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Things you can never say out loud in real life as you'll hurt the feelings of someone you like....

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hatetheplayernotthegame · 16/10/2022 23:01

...stop buying puppies from breeders FFS.

So sick of people popping up with the latest - inevitably moustachiod dull as fuck doodle - puppy that they've bought from some back yard breeder.

I love dogs. The people who do this never seem to really like dogs much, if they did they'd consider adopting one of the gazillions dumpbed post-lockdown (bought by moustachio-doodle loving twats just like them).

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MarieIVanArkleStinks · 17/10/2022 14:09

GreyGoose1980 · 17/10/2022 13:59

Agree - worried I show work colleagues too many pictures of DD and plan to limit it!

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Ha! I don't talk about myself or my DC a great deal, but get me onto a hobby horse or - in the right circumstances - the subject that is my passion and I don't doubt I am very difficult to shut up!

Going to keep a firm grip on myself from here on out ...

Ori1 · 17/10/2022 14:10

I don't like or trust you. I never have. Don't try and be nice to me because I can see through you like a pane of glass. You think you're God's gift - to women, to your work colleagues - but you're arrogant and full of badly contrived artifice. If I never had to see you or have dialogue with you again it would be too soon. So pleased I don't work with you directly.

Highschoolprobs · 17/10/2022 14:10

MsPincher · 17/10/2022 01:57

You obviously don’t love dogs if you’re so keen to sneer at them because they are a popular breed.

it’s utterly impossible to get a dog from a rescue with kids. I don’t know anyone with a puppy who didn’t consider a rescue (including me)- but all were refused.

Also a few rescues said they had an increase in enquiries but there is absolutely not “gazillions” in rescues. There are very few popular breeds in uK rescues as usual and these dogs are still sold for a fortune.

Pretty much everyone I know got their dog from a breeder. There are hardly any dogs in uk rescues and they won’t let you have them anyway if you have kids, a job,etc.

Cannot be doing with breed snobs. Such a ridiculous thing to be a snob over.

so probably just as well you don’t express that opinion irl - it’s a bit daft.

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You aren't entitled to a dog. You are choosing to prop up an industry that harms dogs when you buy from a breeder.

WetLettuce2 · 17/10/2022 14:14

You smell and your house smells. It makes me feel sick. When you’re in my car and the windows are down it’s not because I love the feel of Autumn in my hair it’s because your period is humming.
Wash yourself now and again.

notprettybeautiful · 17/10/2022 14:18

You were such a good friend....that's how the story goes, and I believed it for a long time. All those weird things that happened..your ex knowing my personal stuff and telling me you didn't even like me...the look of guilt on your face...I was supporting you with domestic violence and mental health. You told him my private stuff...and I still took your side. The holidays you insisted we take, all on your terms. The lies you told. How you would railroad me into things and then allow me other things, like you had the power to dictate my life. The time you shouted at that disabled woman for no reason. The time you shouted abuse at me, knowing our hosts could hear you, because I didn't want to be in a car with you and your crazy girlfriend while you screamed at each other and her dangerous driving. By the end of it I felt like an abused spouse, endlessly making excuses for you. We were all so embarrassed but I couldn't cut you off. I was your cheerleader. Oh and let's not forget how you farmed me out as a young, vulnerable woman to your twice older friends. You had no idea what would happen to me. You laughed at that photo he sent the next day though. I was so stupid. You made me feel special and cared for, but I see now that you were using me all along. I'm so relieved that you're out of my life. Especially that I managed it with no massive drama scenes from you. You were never my friend. Not one word of censure ever crossed my lips about you, but I bet you can't say the same, judging by what you had to say about your other ex friends. I'm confused now as to why I ever thought you were a good person.

Glitterspy · 17/10/2022 14:19

hatetheplayernotthegame · 16/10/2022 23:16

AMEN to this.

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I tried to adopt, I really did. I tried to adopt several times (filled in forms, rang and registered as appropriate) but the charities won’t let people with small children adopt animals - nowhere I found (Berkshire) would countenance it, I didn’t even get responses from most.

Honestly every time I hear this line (usually said in the way you have, which is just delightful) I feel wrong. Like - some people don’t have a choice so don’t judge?

SleepingStandingUp · 17/10/2022 14:20

IScreamAtMichaelangelos · 17/10/2022 14:08

Friend, you are lovely to DS and include him in family holidays. We generally greatly appreciate this, but this most recent holiday is profoundly inconvenient for us and will cost us over £150 in train fare to come and get him. We did say no but you'd already told your DS, who told our DS, who sobbed and screamed and threatened suicide and was frankly a bit terrifying when we told him it really didn't work for us. We then felt like we had to say yes really, and I am trying hard not to bitterly resent having my arm twisted into this situation. We are struggling to afford this unwanted, unasked-for trip.

Next time you want to invite DS somewhere, please please PLEASE keep it between the adults only until it is definitely agreed to be feasible. Next time it doesn't suit us we will say no and it will not be our fault if both DC are disappointed.

Def needs saying face to face!

DreamingOfSoftWhiteSand · 17/10/2022 14:21

Highschoolprobs · 17/10/2022 14:10

You aren't entitled to a dog. You are choosing to prop up an industry that harms dogs when you buy from a breeder.

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Agreed. There are LOTS of dogs in rescue centres waiting for homes. There are rescue places that will rehome dogs to families with children. You just need to get matched. But to buy a dog, and pick a breed because it's cute, it's grotesque.

notprettybeautiful · 17/10/2022 14:21

You're a lying, selfish, bossy, vain, oversensitive, nasty, negative know it all and have a very fragile ego. It's often hard to be around you. If you don't grow out of it, you will be a horrible person.

walkinpark · 17/10/2022 14:23

I wish I could leave this idiotic whatsapp family group where it is all about you and your amazing life and how rich you are...why is it always about you and why don't you ever ask about my life?

No I do not want to plan a family holiday with you because you are obnoxious and I do not hate myself that much.

Because you suck and you can call me if you want <answer to: why don't you ever call me or stay in touch with me?>

Glitterspy · 17/10/2022 14:23

Highschoolprobs · 17/10/2022 14:10

You aren't entitled to a dog. You are choosing to prop up an industry that harms dogs when you buy from a breeder.

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Good breeders uphold breed standards!

If breeders ceased to exist you’d have every dog a mutt within a few generations. No more Labrador, no more cocker spaniel. Just “rescues”.

I absolutely agree that bad backyard breeding and puppy farming should be outlawed. Because I love dogs too. But honestly the “all breeders should be banned” position is just uneducated.

walkinpark · 17/10/2022 14:25

You are an ass and am sorry we are related <answer to: wow you have gained a lot of weight and are looking so fat>

pattihews · 17/10/2022 14:25

IScreamAtMichaelangelos · 17/10/2022 14:08

Friend, you are lovely to DS and include him in family holidays. We generally greatly appreciate this, but this most recent holiday is profoundly inconvenient for us and will cost us over £150 in train fare to come and get him. We did say no but you'd already told your DS, who told our DS, who sobbed and screamed and threatened suicide and was frankly a bit terrifying when we told him it really didn't work for us. We then felt like we had to say yes really, and I am trying hard not to bitterly resent having my arm twisted into this situation. We are struggling to afford this unwanted, unasked-for trip.

Next time you want to invite DS somewhere, please please PLEASE keep it between the adults only until it is definitely agreed to be feasible. Next time it doesn't suit us we will say no and it will not be our fault if both DC are disappointed.

Surely this is something you can say in real life without causing offence? Otherwise it'll continue to happen. Speak up: you're a grown-up.

Flowerpower36 · 17/10/2022 14:26

Can’t help but eye roll at you slightly at the moment.

all this time you’ve posted about how you are a mega boss babe, with your MLM constantly shoved in everyone’s face all over your social media. Multiple times a day, bragging about how you want to be the best mum you can be because you are actually able to stay at home with your DC and not go to a boring office job like a lot of others have to. Rubbing everyone’s face in it on a Monday morning when you are lying in bed “working from your phone”, saying how you’re ‘smashing it’ bla bla. bragging about how you’ve been able to get on the property ladder really young and all the amazing holidays you’re able to have because of your ‘biz’.

and then lo and behold recently the other day you announce you’re having to go back to work for a company… hmm I wonder why that is?! Because people are getting wise to the whole MLM thing and not buying your dodgy products?! 👀

CrackingcheeseWallace · 17/10/2022 14:26

Stop being an utter selfish arse and go and see your elderly parents; one of which is on end of life care. Go and DO something FOR them rather than what benefit you'd get out of it. You are absolute scum and that goes for your partner too.

Fimofriend · 17/10/2022 14:27

Dear SIL. The reason why I have several friends I have been friends with for 30-50 years and you can usually only keep your friends for 2--3 years is because I am nice and you are not. I really wish you'd get the therapy you so clearly need. Also please stop trying to steal my friends. Please don't contact them at all They don't like you. They find you to be immature, rude and self-absorbed. Some of them are offended by your attempts to befriend them as they can clearly tell you see them more as accessories than people.
Dear Niece.
No my dear, your temporary PCOS caused by your obesity does not explain your symptoms of borderline personality disorder. PCOS does not cause those kinds of symptoms at all. Also: No-one believes the GP told you that you were completely infertile because PCOS caused by obesity does not cause permanent infertility. You just paid as little attention to him as you do to everyone else. But your DD sure is cute.

ShakeYourFeathers · 17/10/2022 14:30

I get it your pregnant. But please stop going on and on about it constantly all day long. I get it your excited but it's rather draining.

forlornlorna1 · 17/10/2022 14:31

Instead of going on Alzheimer's memory walks so you can post your pics on social media, how about actually visiting your dad who's suffering from this god awful disease.

hyperspacebug · 17/10/2022 14:31

peachgreen · 17/10/2022 13:54

You have hurt me and you are hurting me – because I'm in love with you.

Aw, I hope this won't have to go on for too long.

the80sweregreat · 17/10/2022 14:32

It is your fault too sometimes
Not just everyone else's!

nofilter123 · 17/10/2022 14:32

No we won't have a "great time" when you visit. You will sit in the chair and expect to be waited on hand and foot for 5 days, even though I have a job (wfh). You will either be drinking so much that you don't make sense, and then pass out, or you will be asleep.

peachgreen · 17/10/2022 14:33

Aw thanks @hyperspacebug . It's a horrible mess of a situation, but it will pass. And in fairness to him, if he knew he was hurting me he would immediately remove himself from my life, no matter how much that would hurt him too.

GingerPushkin · 17/10/2022 14:33

@RandomCatGenerator sounds tough on you both- at least you've picked up on it. take care of yourself :)

nofilter123 · 17/10/2022 14:34

You, my best friend, slept with my husband (now ExH). I hope your recent marriage falls on it's arse.

Blinky21 · 17/10/2022 14:37

Your lip fillers look ridiculous, to everyone with lip fillers