What would you have done? Street compliment

[ZuzuSusu]

Today as I was on a crosswalk into the grocery store, a man waiting at the crosswalk in his truck leaned out and shouted "you look really nice today!"

Would you have:
a. Acknowledged compliment with a smile/wave/verbal comment like "thanks!"
b. Ignored him and continued walking in the store
c. Approached him and given him your number
d. Rude hand gesture

I'll let you know what I did/what happened next after some responses!

"you look really nice today!"

Today? Has he seen you before?

I'd smile politely and continue on my way - I think that was A.

@UWhatNow

Really ..? 🤣

A man that lives near me tells me how stunning I am an beautiful/ gorgeous every time I see him
i just say awh thanks or make a joke with him.
I tell people when they look good too sometimes it’s nice to be nice.

I'd be like sorry who are you talking to?

A because I don't know why a sound minded person would be so rude with the other options, unless you look like a model and get it 101 times a day.

@ThatGirlInACountrySong In the US!

I chose option b. Ignore (after a baffled look) his follow up to me turning away was "wow, fat bitch"

I was surprised to see so many people would have done the same! There was another thread recently where a poster had to deal with a much more intrusive man and was called rude for giving him a curt response. I was curious to see if people thought kindness/politeness/gratitude was owed in this situation, which began as relatively benign.

I did not feel grateful, just mild annoyance as I prefer that strange men don't comment on my appearance.

B, unless it was someone I knew at least by sight and had interacted with before in a pleasant/cordial manner, in which case probably A.

B
Because it's not a compliment when some random man does this. Why would I think this was nice? I know when I look good and I don't need some dickhead to give me their opinion as if what they think is important and I will be impressed.

99.9% of women would never do this to a man.

B

The number is 'A's on this thread is depressing

I don't tend to compliment men, but I'll say to random women "your jacket is lovely" or "that's a great haircut".

I'm a woman and although I have complimented men on their style, I would compliment women more often on shoes/dress etc. I think I would probably answer A if it seemed genuine

B. His response when you ignored him proved he wasn't well intentioned at all! I generally ignore anyone who talks to me in public, particularly if they are offering unsolicited opinions on my appearance. I'm not interested and I don't care.

probably b and loks like you were right

100% agree with this.

B

B

i dont think it was

B for sure because it wouldnt be aimed at me guaranteed

I would have liked you to have been able to say "fuck off you misogynistic prick" which I once had cause to say to an extremely nasty and unpleasant neighbour.

I prefer that strange men don't comment on my appearance.

^ that's why B is the most appropriate response. We shouldn't encourage nor want validation from men who will then think they can choose whether to and what to comment on about us in their attempt to seek some sort of validation back.

B

B because I didn't ask nor do I care if stranger in a van thinks I look nice.

B

When I was younger - D, now - B

B definitely as I really wouldn't want to continue the conversation. The only time I would engage is if it was something specific eg comment on trainers, specific item of clothing and not said in a sleazy way.