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How often dose you child/children see they’re grandparents

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Abbiewilliams96 · 21/07/2022 16:53

I have a 6 year old son and my mother is complaining that she don’t have him on her own at weekends. She comes to see him every day Monday-Friday straight after school and takes him out with his football and to the park. She’s now complaining about now seeing him at weekends. Me and partner usually take him out at weekend and have family time and also my partner likes to visit his family with our son weekends too. I’m just wondering how often your parents see your child/children.

OP posts:
cantthinkofanothergoodusername · 21/07/2022 16:57

every
months at most because my Mum lives
over 200 miles away and she
doesn't come here!

cantthinkofanothergoodusername · 21/07/2022 16:57

few months

MammaWeasel · 21/07/2022 16:59

When my two were young, it used to be once a week for the closest grandparents and once or twice a month for the further away set.

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changingroom · 21/07/2022 17:00

Used to be every couple of weeks when they lived a long way away.

They moved closer so now we see them a couple of times a week. Any more would be too much.

I would suggest you need to set boundaries and reduce week day visits. Maybe in exchange for a sleepover at her once every month or two.

ackeeandpeas · 21/07/2022 17:03

About every 12 months pre covid and not since July 2019. We are hopoing to see them in May next year so that will be just shy of 4 years.

They live in NZ within 2 miles of my younger sister and provide wraparound childcare for her all the time which she moans about because she perceives them as interfering. Hmm

HinchcliffeandMurgatroyd · 21/07/2022 17:03

Three or four times a year, for one set, who live 200 miles away. The other set died before the eldest was born, sadly.

NCHammer2022 · 21/07/2022 17:04

Approx twice a week for the ones who live in the same city. More like once a month/every 6 weeks for the other set.

HippeePrincess · 21/07/2022 17:05

One set pick up once a week from school , the other set one every school holiday ish.

piglet81 · 21/07/2022 17:07

About once a month for one set (they live 90 mins away) and a couple of times a year for the others (4 hours away).

Dewsberry · 21/07/2022 17:08

You already know that 5x per week is way, way more than average.

Singleandproud · 21/07/2022 17:09

I'm a single parent and my parents live on the same road as us. My parents did the school run for me when Dd was at primary school so she saw them every schoolday and they would often cook dinner for us both too which was lovely.

She's at secondary school now so pops her head in as she walks past to let them know she's alive and sometimes goes in for an ice cream or hot chocolate on her way home.

Non school time well pop in a couple of times a week and often have dinner but that's it and it's just as much company for them as it is for us.

Her other grandparents live a few hundred miles away so she goes with her dad roughly twice a year.

RhubarbFairy · 21/07/2022 17:09

Wow, that is an intense amount of time.

My parents, usually twice a year for a few days at a time (they're a 4 hour drive away).

MIL (2 hours away). This year they've seen her 3 times as she's comes down for 2-3 nights at a time, and she'll be back again in August to come on holiday with us for 6 nights, that'll be 8 nights in total for that trip.

Singleandproud · 21/07/2022 17:11

Growing up we saw my paternal grandparents every Saturday, all the aunts, uncles and cousins would go.
My maternal grandparents died before I was born.

What's important is what works for you as a family. Do you like that she takes him out for football after school or would you prefer to do that?

KyaClark · 21/07/2022 17:11

Probably about once a week for both sets.

teaorcoffee6 · 21/07/2022 17:12

Both Grandparents live within 4 miles

They see DC about 4/5 times a week.

Honestly if she wanted to have him at the weekend say once a month I wouldn't turn her down!

A free weekend for you and DP to spend time together. Sounds like heaven.

TheVillageBaker · 21/07/2022 17:13

2 or 3 times a year due to distance and her not being that bothered about being a grandma! DH's mum sees them once a year for the same reasons.
Your mum sounds a bit overbearing!

scamander · 21/07/2022 17:13

Singleandproud · 21/07/2022 17:09

I'm a single parent and my parents live on the same road as us. My parents did the school run for me when Dd was at primary school so she saw them every schoolday and they would often cook dinner for us both too which was lovely.

She's at secondary school now so pops her head in as she walks past to let them know she's alive and sometimes goes in for an ice cream or hot chocolate on her way home.

Non school time well pop in a couple of times a week and often have dinner but that's it and it's just as much company for them as it is for us.

Her other grandparents live a few hundred miles away so she goes with her dad roughly twice a year.

This is so wholesome, felt such a nice fuzzy feeling reading your comment. You're all blessed!!

Carrieonmywaywardsun · 21/07/2022 17:14

Every 6 or so months before covid. Planning on seeing ILs later this summer. They're not bothered but are lovely with DD when they see her so we don't mind they choose to be distanced

Flev · 21/07/2022 17:19

One set of grandparents live nearby and they generally see DD once a week (occasionally more, occasionally less).

The other set live about 200 miles away and see her for about 2-3 weekends a year.

Favouritefruits · 21/07/2022 17:19

Once a week after school, never at the weekend as my parents like to go out. I think every day is a bit much.

Fundays12 · 21/07/2022 17:24

About once or twice a month my mother sees them but she lives about 30 miles away and works evenings/weekends etc. MIL normally once a week. She lives very close. Nobody ever takes them out after school but equally I wouldn't allow anyone to take them out daily after school either as they have clubs, activities and like to spend time with there friends on our street. Kids don't get the chance to build those relationships unless they get time to do so. 5 times a week is a lot but every weekend is ridiculous as he has a right to spend time with his parents too.

MajorCarolDanvers · 21/07/2022 17:25

1-2 a week. Sometimes overnight

NanaNelly · 21/07/2022 17:25

Two or three times a week.

NanaNelly · 21/07/2022 17:26

Sorry - overnight often. I also take them n holiday and I currently have one staying for 11 sleeps. His cousin just went home and hour ago and he’d been here for 3 sleeps.

ComDummings · 21/07/2022 17:26

Every few months usually.

5 days a week is nuts.

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