Teenagers overdressing in the heat

[antelopevalley]

Has anyone found any way to get a teenager to wear less on hot days? My 14-year-old DS is insisting on wearing his hoodie. He looks very hot, but keeps insisting he is not?

Or should I just ignore it, and take a photo of him to show future partners what he wore during a heatwave?

And is it only my son?

Yeah. Nearly as annoying as the, 'put your coat on' brigade.

We had that earlier, but it was pants and socks 🤦🏻‍♀️

We are in Scotland so a bit chillier at 15 degrees today so maybe needed the socks 🤣

Secondary teacher here. It's roasting at work and we've had no ties/ blazers since the start of the week. Still get kids in full uniform. "Miss, I'm so hot I can't breathe" "take your blazer off!😊" "Nooooooo". As an aside, the number of kids that can tell me perfectly calmly that they can't breathe is quite comical.

The main reasons teenagers do this is either their self conscious.Their hiding something self harm, tattoos, trackmarks, pregnancy. Or they want something with pockets because they can't be bothered to carry their phone or their hiding their cigarettes/drugs

Is he ashamed of his body? My son was a chubby kid and once in Spain it was very hot but he wouldn't take off his hoodie.
He was really excited about a rugby tour until they said they'd be going to a water park and suddenly he didn't want to go.
He lost it all through putting himself on a strict diet and fitness regime at 13.
If that's not it and there's no other reason than being contrary leave him alone. And I know it was a joke but humiliating your kid later in their life is never a good thing.

My 16yr old went to London yesterday. Black skinny jeans, T-shirt and school leavers hoodie. I made him pack some shorts incase he couldn’t cope with the heat.. of course he didn’t change..
he wears shorts around the house.. but point blank refuses to go out in shorts..
I’ve given up telling him to dress weather appropriately

My DS is none of the above, he wears t-shirts 90' style, they are pretty expensive and he is interested in creating a certain look, he is definitely not a Roadman ! His friends are the same, fairly baggy jeans, 90s style t-shirts or shirts over tshirt,.floppy curly hair. They all go swimming in the sea and wear trunks, he is certainly not shy or hiding anything and he is very thin and tall but quite muscular arms so certainly not worried about being overweight. He just says that shorts are middle aged looking and his friends are the same. That said, some arrived today and he is really happy with them.

I think it's self consciousness or being determined to change at very minimum what they'd normally wear .

I'm the nagging sort (don't worry they ignore me) who talks about being appropriately dressed for the weather and constantly worrying they're too hot. Teen has been wearing trousers plus ankle boots (DM type boots) shirt and t shirt. Or skirts with tights, though it's too hot for tights! At least they're not wearing coats!

Though I bought several new pairs of shorts, chosen by DC and said they would wear. Unused...

Teens aren't known for their logic 🤣🤣

My ds is now 17. He's a swimmer. And I mean serious swimmer - so 9 training sessions a week for 4 days he swims morning and evening.

So he pretty much lives in swimming trunks.

But will he remove a t shirt in the garden or the beach unless swimming? Will he heck 🤷‍♀️ apparently he doesn't feel comfortable

He's also one who wears shorts T shirt and hoody in summer and trousers T shirt and hoody (no coat!) when it's freezing in winter.

This thread has reminded me of Liam Gallagher sweating buckets in his parka on a chat show!
It’s all about the style! 🤣

@lurchermummy I was thinking the same. Not all teens who wear hoodies are doing it for this reason but self-harm is more common than people think and you can live in a house with someone doing it without knowing about it. I was shocked and saddened when I saw the huge numbers of scars on my daughter's arms and now I get suspicious whenever she starts covering up again. 😢

I know you're being 'light hearted' but actually why?

I was incredibly self conscious as a teen (as many are) and might have done the same.

I wouldn't find it at all funny now if my parents dragged out a picture of me at 14 in a hoodie on a hot day to laugh at. I'd find it a) a bit weird of them and b) a slightly unpleasant memory about how self conscious I was.

Just leave him fgs.

I remember my awful ex MIL going on and on about me wearing tights on a foreign holiday in a hot country. I had tonnes of body issues and was only 18. It added to me misery and I hated her a bit more for that. My dd is still in her hoodie because she (irrationally to me) has issues showing her arms and back. Her body, her choice. I'd never add to her anxiety because I love her and it's none of my business what she wears.

😂😂😂

That's my first spat-my-coffee-out-with-laughter of the day!

😂😂😂

M not concerned mine are covering up scars/self harm. They change into the correct attire for their sports and any scarring would be visible then.

I know he is not self-harming! I am not stupid. He is a bit self-conscious and thinks he looks better wearing a hoodie.
But he goes swimming with us when we were on holiday. Pretty sure I would have seen scars when he had only trunks on.
It is just normal teenage stuff.

MNers project too much.
It is a shame that teens feel like they have to wear a safe (social) uniform.
Good of us parents to gently nudge them when they're being daft.

I'd vote peer pressure as main reason for the hoody uniform. Since when do MNers argue that giving into peer pressure is a good thing?

I have seen some HE kids in suitable clothing in last few days. Or traveller kids, maybe. Anyway, teens out & about with parents during school hours. Rather more suitably attired for the heat.

It's just the roadman look isn't it. I used to wear all black in my emo phase no matter what the weather, it was just for fashion and I took myself very seriously

I think boys are either shorts and t-shirt in the snow or full tracksuits in 30 degrees. I'm not convinced they all grow out of it

@antelopevalley my slightly older DS is the same. He insists he's fine in his black jeans t-shirt and dark hoodie in 30 degrees+ heat. On holiday in hot med country and he's conceded to wearing shorts but he'd never dream of wearing them in the UK 😁
They're a funny, loveable bunch. I was the same as a teen, just so self conscious and awkward about showing any unnecessary flesh.

Have you actually seen a hoodie?!

You can't seriously be suggesting that a hoodie is more appropriate and cooler for 30 degree heat than shorts and a t shirt?

Mine's exactly the same. He does it partly to be contrary, I suspect - he went out in a hoodie on Saturday, entirely because I'd told him not to, and came back absolutely scarlet and stinking, and he wore his big winter coat all through the heatwave last year. He insists on sleeves for school because he doesn't like the feeling of the desks on his bare arms. Doesn't like having his arms bare when we're out, ever - definitely no self-harm marks because he's happy enough to wear t-shirts at home, but the minute he has to go even just to the corner shop, whatever the weather, he'll announce that he's cold and put on a coat or hoodie.

This is exactly the same as our 14 yr old!

I hated being "gently nudged" as a teenager, old enough to make certain decisions that wouldn't harm me, and I hate it now.

This is amazing! I’m saving it for when DD comes in later wearing a hoodie and sweating her ass off! 😂