Did covid screw anyone else's life up?

[girlmeetsboy]

Interested to hear on this as I have been reading a thread where people loved the solidarity of it all. For me it was redundancy, house lost, business lost and savings...

Not that much compared with others but I retired early as I couldn't stand wfh and then couldn't really do all the things I had planned, now I can, I find I can't really be bothered and just stay in a lot, not worried about Covid, in fact I had it a couple of weeks ago, just don't really want to go out much.

It finished off DF as he was stuck in during lockdown then when he could eventually go out he had lost the ability to walk further than a few meters, whereas before he was walking to the shops and taking bus journeys out a lot.

Putin lost it over that period.

I had a mental breakdown at the end of 2018 and the whole of 2019 is a bit of a blur tbh, I was very unwell, so in a way the first lockdown actually in hindsight helped my mental health in a weird way. Being at home and having time with the DH and DCs, I was able to slow down and process.
But as it all went on my dd started to get very bad anxiety and it was becoming a real issue, she's improving now but it has had a significant impact on her mental health and that is a constant worry.
I feel like a lot of our family (outside our immediate circle) has broken down somewhat and we don't get together hardly as much now, where before we did things together a lot.
3 couples who we are good friends with (one of which we were very close to, often round each others houses, holidays together ect) have had quite messy break ups that came about because of issues during lock down and although we have not taken sides and tried to stay friends with both, the dynamic of those relationships has changed quite dramatically too and obviously things will never be the same.
I now feel quite selfish and a bit ashamed that I kind of almost enjoyed the first lockdown.
I know these things pale significantly to some of the other things posted here.

I hope he ignored the rules and so did you. How sad.

Covid didn't spoil my life.

lockdown and attendant problems - yes. Lost friendships, close to suicide, change to work.

but...my finances haven't been hit too hard so I feel guilty in a way saying that. My heart goes out to those affected financially but that's no help, I know.

in case anyone lost a job as carer or HCP, I have a petition link on that board as we are not allowed to put them elsewhere.

So sorry to hear this. I have vaccine triggered psoriasis. A year of pure pain and misery. Best wishes to your DD

For me there were huge gains and big losses.

My kids thrived, we bonded together and had a simpler life which seemed to give them some mental stability. Sorry if others had such a hard time.

However some of my relationships were thrown into sharp reality and now will never recover. Maybe it’s a good thing? My father and me had been going through the motions before Covid, visiting rarely, superficial, pretending it was all OK. For 3 years now his obvious disinterest has made me realise how little he ever cared for me or my children.

I lost a few friends also, because I used to make all the effort for them and without me doing the travelling, contacting and visiting, they collapsed.

First baby born Jan 2020. Almost had recovered from v long birth and PPD and then COVID happened. Still angers me now what it put me through. Especially while they were partying.

Yes, completely screwed it up.

I haven't seen my family in 5 years now. When covid hit I was working in Australia. The borders closed. Nobody allowed in or out so I was trapped.
and of course I was trapped in the city that had the longest and most severe lockdowns in the world.
I became despondent and at times suicidal. I development agoraphobia.
The borders opened back up November last year and I am still stuck here. I have booked 11 flights since the beginning of the year and can't even get to the airport to get on the plane and go home.
I have gained so much weight binge eating.
I'm being treated for depression, agoraphobia, anxiety panic disorder, OCD.
I'm a shell of what I once was.
I still have hope to get back home by the end of the year.

Sorry to hear all those who have been so impacted

We’re ok but I would really push against the same response again, the measures caused a lot of damage

DH and I were fortunate to come through unscathed but we lost a family member at 53 years old. Two people I know have been medically retired from their jobs because of the toll Covid took on their internal organs (one was in the Marines so was very fit before), another has lost the sight in one eye. Yet another has had to have a pacemaker fitted after Covid and another a heart by-pass. I'm not sure how medics know that these problems have been caused by the virus but they are adamant this is the case.

Yes mine, I lost my beloved brother to covid, he died in a tiny hospital room alone. Only 20 people allowed at the funeral and we are all still heartbroken 2 years later.

it ruined my life. I gained a lot of weight due to binge eating, developed a drinking problem and felt suicidal. I've never really recovered. I've lost myself and I can't see her coming back.

I’m so, so sorry 😢

Nothing like some on here, I worked throughout, long hours while alone with autistic teenage DC who didn't cope well with lockdown. CAHMS were fantastic throughout.

My teen left home after making all sorts of things up and has cut all contact, I've had one message from them this year. Everyone, including the professionals, says, it isn't you Witch it is them and they'll come back eventually. Heartbreaking.

Like a lot I found it a really lonely time and my social life has not recovered. My life feels like it is just work with a heap of effort required for anything outside work. No joy in anything, I'm just going through the motions.

There are some truly heartbreaking stories on this thread.

For us, it’s had emotional and financial implications. I had a newborn just as lockdown started. I have never felt so alone in my life. DH working crazy hours in the hospital and worrying about passing it on to me and the baby. Me alone with a baby day after day after day. Post maternity leave I lost my job due to redundancies and although I got another better paid role, I was pregnant when it happened so lost my enhanced maternity pay and we have taken a financial hit as I’m on maternity allowance.

DH missed huge parts of DD1’s first year including significant events due to either working or being very ill with covid. DH is still traumatised by what he witnessed at work and the impact this had on him, and on our marriage, is still there today. He is an angrier, more anxious version of himself. He has only just started therapy for everything he went through.

I have had two children which has obviously impacted on my life immeasurably but I am out a lot less than I was before. I haven’t been on proper a night out since 2019 and I’m not sure I’d want to.

For us it feels like there was life pre and post covid. It was extremely hard but thankfully I wouldn’t say it ruined our lives. I am especially grateful for how lightly we got off compared to some on this thread.

me and husband were both out of work at the start of Covid, our savings dwindled and then we went on UC. Fortunately for us our mortgage is very low so we just about got by. Our youngest who was 3 at the time I think suffered socially and has taken him a while to get back on track. I have also gained weight which I’m now trying to loose.
on the upside I’m now working again and DH has set up his own business and has never been happier at work. I would say it didn’t completely ruin our lives but I won’t want to go through it again.

I came through unscathed financially and socially - it actually strengthened a lot of friendships.

However, I have been left feeling wary and untrustworthy of human nature, which I did not have before. I remember people shouting at one another if they got too close, if they didn't wear a mask, I remember threads on here complaining about people going to the bloody shops and how they were 'killing people' by doing so. If they were unvaccinated it was suddenly acceptable to wish death on them. The way in which people 'turned' so viciously was, to me, pretty horrifying and unfortunately has left me with a cynicism about humans in general.

I lost my marriage due to DH mental health issues brought on my lockdown... the true toll of COVID in the wider sense will never be known...

Financially we lost 2/3 of our monthly income due to redundancy after1st lockdown. Its tough on the DC as our lifestyle is completely different to pre covid-19.
I would say the DC suffered the most with being isolated and not being able to see friends. Although they adjusted to everything moving online quite well! DC 1 was ment to sit GCSE in 2020... school just dropped this year group like a hot potato. So many felt utterly lost and scared.

We lost some friends and gained new ones- maybe it's for the better?

I don't dwell on the what should have been, but I am worried about DC future, they are going to have a hard time setting out as independent adults.

I worked on a ward for most of 2020 and that combined with isolation messed with my mental health. I now find that I struggle more in social situations too, I’m not surprised how many people are still feeling the impact even now

Mental health - my anxiety in particular has skyrocketed. Was v depressed during lock down too. Still on medication now.
Had a baby - we kept putting it off because we always had holidays booked or some event on the horizon. This is obviously a positive effect as I’m so happy to have my wonderful DS.
Weight gain - pregnancy/depression snacking/lack of exercise means I’m much heavier than gym going justlonelystars of early 2020.
New job - my company were shits during covid and my pregnancy so I went elsewhere after mat leave. Much happier in this role now.

I lost my DM and wasn't able to support her wearing her mask to breathe and be more comfortable, as she was dying. Thankfully I held her hand in the final moments, but it's left me with heartache beyond the grief.

My DH lost his business, which he'd invested five years into, and was just about to start coming good.

And I lost my business, which I'd run for nearly 20 years.

As a result we depleted all our life savings, to survive.

It's been tough.

A couple of people were super friendly and supportive then went off the wall crazy afterwards...

My SIL and DB had their NHS IVF plans scuppered for the whole time of Covid, due to Covid.

DB and his friends in film and TV lost almost all their work overnight for almost whole of Covid!