Did covid screw anyone else's life up?

girlmeetsboy · 2022-10-27T12:28:43+00:00

Interested to hear on this as I have been reading a thread where people loved the solidarity of it all. For me it was redundancy, house lost, business lost and savings...

PleaseYourselfandEatTheCrusts · 27/10/2022 13:40

I feel like too many friendships fell by the wayside due to lockdown. I feel much more isolated now.

PinkyandtheBrainBrainBrainBrainBrain · 27/10/2022 13:41

Yeah. Mental health mainly. Isolation. Drinking too much. Weight gain.

I was in a great place in 2019. I’m really struggling to get back there. I don’t think working from home is helping.

Fireballxl5 · 27/10/2022 13:42

@girlmeetsboy that’s awful Op.

Not me but my poor df, 91, it’s ruined his mental health.
He hardly goes out now and is struggling to manage his affairs but refuses to accept help.

Brieeeeeeeee · 27/10/2022 13:43

Yeah. I don’t think it was the primary cause but I was on top of the world in late 2019 & now I’m a complete mess.

Girliefriendlikespuppies · 27/10/2022 13:50

Yep my dd developed a serious ED during the first lockdown and we're still in the grips of it now.

For us the cost of lockdown has been huge.

PurpleWisteria1 · 27/10/2022 13:52

I put in weight which I am struggling to lose.
i have become much more apathetic somehow and also fearful of what’s round the corner.
I feel I have lost 2 years of my kids childhood.

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girlmeetsboy · 27/10/2022 13:54

PinkyandtheBrainBrainBrainBrainBrain · 27/10/2022 13:41

Yeah. Mental health mainly. Isolation. Drinking too much. Weight gain.

I was in a great place in 2019. I’m really struggling to get back there. I don’t think working from home is helping.

Yes can relate to all of this x

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forlornlorna1 · 27/10/2022 13:54

Almost lost my dd. Her mental health plummeted and we couldn't access any mental health support till she became so unwell that she tried to take her life. She was 11. I'm still in therapy for it myself. She's doing ok now 🤞

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girlmeetsboy · 27/10/2022 13:55

Fireballxl5 · 27/10/2022 13:42

@girlmeetsboy that’s awful Op.

Not me but my poor df, 91, it’s ruined his mental health.
He hardly goes out now and is struggling to manage his affairs but refuses to accept help.

Bless him, I can understand that, forced to stay in, he must wonder what the point is in going out now x

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Scianel · 27/10/2022 13:56

We clung on financially by the skin of our teeth. Due to that and the whole tone of hysterical judgement, I genuinely feel like a less nice person now and much concerned with making sure that me and mine are okay.

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girlmeetsboy · 27/10/2022 13:57

forlornlorna1 · 27/10/2022 13:54

Almost lost my dd. Her mental health plummeted and we couldn't access any mental health support till she became so unwell that she tried to take her life. She was 11. I'm still in therapy for it myself. She's doing ok now 🤞

Im so sorry you both went through this, lots of love to you, I feel guilty for posting now x

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girlmeetsboy · 27/10/2022 13:59

Brieeeeeeeee · 27/10/2022 13:43

Yeah. I don’t think it was the primary cause but I was on top of the world in late 2019 & now I’m a complete mess.

Me too, I felt like I had everything sort and was in NY (my absolute dream to go and DH had been 5 times and hated it but went for me) I now feel like a spoilt child whilst having to rent and work 60 hours a week to pay the bills

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Geneticsbunny · 27/10/2022 14:00

I have serious ongoing trauma from what we went through due to lockdown and my 13 year old son is still not fully recovered 18 months on from his catatonic breakdown which left him unable to speak or move.

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girlmeetsboy · 27/10/2022 14:03

Geneticsbunny · 27/10/2022 14:00

I have serious ongoing trauma from what we went through due to lockdown and my 13 year old son is still not fully recovered 18 months on from his catatonic breakdown which left him unable to speak or move.

Im so sorry to read this, massive hold hand to you x

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YeahmetooJill · 27/10/2022 14:10

Yes, I finally got back into work and loved it, going out to work, interesting colleagues. Felt alive and like me again. Few months later lockdown. My work decided to keep on working from home after lockdown. So now I am stuck alone all day, every day ( rarely need to communicate with anyone else at all for my job) in a house I hate, in an area I hate. A group that was really therapeutic for me and enormously important to also closed down over lockdown and never restarted.

Its had an awful impact.

bonzaitree · 27/10/2022 14:11

It screwed up my mental health, but glad to say I've made a full recovery and moved on with my life. New job, new dog, new man! Happy days!

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girlmeetsboy · 27/10/2022 14:11

Scianel · 27/10/2022 13:56

We clung on financially by the skin of our teeth. Due to that and the whole tone of hysterical judgement, I genuinely feel like a less nice person now and much concerned with making sure that me and mine are okay.

Its turned me into a horrible bitter person! Im glad for you that you hung on financially, weve had a lot of judgement too especially from smug in laws who harp on about how much their property has made whilst we have lost everything

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zippalippa · 27/10/2022 14:14

I think it triggered some sort of mental break in my sister, for which we all paid the cost. She has now cut off the entire family so I'm not sure how she is doing now, but it definitely made something inside of her snap and she behaved very erratically and made some very strange decisions.

My life feels lighter without her, so there is a silver lining. She was very abusive and her rejection is a blessing in disguise.

Jules912 · 27/10/2022 14:20

Lock down itself was ok but pretty sure it meant DD 7's autism (well suspected as can't get a diagnosis for years!) wasn't picked up until she just couldn't cope at school any more (possibly due to all the mitigations making it easier for her to mask).

Soubriquet · 27/10/2022 14:22

I had to give up my job in December after my second bout as I had long covid and was constantly exhausted.

I still can’t go back yet…and I’ve just had covid again!

Squirrelsnut · 27/10/2022 14:23

Triggered health anxiety and compulsive tendencies in DH, which has really battered our relationship.

Lbnc2021 · 27/10/2022 14:24

Covid killed my darling dad which screwed things up a lot.

pompomdaisy · 27/10/2022 14:26

Yes my daughter took an overdose at 15 due to poor MH and agoraphobia, she thankfully survived, however, my brother killed himself. I'm a different person now.

Scianel · 27/10/2022 14:28

@girlmeetsboy I'm so sorry. I bet you're not horrible at all, you're just having an understandable reaction.

Itsthepits · 27/10/2022 14:33

Yep.
Horrendous anxiety, OCD and an ED. I barely leave the house and I’m struggling to work.

Parent, isolated, took to drink after being dry for 15 years. Mental and physical decline with sudden dementia and frailty and now in a home. Was happily working full time until lockdown.

Siblings marriage has broken down.

We both now have DC with MH issues.