Did covid screw anyone else's life up?

[girlmeetsboy]

Interested to hear on this as I have been reading a thread where people loved the solidarity of it all. For me it was redundancy, house lost, business lost and savings...

DH died. He was diagnosed with cancer but all of his treatments were botched and delayed by the panic of the pandemic.

Only having to back into the real world after the most wonderful break that utterly cemented my belief that I would make a marvellous recluse.

Yes it robbed me of the last year of my Mum’s life as we we were unable to visit her 🥹

My chatty, outgoing 15 yr old dd is now on a waiting list for a school counsellor.
Just starting to get back some off her personality back but it's been a long two years.

Not me, it forced me to end a terrible relationship, I've met my now husband, have a gorgeous little boy and bought my own home out right. It wasn't easy as I home schooled my children alone and spent time on my own when they were with their dad. But I wouldn't change my life now.

My mental health has turned to shit. I feel vulnerable and scared in situations that I would ordinarily be OK in pre Covid.

Then in July I caught COVID and naively thought because I didn't have a temp or sore throat, that it would be just like a cold. Famous last words because then I developed an irregular heartbeat, chest pain and crippling fatigue and brain fog.

My specialist has now diagnosed me with long COVID and has ordered a heart scan and lung function tests as I cant even walk up the stairs without getting breathless.

It all feels like one big fat bastard dream that has lasted almost 3 years. But out of all the feeling tired, chest pain and general crap, its the poor mental health that's affected me the most.

Because somewhere along the way, I have lost myself and miss the happy confident person I used to be.

Getting covid screwed my life up. Long covid is completely debilitating

Long covid has blighted DH for a couple of years now. He seems to be improving but it's a long slow process and I don't know if he'll ever be fully restored to the health he used to have.

Saying that, while it's a concern, overall we had a 'good' covid experience - we both WFH for the duration so we got lots of family time, we lived out the countryside so could enjoy our surroundings, nobody in our families passed from covid and nobody suffered job loss or lost their homes.

DH feels we are very lucky compared to many others.

Do you mean actual Covid or the measures taken in the name of Covid? Because the people I know myself included were little effected by the actual disease Covid but the measures taken in the name of Covid here in the UK certainly negatively effected our lives and we are still dealing with the continuing fallout of that.

@Flossyhair sorry to hear that, can I ask what treatment you have been receiving? A family member had the same heart thing after covid

Yes, my life was completely screwed up.

My dh had the essential treatment he needed postponed 3 times. By the time he was finally seen, it was too late, and he died 10 days later. He didn’t die of Covid, but he definitely died because of Covid. 😓

Yes for my family it was redundancy, depression, split family as one parent now working overseas, not good.

Yes and no.

Short term: Actually enjoyed the time off with DH and the kids earlier on.

Lomg term: results were similar to yours plus serious MH issues for one of my children.

Financial it helped us. We had no savings. It reduced our outgoings and we worked from
home throughout so no reduction in income.

My friendships have been really affected although possibly more so in the covid recovery period. We stayed in touch during covid via zoom but now we don’t much.
During lockdowns it was tough but it did bring our family together in a way nothing else would have. We have teens. But it was hard to watch the teens struggle and it has affected them long term - lacking in confidence and courage to go and try new things.
All in all I think it was positive but not by much. A bare margin.

Nearly lost DD to an eating disorder triggered by lockdown 2. Lost a year of my life battling her illness. And we are lucky she recovered.
My DM has never recovered her confidence and has aged 10 years in 2.
My MH is still not recovered.
Both DSs had their exams screwed and suffered as a result.

It's heartbreaking to read of families who couldn't be with loved ones in their final days.

For us, DS has barely been able to go back to school due to autism and anxiety. This did start a couple of weeks before the first lockdown, but he was still attending most days and then lockdown happened. He's in Year 10 now, so potentially could affect his whole future.

A critically vulnerable person in the household.

A government that won't provide Evusheld

We are still very much living in isolation to a large extent, with all the difficulties that brings. Even necessary hospital appointments have become risky now. And the toll on us all is significant

Could be worse, reading some responses makes me very sorry for some things people have been through.
But my mum died in hospital and she died all alone because no visitors were allowed. This was well after most restrictions were lifted. I think I'll never get over it. Bastard covid.

Like a few posters, we worked as normal and I was busier with online Chinese clients as they were all at home! Loved the chance to read more books and spend time on projects and writing.

We had Covid (no vaccines) and only had a mild headache and was positive for a few days. DD didn't even catch it. DD who was 9 spent time online talking to all her classmates when not doing schoolwork.

Yep, I'm self employed and lost around a third of my clients, who were small businesses/self employed who were excluded from the covid support schemes.

Many couldn't continue with their businesses and had to get jobs in supermarkets or warehouses. A few lost their homes due to being unable to pay their mortgages and loans. One committed suicide when his businesses closed down and his home was repossessed.

It was an absolute travesty that some people had support money thrown at them whilst others were completely excluded.

I actually feel quite nostalgic for the problems we had prior to Covid. We didn't know we were born.

I gained a HUGE amount of weight during lockdown, probably due to my mental health at the time and being sedentary and stressed. I am really, really trying to lose the weight but for some reason it’s just NOT shifting. Well actually it is, but at a snails rate and involving a lot of restriction and tons of high intensity exercise. Life has just NOT been the same since for me 😢.

I lost my job too and it’s all been a bit crap work wise since.

@pompomdaisy im so sorry there aren’t any words really 😥

I am autistic and I found lockdowns trying to work full time and home school two children truly traumatic. I am very thankful that my passion is running so I got out of the house.

However, 2021 was the year that was the worst. My work/caseload increased over 1000% due to a delay caused by previous lockdowns and work didn't replace a fellow co worker. I had a breakdown down for the first time in my 20 or so years of working life. My boss/bosses were truly shite. Sending me flowers for 'all my hard work' was not in any way helping me with my workload. Luckily I escaped this year.

I must ask you but didn't you miss your life, friends, going out, holidays etc. Didn't your children miss school? Feel lonely? Have to catch up?

It is worth noting that people blame covid for the situation in Ukraine. The war is affecting us all.