Did covid screw anyone else's life up?

[girlmeetsboy]

Interested to hear on this as I have been reading a thread where people loved the solidarity of it all. For me it was redundancy, house lost, business lost and savings...

From a personal point of view I was lucky to be able to continue working most of the time, as I work in a school and we had some children in throughout both school closures- busy but less,stressful than usual!

However my DH became very risk averse which drove me crazy and I have questioned our relationship ever since, which I never did before, though there were issues with it.

Our youngest, always prone to anxiety, did not cope at all with online learning and began to partially refuse to go to school as their GCSEs approached so we were constantly trying to persuade them, get them to complete assessments etc so they could be awarded them (2021). They got most and their grades were mostly as predicted but we have continued to have the same issues with college/ work placements. They now have diagnosed depression and take medication but their moods vary so much - we are constantly on guard.

Oldest had just left college and started voluntary work (due to having no idea what they wanted to do next) so that all stopped and it was an effort to get them to do anything. When they did get jobs they didn't last but they do now have a job they like and have a long distance partner.

My mother died shortly before the pandemic started. My father has been quite a hermit since though seems contented enough, but it put paid to him having more freedom after having cared for my mother for many years.

Overall I find my motivation is generally much lower, other than when I am at work. I often feel slightly bored and at a loose end even though I theretically have tons to do.

Several people I know have died in recent years - not from covid though - and that doesn't help. Could be just my time of life - older kids, getting older etc. But I defintely don't feel that happy or content with my life.

Don't think for a minute they won't lock us down again. Even my elderly mum understands that now.

I don't know about the longer term, it's impossible to say what might happen in a few decades, but during this pandemic there is not a chance in hell it's going to happen again in the UK.

Lockdown required quite a specific combination of ingredients and they're not there now. The Tory MPs would remove any PM who attempted it, the state is clearly not about to pay for more furlough and lockdown cannot happen without it, plus the population wouldn't have it.

Thank you, @CaptainNelson . I could also add that my brain fog is improving too. I know what you mean by life being on hold. I think the key is not to push it, for him not to tire himself out. Hopefully he will get better in small increments if he doesn't overdo it.

Our finances got completely destroyed during covid and we still haven’t caught up. I can’t see that we will ever recover financially. I also developed a mild case of Bell’s palsy , thankfully mostly recovered.

I will never look at the world the same way again. It was a terrifying and eye opening couple of years.

I can identify with what you have said.
In addition, I think some people in certain jobs/sectors were treated unfairly throughout. I feel the aftermath of that treatment /experience will last for a long time and manifest in different ways.

And my dd changed so
much. An outgoing, sociable and happy child in pre covid times is now introverted, with very few friends and some level of anxiety. Lockdown came at precisely the wrong time developmentally for some children

Thank you 💐

@EmmaH2022 no one would talk and on MN, I was called, weak, hysterical, all sorts

I started several threads about the evils of lockdown, and MNHQ deleted them because they were "triggering". As were, apparently, my comments about not sticking to the rules, which were also deleted. I in turn messaged HQ to say this was censorship, and got some woolly reply. I was gagged at the time, but I will say now that I'm allowed to say it that lockdown was arguably the worst policy any government has ever dreamed up.

Yes my husband died from cancer in the middle of the pandemic due to misdiagnosis and delays in starting chemo.

life will never be the same again

We lost everything. Never thought at my age I would be living in a rented house and facing no retirement.
It came just as we were trying to rebuild our finances after we had to pay for dhs cancer treatment.
Dh was told to isolate. He did the first time and he never recovered from the first lockdown.
He refused to isolate again. He still hasn’t recovered mentally from the lockdowns and will never work again.

There was a clause that allowed exceptions for people at risk of harm, illness or injury.
I'm reading here of so many people who were harmed by these rules. I'm so sorry for your dd and for everyone who has suffered.

I was pushed into redundancy from w job I’d had 23 years. Other than that lockdown etc didn’t bother me. But my dad died this year as a result of catching Covid while in hospital for something else.

Yes stress of working through covid 19 workload off the scale.
traumatised patients
traumatised staff

I need to acknowledge the loss,trauma and distress on this thread. Terrible.
No adequate response really
Just take care

My son died during covid, June 2020. Before that I was redeployed as a nurse to work in ICU with covid patients. Because of covid, my son moved home for those few months, he was a student in his last year of masters degree. He had a brain heamorhage the week that I returned back to work after covid. If he was still living in his students house, he would have been found alone. He gave life to 4 men, covid in my circumstances didn't screw my life up, it gave me and my husband a few last months with our darling boy xo

I was told that I was creating panic when I said I thought Covid would still be around in 2022

It might be terrible but I don’t get why Long Covid is any different to people having ME or other post viral issues.

If lockdowns worked then China would be Covid free.

It is something we are going have to live with so it is pointless in locking down.

What a wonderful legacy your beloved son left @dinozzo.

I was thinking about the exact same thing the other day. For me, its the weight gain! Wouldn't say it's a massive issue, but I've piled on about 3 stone, and can't seem to shift it whatever I do.

Made DH diabetes worse as he didn’t leave the house for months, nearly a year/no walking or exercise and constantly snacking. Never once went for a walk despite me encouraging good habits. Now has to have a cataract operation next week.

not me but my sister left her boyfriend just before covid, was happy and thriving for a while then got lonely and mental health got worse during lockdown and she got back with him. he too proposed a couple months in, she said yes but kept saying to me she had cold feet. think she got carried away and ended up getting married this last year and has nothing positive to say about the whole marriage thing since. i really think if covid hadn’t happened she would not be with him.

Since Covid I do feel less tolerant of other people and their nonsense especially at work. I feel less in control of my responses (eg. will roll my eyes). One way or another we have all been through enough! I can only hope that we all have the inner strength to carry on.

it was shit. I lost my job, my alcohol use spiralled out of control.

I got a nice new job and quit drinking over a year ago but I feel much more isolated as I wfh and I think a lot of friends just cba going out any more. I feel my world has shrunk quite a bit.

lucky to not have lost anyone to it though

Me too. Such terrible stories . Heartbreaking.

Honestly. Whilst this is lovely, perhaps read the room (thread).

So did one of my closest friends. She was 43 and had three children (10-16). She couldn't get a face to face appointment because of lockdown. By the time she was seen, she couldn't be treated.