Grandparents asking what they should buy for presents

[ThirstyMeeples]

What are people's thoughts on this? I feel irritated if I'm honest but that's probably because I'm endlessly busy and it feels like another job to do. My kids are 13,11 and 9 and quite tricky to buy for. I have a hard enough time thinking of what to get them myself.
I feel both sets of grandparents don't even attempt to think of an idea (and they are involved and interested in other ways so no excuse about not knowing what they like)
I'm probably just feeling grumpy and think it's linked to being so busy all the time.
I usually end up researching and often ordering the presents for them (and sometimes even wrapping!) so I just get a bit frustrated and wish they'd at least try.
Anyone else the same or do you happily provide ideas??

When they were small it was tickets/trip to the Panto.

Maybw a cinema or theatre outing for yours now they are older?

Yep, Xmas present buying lasts all your life. My parents lived to be in their 90s & I did all their cards & present buying too. Was pleased to help them. Also was working with DC & GC. Oh & my DH & I share Xmas stuff too.

At 13, 11 and 9 they could be making their own Christmas lists and researching what they want. Then just pass that onto GPs

We send ideas for DD's present to the grandparents since she is born. So much easier for everyone and it avoid duplications and non-interest things.

Since DD is a pre-teen they ask her herself and she normally comes up with something decent. This year is a nightmare for everyone so she will get a Driving Lesson from my mum and my PIL will give us all theatre tickets.

God you sound awful and ungrateful 🙄 how the fuck is your mum supposed to know what a kid 50 or 60 or years her junior is into .....

Well who would be a grandparent eh? There are some dreadful DIL's out there. It is not all on the grandparent side.
Anyway I have a medium.sized cotton sack with kid's name on it. I will fill this up with little gifts of my choosing. This year they are also each getting 2 gift cards. One for Next and the other for Smyths. This is to cut down the strain on myself and I think the kid quite like having input into their gifts.
However we do it, present giving to them can be a thankless task. Literally. Plus you by the gifts, the parents keep them only so long then sold or given away. Sometimes you only see them play with the gift the day it is given.

We all do a santa letter with links to sites, then send out to family members it works well for adults. With the children we do ask. They don't want plastic tat so we try to be careful.

I prefer it sometimes. It means you don't end up getting tat you know your kids won't use or play with.

That said I hate it when people ask me what to get my DH for his bday. It's hard enough to think what to get him myself, never mind give others ideas.