Teenagers overdressing in the heat

[antelopevalley]

Has anyone found any way to get a teenager to wear less on hot days? My 14-year-old DS is insisting on wearing his hoodie. He looks very hot, but keeps insisting he is not?

Or should I just ignore it, and take a photo of him to show future partners what he wore during a heatwave?

And is it only my son?

'Twas ever thus.

My teen is insisting on stomping off to school in doc martens in the heatwave.

Leave him alone - no need to mock. He’s old enough to make his own decisions. Having said that, when a friend of mine was doing this, it turned out she was self-harming and didn’t want to show the scars.

It's such a weird teen thing. Mine also insists he's not hot, but in the winter he wears shorts and t-shirt, saying then that he always feels hot. Mostly I let him get on with it but it's baffling.

Hoodies are fine. If wearing a puffa jacket though and going into a shop he will be watched as a potential shoplifter! (See gang comment above) we ignore teens wearing hoodies and blazers, cos, well, teens, but puffs jackets in this weather? Yeah, we got eyes on you.

I was thinking the exact same thing! People are so ANGRY. I used to love a good browse on mumsnet but the faux misunderstandings and general outright antagonism and rudeness is depressing.

Plus ca change! I remember not wanting to remove my jumper or wear socks instead of tights in the height of summer. It’s hard work being a teen 🙂

It’s the fashion…very early 90s fashion

my dd wanders around in an oversized hoody and flared brown jeans or undies and I’m 😵‍💫

We had this problem and dd was getting sick, literally vomiting from getting overheated. It’s much hotter where we live. Part of the issue is that she wanted clothing that hid her changing shape. Appropriate summer clothing makes it very hard to hide new curves. She is ASD so very stubborn about some things.

my response was to spend a great deal of time shopping until we finally found clothing that fit her tiny height, was summer appropriate, met her strong style requirements (Korea has the best clothes apparently), but was boxy enough that she would wear it. To say that I spent hours on this task would be an understatement. We also don’t have school uniform so I needed enough outfits to get through a week.

I am my DC’s worst nightmare when it comes to wearing appropriate clothes and being ‘prepared’ in all weather.

I am irritating AF!

Don’t forget your hoodie
You’ll be boiling in that
It’s freezing/a heatwave out there
You’ll need an umbrella
Are you sure you don’t need a coat?
Have you got sun cream/sunglasses?
Don’t forget blister plasters

I see it as my job to at least try and prevent my precious DC from suffering from sun burn, sunstroke, getting drenched in the rain, being too hot or too cold and miserable 🤣 All the advice I ignored as a teenager myself.

I am in my 50s and my own Mum still nags me.

last winter when it was freezing cold, I remarked to my daughter at drop off that i guess I should take it as a sign of equality that men were now suffering for fashion as almost every boy walked into school in 0 degree weather wearing shorts and athletic socks. They were not going to compromise on showing off those socks.

the only real problem with the hoodies and puffer jackets is the body odor. I still remember back in the late 90s getting on the train in San Francisco and for some reason dozens of teen boys piled in. It was the middle of summer and they were all wearing winter puffer coats. The stench was unbelievable.

He is not self-harming! He just has teenage self-consciousness about his changing body. It is normal.
But he does not read mumsnet! So he is not harmed by what I post here.

Just leave him be. He's 14 and will grow out of it.

@antelopevalley some people on mums et don’t do lighthearted anymore! Preferring to be offended is now the theme for some.

but yes, I’d just take a pic, not say anything & let him be hot! He might take it off mon/Tues when the extreme heat is meant to arrive!

on my memory pics wall at my 21st there was a pic of me looking like the brattiest teen ever with bleach blonde hair & black roots haha & at the time I thought I was just the best!!

@StarDolphins I have a photo of me at about 15 on holiday with my parents. They are all wearing summer t-shirts and tops, I have a winter black coat. I look like I am melting, but remember insisting I was fine. But I hated having my photo taken and it was the only thing I thought I looked good in.

We've got 3 hoodie wearers. 16, 18, 18.

My ironing pile looks huge but it's mainly oversized bloody hoodies!!!

Drives me mad. I've refused to stand and iron in this heat so they're now wearing unironed hoodies.

It’s 40c here and mine wears long black joggers and a long sleeve top. When it’s 35C he adds a hoodie. I’ve given up and let him get on with it

Just leave him. Obviously man's not hot

I have noticed recently that almost all the girls at my DC's school are wearing black tights. DD gets really hot and was wearing ankle socks but she seemed to be pretty much the only one!

My teen was the same but we live in a country with hotter summers (than UK) and after about 6 weeks of warm weather she finally let go of the hoodie and leggings and now wears t-shirts and shorts daily. But both my kids are blanket addicts no matter the temps they will bundle up on the sofa (we do have AC but it's still warm).

I think it is mainly habit/comfort and it is hard to let go of being more covered up. If the weather stays hot hopefully your teens will adapt!

I was much amused by a family of 3 kayaking on river today.

It was 30-31 degrees out.
Parents in sensible outfits, startled-eyed teen in hoody, joggers...

Few hours later I joined came across group of teens swimming. One had terrible sunburn, but at least they were all suitably attired. And having great fun.

God mine are younger but I'd be bloody telling them

You look absolutely ridiculous

Why allow them to look sweaty and stupid!? They need to learn about weather appropriately clothing

@MayDaze You iron hoodies?!?

<misses point of thread>

Mine have just left the teenage phase, but I remember hoodies and leggings on hot days and no coat on cold ones.

I see teenagers in my area wearing blazers and jumpers and the girls with the tiny puffers and I just think 🥺🗣Take it off please! They look exhausted but are obviously hiding behind these clothes. I just hope the day they realise its ok to just 'be' comes soon for them all. Just think, OP, in front of you hes got the hoodie on but in his room he's probably strutting around in his birthday suit. My DD does the latter all the time but shes 8 lol

I remember explaining a few years ago that we did indeed wear outer clothing when clubbing in the snowy Midlands winters of yesterdecade, as there were CLOAKROOMS where you left your COAT. Frank disbelief set in at the concept of the little paper ticket, I think.