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How often dose you child/children see they’re grandparents

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Abbiewilliams96 · 21/07/2022 16:53

I have a 6 year old son and my mother is complaining that she don’t have him on her own at weekends. She comes to see him every day Monday-Friday straight after school and takes him out with his football and to the park. She’s now complaining about now seeing him at weekends. Me and partner usually take him out at weekend and have family time and also my partner likes to visit his family with our son weekends too. I’m just wondering how often your parents see your child/children.

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EsmeeMerlin · 21/07/2022 17:28

It used to be every couple of weeks, sometimes more because we used to live in the same area but we moved at the end of last year so now we tend to only see grandparents in the school holidays. My children are getting a little older now, I feel we saw grandparents more before they started school but now my 8 year old in particular has after school clubs and friends he wants to see, it's harder to fit grandparents in.

Smallorangecat · 21/07/2022 17:44

Once a week each set because they help with childcare while I work.

boymama82 · 21/07/2022 17:45

I have a 1 and a 2 year old and my mum comes every Wednesday with my Aunty to help me. We also see both my parents on either Saturday or Sunday and I go there once a week so 3 times

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11Hawkins · 21/07/2022 17:47

Mil every day which is a bit much but it is what it is. I'm over it now 😂

My parents once or twice a year, usually stay with them for a week and then my mum stays with us for 1/2 weeks in the summer.

OnceAgainWithFeeling · 21/07/2022 17:48

11 year old sees my parents once a week after school and every other weekend for a sleepover. They live 30 miles away but used to live an 8 hour flight away so the relationship was cultivated on video calls for the first 3 years.

PIL see DD approx once every 3-4 years. They live 250 miles away and do very little to maintain the relationship, so we don’t either.

She absolutely wouldn’t want to see either every day. Sod that for a game of soldiers.

blebbleb · 21/07/2022 17:50

Every few months for us. My family live over 100 miles away from us and in laws over 200 miles. In laws make more effort despite being further away.

underneaththeash · 21/07/2022 17:54

My DM (who is about 180 miles away). Once every couple of months. MIL who’s about 300 miles away - about 3 x a year.
when I was younger, we lived round the corner from both sets of grandparents and saw them once a week.

willowstar · 21/07/2022 18:38

Once a year due to them living abroad and not being at all bothered about seeing my children more often

Annonnimoouse42 · 21/07/2022 18:42

Son barely ever sees grandparents. He has autism and apparently this makes him worth a lot less than his cousins.

TheCanyon · 21/07/2022 19:10

Everyday would be far too much. We thought about moving back to my home town, but knew my mum would nip round all the time so moved further away.

See my parents every 6 weeks or so for a few hours. They typically stay here one night a year after a local festival so me and dh can go out.

Fil, was brought here by the police last june, before that was 2019 I think, maybe 2018.

RabbitBeaver · 21/07/2022 19:17

Every day :). I love our family relationship.

Exiledone · 21/07/2022 19:19

About a couple of times a month.

Does your mum not have any friends or anything else in her life? My parents raised 4 kids. They've said themselves they adore our kids but are also happy enjoying their childfree lives.

Motheranddaughtertotwo · 21/07/2022 19:20

My kids see my parents about 5 x a week, at least one of them will usually have a sleepover most weekends. We just all really get on and enjoy time together. It seems a lot for some people but it works for us. We see my in-laws about twice a week. There’s no right way, every family is different.

BogStandard · 21/07/2022 19:25

My 2 DC see my parents every day (Monday-Friday) and DH's mum 2/3 times a year as she lives a plane journey away. We spend the weekends just the 4 of us which suits everyone as my parents then have time to themselves aswell.

ColinRobinsonsfamiliar · 21/07/2022 19:28

Due to zero interest from both sets of grandparents it can be 6-12 months.
Both sets live minutes away.

It would be longer but I take my son to see my mum, she would never ever come to ours. I only take him if I am popping in to drop her a birthday card off or bring her to ours for Christmas dinner.
If I see her in between she never ever asks after him. It’s like he is nothing to do with her.

And it’s 12 months for dh’s parents as their car needs MOT and dh gets a bit of discount on this for them.

Arseholes the lot of them.

HerRoyalHappiness · 21/07/2022 19:30

They see my mum (nan) almost every day currently. She's my carer. Her husband (grandaddy) when he can get time off work.
They see my step grandma (grandma name) birthdays and Christmas.

They see my dad when he can be arsed to turn up.

They don't see their paternal grandmother at all as she's an abusive, drug selling alcoholic and their paternal grandfather died before me and the DCs dad got together.
They're not allowed near any of their dad's side of the family as they're all druggies and either sell or take drugs or both.

coffeecupsandfairylights · 21/07/2022 19:32

I don't have children but I saw my grandparents every 2-4 years as they lived overseas.

MsJuniper · 21/07/2022 19:38

One side (nearby) - collects from school 2x per week and has them for 1-2 hours. Weekend/sch holiday probably one day a month (whole family events or outing).

Other side (distant) - usually visit around 4-6x per year and stay for a couple of nights.

Léighméleabhair · 21/07/2022 19:47

We live abroad so once every couple of years. When I was a child, we saw my only grandparents for a fortnight during the school summer holidays.

Your mum sounds ridiculous and I’d cut back the visits unless you’re expecting her to provide a lot of regular childcare?

As a grandparent, I find it odd to want to see your grandchildren weekly. Hasn’t your mum got any other interests in her life?

Camomila · 21/07/2022 19:50

Most days for the ones that live in the same town as us (DM does 2/3 days a week childcare for us)

Once every few months for the ones that live 1.5h away

user850301848172 · 21/07/2022 19:51

Never alone, my parents don't want to look after my children.

MsSquiz · 21/07/2022 19:57

My girls only have 1grandparent and he lives in the next street! So we see him a few times a week. Sometimes he'll pop round to see dd1 before nursery and chat through the window when he walks his dog, or DH will take them both to play in his garden. Occasionally he might come for Sunday lunch or we'll take the girls for a walk and he brings the dog

But these arrangements work for all of us, that's the important bit

NanaNelly · 21/07/2022 20:02

MsSquiz · 21/07/2022 19:57

My girls only have 1grandparent and he lives in the next street! So we see him a few times a week. Sometimes he'll pop round to see dd1 before nursery and chat through the window when he walks his dog, or DH will take them both to play in his garden. Occasionally he might come for Sunday lunch or we'll take the girls for a walk and he brings the dog

But these arrangements work for all of us, that's the important bit

A chat through the window ❤️

Quornflakegirl · 21/07/2022 20:04

My dc have met my mother about 10 times (they’re 10 soon), dm lives abroad. Their other dgm is 2 miles away and they see her two or three times a years for a brief hello, this is her choice.

MsSquiz · 21/07/2022 20:07

@NanaNelly he can't come in because we have cat hating dogs and dd1 is usually still in pjs so can't go out, so they have a morning chat about the day ahead, then grandad passes dd a dog treat for her to drop out of the window for the dog so everyone is happy! It is very cute