Are you close with your mum?

[SamanthaVimes]

I’m not particularly close with my DM. Not unfriendly but we don’t spend lots of time together and didn’t get on well when I was a teen.

I have 2 DC now and they’re only little but thinking about the future what have your DMs done to help support a close relationship?

I have a non existent relationship with mine so it’s surprising to me that so many have similarly poor relationships. I thought mine was a uniquely dysfunctional dynamic.

There is no rule book for being a mother. Having a great parent yourself is much a massive bonus in every way, and offers a template for how to be. I find myself searching for role models and just not knowing what to do with my own children sometimes. Not having decent parents myself has meant no back up or emotional support . Offering back up and emotional support to your children when you’ve none yourself is hard.

I always find this an interesting question. I don't have much in common with her and speak to her only weekly. But I love her immensely and know that no-one else on earth kives me like she does.

I see her every day along with my Dad. They are both amazing people.

Yes very close to both parents- though dad has passed away.

DM was a sahm, always there, always supportive, patient, honest, never pushy. Could tell her anything. She’s quite elderly now, but still fun. She is quite energetic given her ailments (can’t move around very well, arthritis is now bone on bone). But refuses pain killers and gets on with it). 💪🏼 We go to the beach, pubs for meals, I assist with shopping, chores, her garden (she has a gardener but she likes it just so). Christmas is her favourite time of year, we both love the festive season. She’s my friend as well as my DM. Speak every day on the phone (aside from one day when she goes out, so we text) and we see her a few times a week.

Never really argued, only about her hospital avoidance strategies😬 but that’s another thread!

Mine's gone now.
My sis & I are proud that we did everything we could for her.. we wanted to be able to hold our heads up & say that was so.
She was a totally different personality to either of us.. hedonistic, really.. she did help me with the kids at times but would list what she'd done so it made us feel resentful rather than loved.
My sis would sometimes point things out that had happened in the past.. mum would deny them.
My kids thought she was awesome & great fun. I try not to challenge that.. leave them with their memories.