Out oldest is 14 and a bit now and I've been struck by how different people's experience of this age can be. I was talking to a friend I hadn't seen for years and he asked me where 14yo was going out drinking with mates and that is so far from anything they or their mates would do at the moment, though I know some mates' experience of being 14 was drinking, having sexual partners, maybe even clubbing. And still is for some kids (but I wonder if fewer these days?). Mine was not having many mates, and probably still mostly doing things with my family. No interest in boys, or girls - in fact wasn't ready for a relationship until my early 20s.
Current 14 year old likes visiting historical sites, doing weird make-up, making tiktos, has had a pretty innocent starter relationship (mostly during COVID, but they did get kissing in at the end). But drink and sex not on their agenda or their friends, far as I can tell.