Boyfriend thinks I'm "weird" am I?

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My nan passed away 2 years ago and she was 98.
She was my best friend /mum all rolled into one.
She was the best person you could ever meet and I can't even explain how much I loved her.
Every year for her birthday I would get her a birthday balloon and birthday badge and have a little tea party with all her favourite me Kipling cakes and she was so happy.
She would of been 100 on Sunday so I've bought a balloon and a card and I've lit a candle next to her picture and put the balloon and card next to it.

I wanted to have a cup of tea and her favourite cake tomorrow to celebrate her 100th birthday
Boyfriend basically said I'm crazy /weird and she's passed so what's the point of a balloon /card etc
It makes me feel better,I will never ever forget her and I don't want too
Is this too much ?

you are not weird and i am sorry for your loss

It’s lovely idea…he’s a misery guts. My nana died at 87. On what would have been her 100th birthday, we had a lovely lunch in her honour. It was a great afternoon.

I think that is lovely, a great way to remember the good times with your Nan.

It's not weird/crazy at all.

I think your BF is unkind, even if he doesn't understand he just keep that to himself whilst supporting you during as times.

You're bf sounds like a right knob
Maybe your gran is looking down thinking 'do me a favor hon, as a birthday gift, drop that shitty bf, you can do better'.

People with out empathy are not suitable partners for anyone. They belong in psych words and jail cells.

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Really lovely idea

he’s the weird one not you x

What a lovely thing to do to honour your grandparent. Ironically, would have been my Grans birthday today. She died over twenty years ago, but I always think of her on her birthday.

Why would it be weird in twenty years? Doing something small to remember someone you love that makes you nice is not weird. If it’s not hurting anything else, who cares.

I think that's lovely. I make mine nan's favourite dessert on her birthday, she has been gone five years.

Meant to say, go ahead and have your tea party. Don’t let boyfriend’s opinion influence you. Some people aren’t into ‘gesture celebrations’ (not sure how to phrase it) but he should respect, not mock your tributes.

Lovely Idea. I love a mr kipling fancy and a cup of tea. She had good taste.
Your boyfriend sounds lacking in empathy.

Sounds lovely! Boyfriend sounds less than lovely.

I tell my dad's favourite dad joke any time mushrooms come up in conversation. It's what he would have wanted 🙂

In a way, even though she's gone, your grandma is showing you what's lacking in your boyfriend. Drink your tea, eat your cake, blow up a balloon for her and sit with what you're observing

You're incompatible and it's good you've seen that.

This is the kind of incompatibility that never really goes away it runs very deep. You have to decide if you can live with someone so emotionally cold.

It is likely weird to him as that is not how he would grieve and not something he has seen someone do before. Just like he might grieve in a way that would be weird to you. However that doesn't make you weird or what you are doing weird.

I would say it's more weird to not show emotion.

And to clarify: him calling you weird for that is just fundamentally disrespectful.

Definitely not weird. That's a lovely thing to do in memory of her.

If he is a cold man, you will never be happy with him. Better to dump him now that you realise what he's like, rather than go through years of suffering.

I wouldn't do it but it's not weird. We all have our own ways of remembering. I don't go to graves and talk to the people there either but plenty of people do.

Whatever gets you through the day is fine.

I always remember my parents on their birthdays, the date they died, Christmas, Easter and other times, I have never gone back to the crematorium where they were cremated or done anything significant, but they will always be in my memories.

You can grieve however you like. He's being uncaring

Not weird at all. In fact i think it sounds rather lovely! How dare he call you weird when she meant so much to you?

No.
People do all sorts.
Light candles, go to the grave, etc.
Your boyfriend is an arse

He's jealous & trying to control you.

Get a beautiful red balloon for your beloved Nan & emotionally connect it to being a big red flag relating to your boyfriend. [who isn't a friend at all it seems.]