorry you have long Covid. I don’t have LC but have had severe ME for many years now and know how disabling these conditions can be. I know you haven’t asked for advice and probably know this, but in lieu of effective biomedical treatments for now the most important thing is to keep within your individual limits and not keep going into post exertional symptom exacerbation as this can cause further deterioration and prevent improvement. Easier said than done I know but important. Studies in both ME and LC are showing metabolic dysfunction and oxygen not getting to muscles, pacing is vital.

That's really difficult to read. I hope you are all ok.

@girlswillbegirls Pleased that you wrote that reply. I felt quite annoyed on your behalf. People make a lot of assumptions on these threads. In any case, volunteering should always be something that is done solely because the individual is passionate about a cause and wants to help, not as some kind of penance because someone else thinks you should feel guilty.