Did covid screw anyone else's life up?

[girlmeetsboy]

Interested to hear on this as I have been reading a thread where people loved the solidarity of it all. For me it was redundancy, house lost, business lost and savings...

Gove or Starmer would have had much longer lockdown. I think Johnson was the least worst option.

other countries have been appallingly bad.

there was a poster here from China who kept saying how wonderful it was.

i better get off this thread before I give myself a blood pressure problem.

Thank you 💙

@girlmeetsboy big hugs to you too, if I win the lottery I will reach out. I hope you can salvage your marriage, its so hard isn't it. I am so scared and shouldn't be at this stage of my life.
And to the poster who said why didn't you say something at the time - oh I did, many many times, to MP's and with excludeduk - no one sodding cared, just bang your saucepan and all will be well.

I really enjoyed the lockdowns to be honest and actually miss them to an extent but that being said I am agoraphobic and have bad ocd so it was literally a dream for me to be able to not have to leave the house , to get to work from home , not do school runs, not have busy supermarkets and germ infested places etc. I’m finding going back to normal much harder to deal with and wish I could reverse the clock but I know I’m majorly in the minority

Oh my, that is so moving. I had some surreal conversations with strangers which were nice, I particularly remember snowy walks in near empty parks.

As for mn the sheer abuse was off the scale from some quarters, a couple of posters were unhinged in hounding any voice off re the damage.

It’s such a loss, looking at this thread now the hysteria has passed.

I came within a whisker of having my long planned escape from an abusive relationship scuppered, not by Covid itself I would like to emphasise but by the knee jerk reaction of Lockdown. If the dates for my exchange/completion had been a week later it would all have collapsed and I would still be stuck with my abusive ex or homeless.

So I realised early on that the rules were complete nonsense and in fact it was lockdown itself that caused me more threat than Covid. Luckily financially it didn't affect my job as I'm an ITU nurse, so obviously there was work.

Therefore I never obeyed the laws - I was out several times a day, ripped tape off park benches and sat down, went where I wanted and saw whoever would break the rules with me. Must say this helped my mental health massively and I've got through relatively unscathed as has my DD who saw friends during lockdown.

My parents though - definitely frailer, they were super fit and outgoing but lockdown definitely did a number on them and they don't really go out much anymore.

GrimVines
I could cry for your little boy, and all the others.
When the shops started running out of food one of my daughters phoned me up, crying. I said im coming to you she said, no, mum! what if the police stop you
I said just fucking let them, I DONT CARE

Yes you are in the minority. Kids attempting to kill themselves, WTF! I hated every second and think the government should be held accountable for what they did.

Yes the hysteria and judgement. And it came from the government with their "don't kill granny" rhetoric. And most of us did follow the rules. Which made their "oh we didn't really mean you to actually follow the rules" when they got caught all the more upsetting.

Many demanded it though. Posters on here wanted more lockdowns, stricter rules for example.

Yes had 6 months delay for a life changing health diagnosis, the delay stopped any chance of recovery. The ban on dental treatment has led to me losing nearly all my bottom teeth, I'm now waiting for 10 stumps to be removed & the range of food I can eat is getting less & less. My mental health is shot, I only go out on the rare occasions I have medical appointments, I'm waiting for a wheelchair & have been told it could be up to two years before I get an appointment at the dental hospital, I've had 10+ courses of antibiotics for abcesses.

At least there’s one thing that’s come out of it: they wouldn’t get away with it again.
Unlike Wuhan who are in lockdown AGAIN.

Don’t get me wrong I agree wholeheartedly that it was wrong and also feel deeply saddened by the loss of life finances health etc for others it’s awful the way it has affected people but for me personally with my illness it allowed me to justifiably retreat and took alot of social pressure off me

Thank you, I will reach out if I win too! I'm actually sitting here watching a place in the sun, I used to watch it all the time thinking when we retired and sold up, where would I buy and want to live? What a strange time it's been, I feel so sad and bitter now but you can't go back. I lash out at my husband because I blame him for being made redundant which is unfair I know but he changed jobs on a whim 2 months before and lost the security of his previous employer. However this thread is truly humbling to me. X

Some truly awful stories on here.

I fear that the repercussions of Covid and all the lockdowns will go on for many years.

I also think there were widely different experiences and impacts. Some lost a lot, others gained.

We were lucky. Both DH and I could WFH and didn't miss the commute. Nobody that we knew died and we were able to spend the last few years of Ddog's life with him 24/7. We and DC got on very well. DD had her usual school timetable but via zoom. DS missed a few months of Uni but was locked in there with his mates in the 2nd lockdown and his Uni was good. We were very lucky.

However it may get us in the end. The recession could make DH's job vulnerable and our pensions have tanked. The rise in the cost of living is scary and God knows what Government policies will be. We will be working an extra 10 years.

Yes! I found out I was pregnant in February 2020! Then we went into lockdown! My (ex) partner moved in with me and got made redundant twice, luckily found other jobs! We moved out of London and covid created a very isolated bubble in my new town! I had all my maternity appointments and scans alone! Whilst my partner was always supportive it felt like we didn't bond throughout my pregnancy. I was also working from home and because of covid it made my stressful job even more stressful!

When I went into Labour. I was in a hospital ward by myself for a day and a half. It was horrible walking round a ward on your own in pain (it was my first child so didn't realise normally you'd have a partner or family by your side)! The staff were fabulous but they couldn't stay with my every minute of the day! I remember running myself a bath and eating marmite on toast in the ward at 2am alone....
My partner was allowed in for the last twelve hours of the birth and had to leave two hours afterwards! I spent the next four days alone in hospital. No visitors.

When I came home I realised my partner had spent those four days drinking and hadn't even got any new food in the fridge for me! I truly believe if he'd been allowed to stay in the hospital we might have all bonded as a family and it would have been a much nice start to being a mum. Instead I ended up doing everything alone. My ex went into depression and turned to drink and he walked out when my daughter was ten months old.

I am now a single mother working full time, having to pay rent, childcare etc and do 90% of childcare for my daughter! I feel covid maybe wasn't the only reason my relationship broke down but it definitely exposed my partner for what he really was!

I feel it was not great for our kids. My youngest missed out on 6th form and all the fun associated with leaving school. He also missed out on his gold DofE expedition. The older one missed out on lots of fun and travel in his post uni years.

I am aware this is all very first world. we kept our jobs, income and health and had what we remember as a very special family time in 2020.

DD13 got pregnant, had abortion, was sexually assaulted and then took an overdose. Navigating all that in the space of a few months during lockdown was a lot. Made us so close and bonded at a deeper level but it was definitely not happy walks and homeschooling for us. Weirdly reading though these makes me feel a lot less alone. Everything so much better now.

Thanks for the link. @ganachee

Don't be so confident
look at the worldwide pandemic "treaty" they are sorting out

this is the start

and hopefully those who thought I was a nutter in March 2020 have learned something by now...I also warned about climate lockdowns, clearly referenced by the Speaker of the House. I get my information from government, not bloody nostradamus or the bible, as some accused me of.

now you can see how close we are. Look at the Oxford traffic proposals.

don't think for a minute they won't lock us down again. Even my elderly mum understands that now.

@girlmeetsboy
I completely get this and I feel like im the only one who it impacted, having work mates boasting about how much money they saved working from home/not going out etc was really hard

People are incredibly insensitive. I am in that group of people WFH. My MH actually improved during the lockdowns and loved working from home, still love the hybrid work. But I make sure I keep it to myself in a group of people, unless I know for a fact they experienced the lockdown the same as myself. Covid was incredibly unfair to so many people.
I am so sorry how hard it was for many people.
I lost my job after the credit crunch and it took years for me to recover both financially and also my MH was very affected by it.

Hope things start getting easier for you all.

Omg, I am so sorry for you and your daughter 😢, I have 3 and cannot imagine what you went through. This thread has made me feel a lot less alone too xx

Yep, worked on a covid ward and saw a lot of death. Saw colleagues die.
Thought I was through it until I lost my DMum to it last month along with 500 other people that same week. I think the real total is higher though as DMums death wasnt recorded as Covid, despite her being positive at time of death. She had all 4 vaccines as well.
Its still out there causing destruction and its reopened a lot of wounds for me.

@Thatboymum Well that's great something positive came out of it for you, I'm guessing if it was your 12 year old child attempting suicide then it wouldn't have been so peachy. I hope you manage to get the appropriate treatment for your agoraphobia and OCD.

I realise I don't look like much of a prospect for a fun friend

but I notice some posters saying they ignored the rules

if you are a Londoner and you want to DM, please do. I'd love a friend for the next lockdown. If I decide to stick around.