Can family just turn up at your house?

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My Nan feels that it's odd my MIL pre arranges visits, and you can't just 'pop by' . My single SIL is the same. You need to say in advanced if you're coming up, needs to be agreed to etc. I am not really like that but H is, and I do see the benefit in it. So our house is like that too

My mum's house isn't - you can just pop by anytime. No need to ' make an appointment' or really say in advanced. I always call though just to make sure she's home. I have siblings 15 years my junior so she has children herself at home still, plus my dad

My nan thinks it's uptight and wrong not to just let people round, welcome anytime

What's your take? Is your house an open house?

Despite not being like it myself, I know who's houses are the most homely feeling and welcoming - my family

It always bugs me when people comment about manners when this comes up.

it is not ill mannered to drop in on people if that’s what your family does and everyone is happy with it.

Just because you and yours don’t do it doesn’t mean others lack good manners.

My family can drop in whenever , my in-laws can’t as they are very hard work .

They've all got keys to mine to be honest, but everyone pitches in. I'm not expected to host, or buy all the food etc.

Open house to all and sundry here.
I’m someone who likes a busy house mainly. If someone knocks and I’m in the bath, someone else will open the door and let them in. No dramas there! They didn’t call ahead so it wasn’t exactly an important visit, just an ‘I was passing so thought I’d knock and see if you fancied a catch up’ type visit. No pressure!
But I love my friends and family and we all live in fairly close proximity to each other so impromptu visits are often quite short half hour affairs which can usually be accommodated without causing any hassle.

I don't like unannounced visitors at all. MIL did this recently and I was relaxing on the sofa in my PJs putting off the housework and DH was still in bed after a night shift. Argh!
A quick text saying 'I'm around your end, is it ok if I pop round in 20 minutes?' is fine though!

Will also add she stayed for bloody hours and hijacked our day out 😅

My family can drop by anytime. Like my mum, dad, brothers or granddad. I can't imagine my aunts or cousins turning up unexpectedly but they'd be welcome if they did.

I often turn up to granddad's without warning, and I gave a key to my mum's so I'll rock up even if she's not there and I'll check her snack cupboard.

I need three days notice of a visit from my mother.
I have no shame in the untidyness for anyone else.

I'd want at least 15 minutes notice by text so I could make sure I (and the house) were semi presentable!!

Open house here. My friends and family can pop in when they want, if I’m busy I tell them so and get on with what I need to.

Family drop in without notice unless it's late evening when they'd text first. I don't mind, but my husband can be resentful if it means a change of plan. And I don't mean a plan to go anywhere, just if it changes dinner time, or we end up doing something later. I go with the flow.

They can if they want but they're all over 100 miles away so I think I'd probably get the heads up they were on the way over.

I don’t like anyone coming without some notice, even if it’s 5 mins notice via text. I don’t have a close family though and dislike my parents visiting.

i hope to have my children Feel they can just pop by when they are older.

Can't think of anything worse. Love my family and friends, but would hate them to turn up unannounced.

We have a drop in anytime house. Family , friends, kids friends all welcome. You just have to take us as you find us.

For close family, they can call by unexpectedly any time. I don’t even expect them to knock the door, they can let themselves in. Anyone else though I do prefer a bit of notice. I had a baby earlier in the year and some extended family/acquaintances did just show up unexpectedly with gifts and to see the baby, which whilst this was lovely and kind of them, I would have liked even 30 mins notice to tidy up and make myself look presentable in my postpartum blur haha

Yes, people just walk in to our house. They live fairly close by so it's not an issue if we're not in or are busy.

It's an open house but no-one really visits, whether they call ahead or not!

I'd would hate anyone, including family just randomly turning up at my house

Big no no for me 😂

I dont like people turning up.
I always phone ahead to see someone.
My parents house- Open house!

I’m mostly happy for family or close friends to just turn up. I would always want my DD when she is grown up to walk in the house. My parents however, I cannot just turn up at their house unannounced-if I plan to go and am ten minutes early it causes an issue. Makes me feel very sad really 😥

Friends and family can visit - but only if we have agreed a time. We have busy lives and we WFH and so we can't drop everything for a random visitor. I would never see anyone without agreeing a time and date first. I consider it bad manners to drop in on someone and expect them to stop whatever they were doing to entertain me.

No. Hate it. NC for this. My grandparents were quite senior figureheads within their church; anyone from the church, complete strangers, would just show up to their house and my grandparents would just welcome them in. It made me feel very uneasy when I was much younger. Now, my home is very much my safe space, I much prefer people contact us if they’re visiting!

Family no problem. Friends I need notice to clean.

my cousin just leaves her house unlocked and we can rock up whenever we want, even if she’s out.

Nope, I hate it