Do you enjoy hosting people/people calling in ?

[thinkimtheodd]

So I admit I'm probably really odd in saying that I don't like people calling to my house. I'm really chatting easy going and get along with everyone but for some reason I hate people coming to my house! I don't know what actually the problem is though. I would love to be the type of person that has people over for dinner etc but I just don't enjoy it when I know it's happening!

Anyone else like this?

Love hosting guests for weekends/dinner, etc.
don’t appreciate people calling by unannounced at all.

I grew up in an open house, the more the merrier. DM is still quite like this, she happily has people staying a few days at the drop of a hat.

I used to be happy to host or have people pop by in my own house, but not any more.

There is nothing I like more than a house full of people. Our door is always open.

I’m not a fan. I invited a mate for coffee one day, she stayed for almost 4 hours, I was ready to commit murder! She only left because I had to go somewhere.

In theory I love it, and really wish I had an 'open house' personality, but the reality is that I get terribly anxious about hosting, so although I really enjoy having friends over for coffee (planned, rather than 'drop in'!), it's very rarely that we have large groups or dinner parties, much less proper parties. On the odd occasion it does happen, apart from the stressing beforehand, I usually have a lovely time and vow to do it more often. Never happens once the euphoria has worn off, though!

Hate it. Hate people in my house. Never invite friends over.

We had someone pop in at short notice yesterday. Im still discombobulated.
The individual started talking about how their own house was so organised and tidy (insinuating mine is not)

It's put me off having visitors tbh.

Do you get invited to others homes and go?

I ask as I have a friend who I think hates hosting, I don’t like to ask her if she doesn’t, and I’ve known her for decades, she does host, but I can see she finds it stressful , like she acts like she’s running a bnb cone restaurant thing and over thinks it, manically cleans before hand stresses about the whole thing.

where as I host much more and love it, but she’s a fantastic guest, helping out, clearing up etc. It’s like as she doesn’t like doing it herself she gets stuck in to help when she’s hosted.

To be honest it isn’t necessary, I’ve got it under control and it’s easier for me to do it, but if it makes her feel happier, and it does, then she can do as she pleases.

I think I do it so often now it comes naturally to me. I also prefer to host than be hosted.

I don't mind family/in-laws popping in, it's open house to them any time. Hosting I absolutely hate these days and only do it if I have to

Yes I enjoy it, but I like to be prepared, food marinated, house cleaned. Only happens occasionally. Don't mind people popping in, but then I am reasonably tidy.

I will happily entertain for people I’ve invited round-I enjoy it.

I don’t want anyone to just turn up though-I properly hate it. It takes seconds to ring or text to ask when it’s convenient to pop round. Don’t turn up unless you are just dropping something through the door.

Before I had children yes, now no, too knackered too messy and the children get too wound.

I like planned visitors, but unplanned visitors would be interrupting whatever I was doing when they arrive so I'm not so keen on that.

Luckily my husband thinks turning up unannounced and expecting people to pay attention to you and make you cups of tea is the height of rudeness so very few get over our threshold. He would always let me know if he was bringing people back.

My eldest now texts a jokey "be back in ten minutes put some clothes on" since he and a bunch of friends wandered in the back door while I was doing yoga in knickers and a crop top.

I love a full house!!

I would like it if I lived alone but I don't like it whilst a carer for mum. She can't be trusted not to unknowingly say something that would offend people (family troubles not racist or similar). She's also a hoarder and deaf as a post so hears nothing so has to be bellowed at. Having people here is very stressful as it requires a couple of days (literally) in cleaning and tidying and hiding her piles of crap that she "needs!" and can't throw awaybsbd even then I'm on edge.

Yes I absolutely live for it. I’m one of those people who scrolls Pinterest saving ideas for our next dinner party/occasion 😳
All the prep and cleaning the day before is my favourite part!

I have issues... it's like I have ants in my pants if anyone enters my 'domain' and am not happy until they leave 😂🤣

I’m not posh enough to call it ‘hosting’ but I quite like folk coming round. I don’t demand notice, I don’t even ask them to knock and wait for an answer. Everyone that knows me knows my back doors open and how to get past the dogs. Life would be boring without it

Love hosting and much prefer it to going to someone elses house! Not keen on anyone dropping in unannounced though very rare anyone I know would do that.

I love it but need 24hrs notice.

OP I completely agree with you. I love talking with my friends and family I just don't want them at my house.

I just sit there thinking how long till you leave lol x

@Gertrude86 haha I'm so glad you understand me. I love a good yarn and I'm always up for a laugh so I know my friends would be really shocked if they knew how I felt. I do wish I could change tho. I love the idea of my house being an open door but I absolutely cannot mentally get there lol

If anybody “just pops in” never offer them a drink.
After half an hour stand up and say “it’s been nice seeing you, bye”.

I like going out to see people and having the house to ourselves.

I love having people round to eat. I like cooking and am most comfortable at home.

I don’t like people coming unannounced- am likely in my PJs and the loo may be mucky.

I really dislike overnight guests - whilst I love visitors, it just gets too tiring when it goes in to the next day.