Did covid screw anyone else's life up?

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Interested to hear on this as I have been reading a thread where people loved the solidarity of it all. For me it was redundancy, house lost, business lost and savings...

No, it was worse, it was planned. The bills for the PR campaigns go back to Feb. The related jobs are tenders were on the government website.

I am still furious too. I won't link but I have posted on the Covid board recently and I think people still think as they did then.

I’ve lost my best friend. His medical procedure kept being delayed (non-priority, pre existing condition). Then when he eventually got operated on, he contracted sepsis and died.

I’ve put weight on, struggled with my confidence. There were days when I was really horrible for DS when we were working from home and doing school work at the same time. The guilt is still there. My anxiety went through the roof and never really fully calmed down.

The owner of a famous family-run restaurant in my city took his life as his business was decimated and never recovered. The sheer impact of decisions made by governments will never be fully known or understood.

My deepest sympathies to those who have shared their tragic stories here.

I’m so very sorry for those of you who have suffered & still suffering absolutely heartbreaking I know a stranger on the internet can’t change what has happened or make it any better, I’m truly sorry for all that has been endured & the price so many of you are still paying 💐💐

I appreciate covid has disrupted and affected many people’s lives profoundly in various ways. My post is about the many people whose health has been physically affected badly by covid and are now suffering from long covid. It can affect all ages, but female, age 35-64 are the the highest number affected. Not insignificant numbers are becoming long term disabled - the level of disability varies from person to person like many chronic illnesses - and if a main form of LC turns out similar to ME which it shares many overlapping symptoms with such as exertion intolerance (small amounts of physical, mental and emotional exertion can make the person feel very ill - much more than fatigue - exertion limits vary from as little as brushing one’s teeth to a gentle short walk) then this is not good as full recovery rate in ME is low (5%).

At least - not all - more people with long Covid are being medically advised to pace all activity from the start which may help with recovery or level of disability whilst ME patients were urged to push and exercise at the beginning which made them worse. Some people with long covid are thankfully reaching full remission but too many are still ill two years on. More research needed to develop effective biomedical treatments.

The Guardian are doing a series on long covid currently and this article shares the stories of people with LC.

www.theguardian.com/society/2022/oct/25/long-covid-fight-guardian-readers

I was so sad about some of the nonsensical rules we had to follow, and the fact that my children suffered so much. I'm in Wales and it was even worse here. My son was 8 in March 2020, he was happy, outgoing, sociable, emotionally mature, loads of friends, laid back and always up for anything. His catchphrase was "don't worry Mummy, I'll be fine". Repeated lockdowns destroyed him. Now he is massively anxious, incredibly rigid about sticking to routines, struggling socially, feels sad, has massive sensory issues, i could go on. He's going through an ASD diagnosis through school, as apparently that's the only way he'll get the help he needs, but it still makes no sense to me. I think it's trauma. If I'd even suggested to anyone when he was 8 that he could have autism they'd have laughed at me.

(He's still never had actual covid)

Yes, work wa

My mental health has really suffered due to covid/lockdowns. I've always had bad anxiety, but in 2019 was in a really good place. The widespread fear, uncertainty & unknown that came with covid, and all the last minute lockdowns and rules just spiraled my anxiety disorder to absolute rock bottom. I'm still really struggling now.

We were lucky that our financial situation wasn't affected, and we didn't lose any family members. I'm so sorry to those on this thread who did 💐

I realised my marriage wasn't a great one and actually I’ve been lonely within my marriage and I think I’d be happier on my own.

Yes, work(NHS) was horrendous. Homelife, and wider family relationships were very badly affected, and will never be the same again. Very traumatic time for my DC. It would be too outing to go into detail, but I can't believe the devastation caused.

No. But I'm a lone parent with no support or social life and I'm very organised. One dc hates school anyway, the other was happy doing homework and chatting on discord. I had to walk and run them every day which got boring but I had to suck it up.

Yes! Husband lost a year’s earnings, no help from the government, got in debt with the taxman and credit cards. Son started school refusing after the lockdown. We both have to work like dogs now, still in debt, and son in therapy.

I've become friends with someone whose DH died during lockdown. She hasn't got children. The service she had for him had to be online, and she is profoundly upset that she couldn't have a proper funeral with friends there. I noticed that she was very quiet recently when someone was saying it was time to 'bring back Boris'.

I'm so glad I started this thread so we can all offload. In a strange way it's made me appreciate that we still have our health, I don't think my marriage will recover though. Interesting to hear about long covid, I've had it and have never felt right since. Much love ❤️ to all of you xx

Gosh your post really got me GrimVimes I am so sad to read how changed your little boy is. And angry. So, so angry.

Although this is not an upbeat thread reading it has given me some comfort that I’m not alone in feeling like I completely failed to get the old me back since lockdown. I’ve struggled hugely, not least because my DH had a MH relapse with no treatment, my DD is a nurse and you know in the beginning I was terrified she would get covid and people were dying all around her.

During the actual lockdown months I felt I would manage, it’s the aftermath that’s floored me and yet most people around me seem to be moving forward no problem.

I’m not waving I feel like I’m silently drowning.

So sorry to hear everyone’s stories. I also lost my lovely dad to Covid. My mum is completely broken and I feel like life will never shine again.

I may have lost the chance to have children because of not being able to meet or date people for 2 years.

My problems are so small compared with some of the heartbreaking stories on this thread. Sending positivity and solidarity to all who are struggling

For me, my profession was a really important part of my life. As an academic, this involves research as well as teaching, and I'd carved out a role as a recognised expert in a niche area. I devour books, and am a seasoned writer and editor. In some strange way it defined me: books, reading and writing are a passion, not just a means of making a living, and I love sharing it with others and instilling/invigorating that same passion in others.

Lockdown, entailing a year's teaching purely online, nearly finished me off. By the end I was exhausted and suffering burnout. DH and I worked ourselves into the ground over that whole period: no furlough for us, and no let-up. It feels as though that burnout has never lifted. Early this summer I was just looking forward to normality returning, to research trips, to a holiday, to productive work, and was buzzing about it for the first time in about two years. Then I was involved in an accident and seriously injured, meaning in essence I've had three years' lockdown over summer, as during my recovery period as I was confined greatly in space and movement. I'm now left wondering if I can ever find the energy to dust myself off, get up, and get going yet again (before COVID I was ill, diagnosed with cPTSD I'd had a lifetime but didn't know I had, before even that, I'd had a long succession of miscarriages but succeeded in having our one DC).

I'm exhausted. I'm really beginning to fear I'll never get my raison d'etre, energy, fire, drive, and enthusiasm for life back again. And I had a LOT of all those.

It really scares me.

I lost my dad and my father in law. They didn't die of covid but diedbecause they didn't receive treatment for other illnesses.

Also furiously angry about the way sick people have been left struggling and a generation of children and young people failed.

Why was it so hard to say this at the time? Now is too late

Wales was hit very hard and extended.
At one stage it was ‘illegal’ to purchase books and kettles at Tesco.

out lock downs were longer and harder and I can never forgive Drakeford for that.

he has blood on his hands. As does every government that follows China lockdown blindly.

For me an expatriate friend who took her life whilst distraught at the loss of a parent on yet another continent. I knew she was distraught but couldn’t go to her.

Not sure which bits in particular but IRL no one would talk and on MN, I was called, weak, hysterical, all sorts.

I still am hugely grateful to two ladies who hugged me in the street, and a lovely man who sat next to me on an empty bus, with the bus driver looking on in horror.

for my part, I offered a hug to a crying teen on the Tube and she said "yes please".