Boyfriend thinks I'm "weird" am I?

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My nan passed away 2 years ago and she was 98.
She was my best friend /mum all rolled into one.
She was the best person you could ever meet and I can't even explain how much I loved her.
Every year for her birthday I would get her a birthday balloon and birthday badge and have a little tea party with all her favourite me Kipling cakes and she was so happy.
She would of been 100 on Sunday so I've bought a balloon and a card and I've lit a candle next to her picture and put the balloon and card next to it.

I wanted to have a cup of tea and her favourite cake tomorrow to celebrate her 100th birthday
Boyfriend basically said I'm crazy /weird and she's passed so what's the point of a balloon /card etc
It makes me feel better,I will never ever forget her and I don't want too
Is this too much ?

Have you been together for long, OP? He sounds unkind. Even if it's not something he would do, what does it cost him to have a little understanding? Maybe your lovely Nan is sending a wee message about finding someone nicer.

Your nan sounds lovely and you were blessed to have her for so long.

Your boyfriend is a rude knobhead and should be dispensed with at your earliest convenience.

I think it's lovely. You and your nan were obviously close. I was close to my nan and she passed away a few months ago, I say hello to her picture when I walk past it in the house. Although a person maybe gone, it doesn't mean they have to be forgotten.

That's such a lovely idea. I miss my nana too. She was the best.

Crack on!

Red flag

dump him

It's not weird at all and even if your boyfriend wouldn't choose to do it, calling you weird is horrible of him.....he doesn't sound like "the one", your partner is meant to be on your team and support you.

I'm a lot more sentimental than DH. I light a candle to remember loved ones on important dates, still have a little cry about my lovely Nan too even though she died a long time ago now. DH is less emotional than me and wouldn't do that but he doesn't call me weird for remembering loved ones in a different way to him. He just quietly lets me get on with it and is there for me if I need him.

Your boyfriend isn’t a right nice fella. Perhaps your grandma is intervening in some way by getting you to question things…

I think your idea is beautiful.

Well we are all a little bit "weird" in our own idiosyncratic ways and there is nothing wrong with that. It sounds like a lovely way to remember your Gran on her 100th birthday. Do it , enjoy reminiscing, and don't worry about it or overthink it.

Your boyfriend sounds annoying, is he always this bossy or insensitive about things that don't affect him (but do affect you)?