Is anyone else just totally fucking fed up with it all now...

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I'm probably going through some hormonal changes which isn't helping my mood 😔 but the last few years has been been proper shit and now the foreseeable future looks shit too. I just feel demotivated and overworked, underpaid and stretched as are my colleagues. Food and fuel prices are rediculous and I actually feel sick everytime I go to the supermarket. I can't get a doctors appointment, my dentist has gone private without telling me. Public transport where I live is diabolical buses aren't turning up yet I'm paying £60 a month for my schools bus pass, taxis are charging the earth if you can get one and then refusing to do long distances. The council think it's a good idea to do road works all at once causing more chaos and stress in the mornings so everyday feels like I'm playing road blocks. Im now anxious and stressed about rising interest rates and pissed off that I probably won't afford a holiday again for the 4th year because I'm just trying to survive and make it through the day/month or fucking year!

That is such bad luck after bad luck despite doing everything right. Other countries won’t let you in because if your sons medical bills- if only our own country were this choosy about who they let bleed the NHS dry. Believe me medical tourism is rife on the nhs and no one does anything about it. Women from certain countries fly in just to have their baby for free and it’s allowed. Yet when we try to go anywhere else it is not. You would not believe the amount of people abusing the nhs it’s enough to want to quit just so I don’t have to keep witnessing it.

It’s shaping up to be a bad time, isn’t it? I don’t often shop at the co-op because you do end up paying more for the convenience but I popped in yesterday for some bits and couldn’t believe it was £3.25 for four co-op toilet rolls. I didn’t buy them - went to Lidl instead for four for £1.50 which still felt too much.

How? How are the other options worse? I never understand this argument. What could be worse than lying, lack of morals, actual criminal activity, nepotism, fucked up NHS, illegal immigration at its worst ever state (because the EU was never the problem) and massive financial mismanagement on a scale never seen before. Maybe, just maybe, it's time for someone else to have a go? It's not like we've got anything to lose.

@Kentgirl2525 I agree with everything you're saying but it won't be long before you're accused of being racist......

I do agree and I think there will be change next election but unfortunately very doubtful anything will actually change for us ‘little’ people. It’s not like anything ever gets better it only gets worse and I’m actually a very optimistic person usually but last few years have shown us otherwise.

Yes I’m fully expecting that as it is everyone’s go to insult! It would be easier if I was actually racist because it would just be my opinion but unfortunately what I’m telling you is very very true and undeniable! I’m not even middle class nor white which helps people believe me when I complain about this. I work front line nhs and it is just so depressing seeing what is happening. I really feel like crying sometimes but because of my job I’m not allowed an opinion and need to remain unbiased but I’m only human and can only say what I’m seeing in front of my very eyes!

100% Also all the casual law breaking, illegally modified loud cars with terrifyingly loud exhausts, illegal window tints and mangled or missing number plates racing each other at all hours and no Police action on any of it.
Houses being built all around me with no road, cycleway, footpath, school or doctors provision for all the extra people and traffic.
It's absolute shit and no-one in government of public bodies appears to give a fuck.

Omg spot on! It’s these smaller anti social activities that actually upset me the most as no one seems to do anything. It’s getting worse and I see open drug dealing every day!! How is this ok?!

Same where I live - almost impossible to get in or out of the town at times - water works, gas works, road works, everything (doesn't) works.

illegally modified loud cars with terrifyingly loud exhausts

yes what is all this about and how do they pass their MOTs? Or do they take them off, pass them for the MOT and then promptly put them back on again? It is a small thing but noise pollution isn't funny.

I think quite a lot of people are under the illusion that it’s just us, Europe’s not having a very good time at all either at the moment, was listening to a few interviews yesterday where analysts are predicting civil unrest in countries such as France and Germany because of it, so it’s not just us/ Tories/ Brexit, there’s so much going on at a macro level too that’s just way out of our control.

But yes OP agreed, literally every story on DailyMail this morning is bleak and soul destroying and I do worry for a lot of us at the mo.

£5 million has just been allocated to my local area to target drug dealing and drug abuse which is phenomenal providing it bloody works and some of that money is directed towards the police to actually arrest these bastards. I live near enough to wear that poor girl Olivia was shot in her own home by these people, it urgently needs tackling, along with the rest of the UK there’s no point of having pockets where these dealers can’t operate leaving them the rest of the country to run free.

It’s just a general chip chip chip chip chip away at peoples quality of life

I have to say that with everything else going on roadworks are not an issue I worry about. 12 years of the Tories have destroyed this country. Their response to external factors is just to heap more pain on ordinary people to ensure their mates get wealthier

Yes, in complete agreement, OP. I can't think of anyone who isn't fed up and trying to stay positive.

Yeah, it’s grim. And what’s making it even worse, certainly where I live, is the goddam overcrowding. I’ve lived here for 30 years. When I arrived, it was so peaceful - fields and woodland everywhere. Bliss. Now, it’s slowly turning into one giant housing estate. There are ghastly little rabbit hutches being built on every scrap of land, and the population has doubled. They’ve even hacked down a third of my local woods. The roads are beyond a joke. Even driving to Tesco is an ordeal. You can’t get parked anywhere. And 24/7 I can hear the screeching of boy racer cars, and the exploding of their modified exhausts. It’s illegal, but what the hell, the police do NOTHING about it. Various ‘problem families’ have also been moved onto these giant new estates, and they are beginning to make their presence felt. Their kids have colonised the woods, where they ride motorbikes and sell weed and even vandalise the trees (wtf!!!??). Over the summer they set fire to a barn near me, which contained flammable fertiliser and would have exploded if it hadn’t been caught early. Instead of enjoying the summer, it was hell. The combination of heat and overcrowding was too much.

I’d give anything to live somewhere quiet, somewhere with space and silence, where you can move and breathe and enjoy nature. If it wasn’t for family ties, I would leave Essex and move to the northern tip of Scotland.

The reason there aren't police coming to every call out is because there isn't anybody to do it.

Let's say you've got a town centre team, and the team supposed to be on duty that day should comprise about 25 officers (or there abouts) - what you'll actually get is about 6 - or less - PCs because all the rest have been requisitioned off elsewhere to cover X, Y and Z - there's nobody policing your town centre because they've all been made to go and police a football match or something. And behind the scenes there is a really fantastic police inspector with tonnes of brilliant ideas for cleaning up crime in your town centre banging their head against the wall with frustration because they have no staff left with which to actually do it. All the while being told they have to do more, and more and more - with no staff. How does that work. They can't do their day job if they are continuously plucked out of their day job to cover something else.

I don't even open my personal emails anymore as it's crammed full of things I can't afford to do like fun events at theme parks and lots of offer emails from various fashion websites.

I just delete it all because there is no spare money.

Feeling the same OP. Sitting here in tears today because I feel like all I’m doing is working and still wont be able to afford anything. Our mortgage fix ends next November. Do we risk it in case the government pulls a blinder or do we try and find a deal now and pay the ERF. I’m pregnant and due in feb with baby number 2 so just as all these price rises go up I’m going to be back paying £700 odd a month for childcare 3 days a week if I can even find a nursery that’s not closing due to not being able to get any staff. It’s just so depressing. What am I bringing my children up into?

I completely agree and feel the same! Omg the feral kids and problem neighbours, the drug dealing openly and f*ing screeching exhausts from modified cars makes me think if guns were legal I’d probably have used one by now I’m that fed up with the anti social behaviour!!!!! It’s these smaller things that upset me the most as they’re constant and like previous post said just chip chip chip away at you!!!! I am glad that I’m not the only one who feels like this and makes me feel a little better hear others upset by it too! Sometimes I mention these things to people and they look at me and laugh like yeah I suppose but what you going to do! How can people not be bothered about this! This is how society starts to slowly or quickly now, decline!!!

I’m exactly the same as you. Pregnant and thinking why am bringing a child into this! What can we offer. Some days I don’t want to leave the house as what I see is so depressing I just want to cry! And I am actually in a pretty good position too so god knows how people actually struggling feel like.

I feel a bit better reading these weirdly
Had a few minutes the other week where I couldn't stop crying and I took a day off work and was wondering if I needed to up my meds

Then my friend said "look in the last 3 months your mum died, your boyfriend turned out to be a cheating rat, the news is bad news every day, money issues all over the news, work are short staffed... is it any wonder you're crying?!" And I thought actually no, it's probably normal

It is only September. I think things will get much worse in the winter, with a rise in Covid cases potentially causing more problems and the problems of the rising fuel costs have barely started kicking in yet. These problems are caused by international events though so hard to manage nationally or locally. All I can think of is that adopting a wartime spirit attitude might help get through the winter. I am already planning for more jumpers and warm clothes for indoors in the winter and various adjustments to cooking (e.g. a slow cooker - need to start looking up family slow-cooking recipes). Unfortunately my fussy DC might not take well to slow cooked stews but they may have to adapt!

@BluOcty it really is like banging our heads against a wall trying to get anything from these bastards. We’ve filled in all the paperwork they’ve asked for, chased them every week since August, and still nothing 😱
Having said that, I’m fortunate to have a small amount of savings in my personal account, which is more than many people have, so I am grateful for that.
God knows how people on min wage or without any savings are coping 😔

Non UK mumsnetter here. Why are the supermarket shelves half empty? I keep half an eye on UK news but it’s hard to keep up. Is it as bad as during Covid?

Egg section is a bit sparse here in Australia at the moment but otherwise okay (if extortionately priced). We had really bad shortages during Covid here.