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DH tried to block me doing OU degree

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DegreeRebel · 24/07/2022 00:11

A few years ago I asked for advice re doing an Open University degree in secret, as DH didn't want me to do one and was putting every kind of barrier in my way, including telling me I'm too thick and should accept my limitations. So many people on MN were hugely encouraging to me and it made a massive difference to me, giving me the nudge to stand up and say "I'm doing this, with or without your support".

I've just completed the fourth of six modules of the degree, each one with a distinction, and although I'm still being sneered at and getting eye rolls, I'm bloody chuffed with myself. It's tough, I find it really hard going at times, and I'm not always confident I'm even going to pass a module, let alone get good scores, and yet here I am. If anyone who encouraged me is reading this, thank you. If anyone else is in a similar situation, please let me be an encouraging voice telling you to go for it.

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PersonaNonGarter · 24/07/2022 00:15

I remember your thread, I think. Well done! Exams are so hard and you are doing it without support so even harder. That’s amazing results.

Freeasabird76 · 24/07/2022 00:17

A massive well done,ignore your horrid h.

DegreeRebel · 24/07/2022 00:18

Thank you. The support on the MN thread was the turning point for me.

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SpencersCroftCat · 24/07/2022 00:21

This rings a huge bell.

Well done for persevering with starting it.
Well done for achieving distinctions - OU has a much higher grading criteria than bricks and mortar unis do.

Proud of you.

Shehasadiamondinthesky · 24/07/2022 00:22

Get your degree and LTB and then earn more than him. I would clap from afar. How dare he put you down like this?

dontdrinkanddriveok · 24/07/2022 00:23

Well done! I have an OU degree and know the effort and discipline required. You are doing brilliantly!!!

And... your 'D'H is a twat.

SpacePotato · 24/07/2022 00:24

Well done. Are you going to divorce the arsehole once you've finished the degree?

mrsfollowill · 24/07/2022 00:25

It's really sad he does not support you - he sounds like a prick to be honest but you go for it - you can do it! You are very strong to have got so far so keep on.

calmlakes · 24/07/2022 00:27

Well you are obviously far from thick, enjoy your brains and your success!

ErrolTheDragon · 24/07/2022 00:27

I didn't see your original thread but wanted to express my admiration for your achievement - you must be strong, hardworking as well as intelligent to have done that. You should be chuffed!
(I'd ask wtf is wrong with your husband, but this is your thread and you sound much more interesting than him.)

PeekabooAtTheZoo · 24/07/2022 00:27

I remember your thread. Amazing work getting distinctions! When you get that first class degree, frame it and put it on your wall then add a divorce certificate next to it!

MrsTerryPratchett · 24/07/2022 00:30

Well done. I have a degree and would really struggle to do OU. It takes a lot to study alone and keep motivated. Bloody well done.

I do hope the degree is in LTB How and When.

GinBooksChocs · 24/07/2022 00:32

I remember your thread too. Congratulations on your achievement!

DegreeRebel · 24/07/2022 00:35

You're all so wonderful. Thank you. I celebrated alone on Tuesday when the module result came through, but am saving up for an enormous celebratory beano in two years' time when I finish the degree. I mean enormous. Huge.

Honestly. Where would some of us be without the women of MN?

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stoneysongs · 24/07/2022 00:38

Well done OP - I am two modules into my OU degree so know what it takes (hard work even with a supportive DH) and am full of admiration for you. Congratulations and keep up the good work Flowers

spongedog · 24/07/2022 00:44

I remember your original thread. Congratulations on your achievements so far. It is a shame that H cant acknowledge his error. I have always liked the saying used a lot on here - when someone shows you who they are believe them. Graduate and dump him.

SeekingTact · 24/07/2022 00:46

It ain’t easy @DegreeRebel VERY well done to you. Keep it going!

bloodybluemoon · 24/07/2022 00:50

Well done to you. You are really inspiring. Take note anyone who is in a similar situation and reading this, don't listen to anyone BUT yourself and just go for it.

AfterSchoolWorry · 24/07/2022 00:50

Great!

Now ditch that horrible husband!

abovedecknotbelow · 24/07/2022 00:52

Well done, now time to ditch the H.

takeitandleaveit · 24/07/2022 00:52

Good for you OP.

TartanGirl1 · 24/07/2022 01:40

Great news. I also study with IU whilst working and have a child with additional needs. It is hard AF!

Yours husbands reaction to you wanting to study is a red flag to me.

TartanGirl1 · 24/07/2022 01:41

TartanGirl1 · 24/07/2022 01:40

Great news. I also study with IU whilst working and have a child with additional needs. It is hard AF!

Yours husbands reaction to you wanting to study is a red flag to me.

OU not IU Blush

YoYoLife · 24/07/2022 03:46

Please don't tell me you're still married to that controlling abusive arsehole?

Unwavering721 · 24/07/2022 04:18

Amazing well done! Sorry your DH is a , he’s probably jealous.