Pros of a boy when you wanted a girl…

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just that… I am likely to be single parent so even more worried about that angle!

I always assumed I'd have a girl or at least one of each. I didn't play with boys as a kid, have always related better to girls and women and wasn't sure I'd know what to do with a boy. I now have 2 boys. I wouldn't change them for the world. They are so straightforward, tell you what they think, no agenda. They have zero issues with friends, give great hugs and one day will be lovely men. I can cope with sticky sheets and a bit of mono-syllabic grunting. It's awful to say but I'll also not worry as much about them being unfairly treated and judged by society for being themselves.

Easier to do hair for school.
School shoes are much more sensible and robust.
Uniform is cheaper, (apart from pe kit)

Most importantly he will be your lovely child and you will love him for who he turns out to be.

Kids are their own people. Don't project a load of narrow gender stereotypes onto him. There is no guarantee of anything just because he is a boy.

Healthy, living breathing child not enough for you?

I used to want girls before I had children and really worried I wouldn’t love a boy as much. I’m being really honest here. It wasn’t even about dolls and pink (I don’t like them), more that I had such a close bond with my Mum growing up, I thought I couldn’t have that with a son.

As it happened, I had one of each. And it turns out I am closer to my DS than DD. I adore them both equally and they are their own personalities, so different - but DS and I are so similar and just “get” each other, whereas I have to consciously work more at building the bond with DD. If I’d only had girls I’d never have been privileged to have that bond and I’m so lucky to have my son. So honestly OP, don’t worry about it.

DS is like a boy version of me. Quite interesting phenomenon.

Sorry, my last post not fair and miscarriage driven.

You probably won't have to watch Frozen.

Boys are so loving and cute and cuddly.

@MichelleScarn i understand. Hope you are ok xx

@Cotswoldmama brilliant

@MichelleScarn and im so sorry for your loss xx

I've one of those. Looks and personality. Fascinating, isn't it?

You have to let go of any preconceptions as a parent. Children turn out unexpectedly- we have four - all very different. I’m sure you will love him or her completely.

Aside from that, in our experience, our boys have been a darn sight more straightforward than our daughter. No agenda, just need lots of food/ love and exercise.

You'll realise boy/girl stereotypes are a load of crap I have two boys and a girl, haven't found a single one to hold any truth.

Your son will be a wonderful and unique little person. Just enjoy him.

I have one of each and can only comment on what I’ve experienced with my own. No idea if they’re ‘typical’ boy and girl, or indeed if such a thing even exists. Mostly they’re their own people. At the moment my DS is 12. My friends with 12 yo DDs are currently going through prepubescent hell, boys start later on that front so parents of boys, in general will get an extra year or two of childhood. My DS is still relatively childlike and free of hormonal tantrums (I’m sure I’ll have it all to come though!)

Agree with PP’s. Clothes are cheaper, school uniform is simpler, I don’t have to spend hours doing his hair every morning. My Bf has 3 daughters. I don’t know how she ever leaves the house with all that hair to brush!

My DS is quiet, kind and calm. He’s serious and intelligent. He has lovely friends and really solid, stable friendships. Unlike my DD he doesn’t fight constantly with his friends.

I’ll be honest, I was pretty shaken up when I found out I was having a son. I didn’t grow up around men, have no brothers, went to an all girls school, had a poor relationship with my father. I thought as a mother I would have nothing to offer a son, that I somehow wouldn’t be able to raise him properly. Truth is he’s (mostly) a delight. We have a lot in common, we laugh at the same things, find joy in the same things. Much as I do with my DD. Basically, I have a very similar relationship with both children, no difference (other than the obvious!) between them.

My friend has two children. The eldest is quiet, creative, loves to bake cookies and loves cats, glitter and the colour pink. The youngest is very busy and sporty, always playing with a ball, climbing, running around with other kids and going fishing.

They're both boys.

I'm not sure that gender is a thing until they reach their teens, and by then you're used to the idea. My DD plays with cars and hits with dolls. She didn't get that from me, I was as girly as they come.

You'll have to discover what kind of child yours is. Apart from not wearing dresses there might not be much difference than if you'd have had a girl. They like what they like.

I remember the initial feeling of uncertainty when I found out dc2 was a boy, no boys in the family so no idea what to do with a boy!
He's amazing. So loving and silly and funny and endearing. He's easier than dd was at that age (9). He can walk in to a room full of strangers and come out with a friend. He makes me smile (and laugh!!) everyday.

Ive spent tonight dancing like a loon around my living room with DS(5) followed by loads of cuddles and the us drawing each other and a mini food fight.

I can't speak for all boys, and I don't know if our night would have been different if he was a girl, but he is so fun, funny and loving. Honestly I couldn't imagine not having him

Another one with a DS who is a mini me 😂.

I always thought I'd have a girl but...nature!

I've loved having a son. I've found it so interesting living slightly vicariously through his childhood experiences compared to mine as a member of the opposite sex.

Interestingly I have a much better relationship with him as a teen than I did with my mother at the same ages (though I'm very close to her again now). Tbh I think hormones play a part and compared to myself and DSD his teen years have been easy to parent (apart from a tricky few months of soap dodging which is thankfully over).

I'll also admit it's been lovely to have insight into parenting a DD as a SM but I've never once wished DS had been a DD since the day he was born.

My son is very affectionate and much more of a cuddly child than my older DD. Also its usually less complicated when their older you won’t have to watch him be eyed up by adult men at 12 for example.

@MotherOfCrocodiles so is mine. We have a fabulous relationship even if he is at the tricky teenage stage

Fair play, that's good of you to post that and I'm really sorry for your loss

Been there (twice) and know how much it hurts, but have my lovely DS sat next to me as I type and simply feel now that I was waiting for him iyswim.

I'm generalising but my experience of having both:

Boys: straightforward, into everything. Bash, cry, move on and forget the upset. Joyful, really adore their mummy, you feel like their most important person ever.

Girls, sweet but complicated, anxious, holds onto hurts, often have an agenda. Girls think differently somehow. Amazing imagination.

They’re just people. Boy or girl, doesn’t matter. I guess a pro would be it might relax any possibility of rigid thinking around what your child ‘should’ be based on their sex. It might encourage you to explore your own views. What did you want from a girl that you won’t get from a boy?