Sister's boyfriend thinks I need some ambition

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Just feeling a bit low about what he said

DSis has a new boyfriend, been together a few months. Met him for the first time last week.

He came for a Sunday roast (my parents did him a Vegan one especially as he's on a flexi diet)

He was telling us about how he's been saving for a house since the age of 17. He's now 25.

He asked me about my house, said it was really lovely. I said oh you've seen! He said it was my sister showing pics

He asked how much my mortgage was per month. I said it was not mortgaged, but an assured tenancy through a housing association. It's a lifetime tenancy property

He asked when I would be buying. I said I probably never will - it has 3 beds. It is a lifetime tenancy.

He said 'yes but won't you be looking to better yourself and buy something eventually' I said that isn't obtainable really. The house is mine due to my son's disability. I will be a carer for as long as I physically can for him. And it's my daughters home too

He said 'I think you lack ambition Rach. You have potential'

My sister nodded along!

It was left at that and then no further digs were made at me. But I still feel a bit sad about it

No point to this thread really other than to voice my feelings

Being on the kind side, I’m thinking he is naive and has no idea of priorities.

The ‘I want to adopt a child from abroad but I’m worried about the air miles’ is probably a good example.
No idea of the difficulties linked with adoption, let alone adopting abroad. Issues with trauma, races, culture difference etc etc.
But very worried about air miles (so I’m assuming he is planning to go to a far away country to do a good act??) Wo a thought if taking away a child from his own culture and country isn’t more damaging than the trip itself.

Basically, he needs to grow up and face the reality of the real world. Atm he is a naive idealist that will do more harm than good.

(That’s the kind version. The other is that he is a pompous twat)

And to be pedantic, a mortgaged house is the bank's. They can call the debt in at anytime and force a sale unless you cough up the dough.

The only time you are totally secure is when the debt is paid off and even then it can be compulsorily purchased by the local authorities.

He's ignorant.

I wonder if you'd asked him "Do you know what an assured tenancy is?" He would even have an answer.

Lol what an utter bellend 😂