Did covid screw anyone else's life up?

[girlmeetsboy]

Interested to hear on this as I have been reading a thread where people loved the solidarity of it all. For me it was redundancy, house lost, business lost and savings...

My historically well controlled cyclothymia spiralled out of control and I ended up being diagnosed with Bipolar 2 disorder at the end 2021. 😥

I have a heart condition, which has been greatly worsened since covid. There is an enormous queue for a pacemaker, so I spend my days in a reclining chair, watching my beautiful garden go to pieces. Any effort to do anything drops my heart rate down to 32. My DD, who suffered ME badly as a teenager, now has long covid. The after-effects are just terrible.

I am not sure I understand what you are trying to say here. As you recognise these can be horrible illnesses and as I said regarding ME full recovery rates are low. As it seems that covid is triggering in some people a form of long covid that may turn out all but indistinguishable from ME or similar pathology this could mean even if the rate is low (estimates vary from 1 -3%) with so many people getting a covid infection it could work out tens of thousands in a country like U.K. may end up having a long term disabling illness which currently has no effective biomedical treatments. Some with this form of long covid recover but not all.

I wrote the above, but wanted to clarify re my last sentence where I wrote ‘some with this form of long covid recover but not all.’ What I mean is some people who got LC back in March 2020 are still ill, some have thankfully recovered or much improved. As a main form of LC shares many overlapping symptoms with ME, such as exertion intolerance, neuro issues, autonomic dysfunction and more, then this is concerning regarding long term prognosis as full recovery in ME in adults is low (5%) suggesting some with LC may become long term disabled. If children with ME are managed well initially, not being made to over exert, long term outcomes are thankfully better than in adults although not all achieve full remission.

It fundementally changed how I view other people. I'm suspicious now, and rather than assuming people were generally good and decent, I now assume they're not. I'm aware so many give absolutly zero shites about whether other people live or die. The selfishness still astounds me and I'll never get over it.

I lost my lovely mum, none ofnus were with her, I'll never forgive myself for that

Thank you for your kindness! 🥰 He was due 20th March. Went into lockdown 23rd March, born on 1st April via induction and emergency c-section. Feels so long ago now but something I think I will always remember. I had very bad after care too. My wound became infected and open and they wouldn't see me. Send steri strips and dressings to the pharmacy for my DP to clean and re dress daily! I think covid effected every one in different ways. Something none of us will ever really get over!

Which I had to go private for to get a diagnosis because the NHS was rammed. I couldn’t continue to not work as full salary sickness pay was going to run out and I’d gotten to the point on October 30th where I was contemplating taking my own life.

Of course you will always remember it.

I'm sorry to hear about the after care, it sounds really hard.

Getting over things can take a lot longer than we expect. I think it often helps to talk about it.

Makes you realise how quickly a country can fall to some lunatic totalitarianism. Slavish mindsets, the eagerness to denounce others for impurity. Stupid claps on doorsteps, most of it from people who do nothing but abuse their precious NHS.

However, we do need to bear in mind that what we are dealing with now is pandemic recovery coupled with a cost of living emergency, on top of the Truss disaster. It's like your village being hit with an earthquake, landslide and gargantuan sewage burst of raw excrement all within a short couple of years. Not just Covid that has fucked our lives up. We're just living through an extraordinarily luckless time.

It still is screwing up my life. 2.5 years of being basically stuck indoors with vulnerable DH, we decided we’d get on with life just a few weeks back, his first trip out he gets Covid, tested positive on my birthday, the rest of my birthday week was cancelled (lots of lovely things planned) because then I caught it.

he ended up is hospital and now we are wondering what the hell to do. He’s ok now, I’m awful, been several weeks since I tested negative and I’m struck down with the most awful fatigue every day.

the same happened to me - I never felt lonely before the pandemic but have done ever since. Days can go by without me speaking to a soul. I am starting to get out there again though, going to meet ups and events. But I totally understand how you feel. It is horrible.

Why do people say it was two years?

it didn’t end March 2022.

it was March 2020 and over July 2021.

Another traumatised family here. My two children have additional needs. SEND families were left with no support during the lockdowns. My youngest had several major episodes wherein she tried to hurt herself and/or us. It’s completely damaged the relationships in our household, and we are now struggling every single day, more isolated than ever, and the world seems like a scary, hostile place. It ruined us.

In retrospect? It didn’t occur to you at the time?

If you are/were in England.

In Scotland we had masks until April 2022. Large scale events were cancelled from Christmas eve 2021 - we had boxing day panto tickets we couldn't use. I've just had my first parents' evening for my 14 year old who has been in the school 3 years because of covid. No proms or leavers' events in 2020 and 2021. No school shows.

We had life restricted in Scotland from March 2020 to April 2022. So yeah. Two years.

No, it didn't. It was a strange and confusing time for me, with vulnerable family members and conflicting medical advice. And I didn't expect it would go on for so long.

Definitely. I haven't really spoke about it properly with anyone other than friends and family. We are trying for #2 and hoping the next time will be much better. 🤞

di you have to use hospital or visit anyone in a care home? Mum’s 18 hours on a trolley in A&E - suspencted heart attack- she had to wear a mask. March or April 2022. They initially told me I wasn’t allowed in. I barged in after hour 16. Took her mask off. She was so relieved.

are care home still being arses, I haven’t visited one since June.

I hope so, too.

As we know lockdowns are brutal causing so many knock on terrible effects as illustrated in this thread, but before vaccines some form of lockdown may have been unavoidable although appreciate and respect opinions vary greatly on this especially those who had awful outcomes from lockdown. I don’t have the answers. I do note had Johnson’s govt locked down sooner both in March and winter 2020 lockdowns may have been able to have been at least shorter.

A report by Lancet medical journal’s COVID-19 commission in September this year has spelt out failures in the international response to the pandemic, laying out recommendations to better prepare for future health emergencies. Article in the BMJ about the report. www.bmj.com/content/378/bmj.o2237

Didn't end June 2021 here in Wales either. Xmas 2021 was pretty grim. Loads of events cancelled last minute, couldn't plan anything as no-one knew what the rules would be, we only narrowly avoided the schools being closed again.

Quite so, when schools and unis closed in March 2020, it was widely believed and stated that they would re-open after Easter, or there would have been a bigger furore at the time. Then as the weeks passed, it became more obvious that Covid was not a flash in the pan and that lockdown was like a train we couldn't get off. I don't really believe the govt could have reopened schools as the unions would have pulled their members out straightaway. I laughed when Liz Truss announced recently that had she been in charge, she would have opposed the closure of schools in 2020. It just was not in the power of any politician to do that, with SAGE and the unions on their backs.

It wasn’t over by then? We had omicron that winter and all the hysteria over lockdown again even though it didn’t happen. Tg.

And that vote for restrictions etc

The Covid act ended after two years when they finally dialled back on everything

I’m so sorry to hear of all the awful experiences everyone has suffered. I can easily understand why some of you say you feel bitter.

I’d been telling myself I got away lightly and I was completely fine - after all, I kept my job and I didn’t get seriously ill.

But truthfully, my life is a mess now. My marriage is on the rocks. DH became disrespectful and nasty during lockdown and I did nothing about it (my MH was in the toilet, I was exhausted from working 50+ hours a week, and I literally couldn’t go anywhere...) he’s got worse since and I just don’t have the energy to deal with it.

I’ve piled weight on, lost touch with friends, I have lingering depression. I look at photos from the exciting work trips I went on in 2019 and don’t recognise myself. I feel guilty that I haven’t sorted myself out yet.

This is obviously nothing like the traumatic experiences so many others have had and I’m grateful not to have suffered anything worse, but even so, it should be ok to admit we’re not ok.

I agree with PP that it feels as if it’s all been forgotten and we’re just expected to get on with it, like nothing happened.

I had a mild bout of Covid in January 21. Now, i have Long Covid and am under the care of the respiratory clinic. At the end of a 10 minute walk I feel as if I'm breathing through a flannel. I used to walk all the time - on holiday and at home. Now I can't walk. I was a keen Am
Dram player. Covid messed with my cognitive ability. Never once being prompted (Usually leading roles) I found I couldn't remember 3 lines. In comparison with the terrible experiences of others, this is nothing. But Covid has changed my life.