Does anyone not offer guests a drink

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I just thought it was common courtesy.
literally the first thing you do when you have someone round - even family. Went to BIL earlier and apparently I should have just asked if I wanted a drink, feel that’s a bit rude?

I always offer drinks. First thing I do. And I hate it when I go to someone’s and they don’t as normally I’m thirsty but I guess that’s my problem and should remember to bring a drink. I think offering a drink just puts people at ease.

I can't imagine having a guest round and not offering a drink, even if it's a very close family member or something I see a lot of. I would also be surprised if I went to someone's house and wasn't offered one. It's just the done thing.

Yes exactly. I think it eases a bit of social tension, it's a distraction and comforting to have a drink.

I always offer a drink as well. I think it is inhospitable not to.
I get that not everyone drinks tea and/or coffee, but if you regularly have visitors who do I think it is worth keeping some in just to be hospitable.

I'm from south east London and always offer any guests (expected or unexpected) a drink - I don't automatically assume a cup of tea so I say "would you like a drink?" And then maybe then say "tea, coffee, water, Diet Coke....glass of wine?" I literally have most drinks and am happy to provide anything the guest would like. I also always offer tradesmen a cup of tea as it's rude not. Whenever I go to my mums or MILS they always offer a cup of tea or glass of wine depending on the time of day 🤣

I always offer, but I come from a family where barely an hour goes by without someone making a brew. I think a PP is right, that it puts people at ease. I'll always make drinks for trades too, and get biscuits in. Or tell them to help themselves.

I recall visiting friends' houses when I was a teen, and the ones I remember most fondly are those who made a big pot of tea and we'd all sit around the kitchen table together. That's my happy place: big table, lots of friends chatting, copious tea and biscuits.

@Roseinbloom20 you sound like a lovely host! 😊💕

Always. Tea , coffee? Within minutes. Rude not to.

Always offer within 10 minutes of arrival, if not sooner!

My and dad and step mum.... however I'm sure that's just me because she doesn't want me to stay long!

I always offer a drink to a welcome guest.
Was never offered a drink in my late MIL house or one of my sisters.

Everyone gets offered a mug of tea or coffee as they walk through the door, and depending on who and when it is they may be offered wine/beer etc too.

I've visited people who don't offer anything, and it always seems a bit awkward.

My bil and sil once held a family lunch.
We lived 3 hours away with 2 young dc and left home at 9am resulting in us arriving just after 12.
Apparently a pot of tea was made at 11am so we were offered tap water!
Strange pair.

I'm from Yorkshire, I'm embarrassed if I don't have fruit cake with cheese or at least biscuits to offer with the tea / coffee.

Guests, visitors, window cleaner, electrician, gardener. I can't not offer.

In the summer I had out cans of drink to delivery drivers and alcohol free beer to the binmen.

I don't offer. I don't drink tea or coffee so don't think too.

I offer guests a drink, but in OPs situation I would just help myself. If I'm round brother in laws, they will mostly offer, but tbf they probably wouldn't if they were busy doing DIY and I was there on childminding duty. I've known them for over 5 years, and know where the mugs, tea and kettle are.

Something to eat? Like what? A biscuit/slice of cake or would you rustle up a sandwich, baked potatoe, pizza? I'm genuinely curious

I guess it would depend who it was and if it had been arranged. I have friends I'll visit in the evening with no intention of 'doing' anything other than a catch up. You might not get z drink straight away but whoever thirsty first will put kettle on first in either home. If it was going to be a late one I might take 'goodies' with me eg popcorn, sweets, etc. I'd only offer food if pre arranged.
If I had eg my son and his newish gf over I'd offer drinks within 15 mins of arrival. I don't really have people round thst eouldnt feel comfortable helping themselves. My adult daughter has quite an 'open house'. I've not been offered a drink for years but I'd feelvquite happy making a round myself and snacking on something I found invaluable cupboard.

I'm half Irish half Italian. You're lucky if you escape my house without eating a full meal and carrying a bag of Tupperwares for later.

If I don't offer a drink it means I am (in my mind) deeply insulting you.
I have to really really dislike someone to not offer them a drink.

Not that they know that because I don't say, I just make myself one & drink it in front of you.
But in my head I know I'm sticking up two fingers & calling them all the names under the sun while I'm drinking my own drink.

If I like you, that's when the good biscuits/cake/whatever come out too.

We usually have people round in the afternoon. Last time I provided crisps, pringles, filled rolls (ham, roast beef, tuna mayonaisse, egg mayonaisse), salad, coleslaw, potato salad, quiche, sausage rolls, barbeque chicken wings. Cheesecake. Also a cake and biscuits.
If people were just popping in, I would always offer filled rolls, crisps, cake and biscuits, as I always have that in the house.