Pros of a boy when you wanted a girl…

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just that… I am likely to be single parent so even more worried about that angle!

They’re brilliant! I have 2 boys and am expecting my 3rd DC and secretly hoping it will be another boy. Gender stereotypes are a load of rubbish, I know people worry about boys leaving when they get older but all the men I know dote on their moms. I love knowing that I’m raising my boys to be good men. They’re just incredible and so so loving.

Incredibly affectionate, super kind, loud!, make me get out of my comfort zone in really good and healthy ways, just want to play with anyone, very accepting, happy with a simple life.

Yes but it’s almost always mums who do this stuff

Nope it is 💯 true.

Clearly you drew the short straw 😂

Also, if they get a female partner, you gain a daughter.

@NoRegretsNoTearsGoodbye

Let me see - boys are simple and loving, girls are bitchy grudge holders. Girls will cost you money in nails and hair, boys are less expensive. Boys are loving and cuddly, girls are distant and independent.

Almost as if the whole reason people get disappointed is because they make up these weird stereotypes.

Whether you have a boy ora girl it's your child and you will love them fiercely for who they are my boys are my everything, if I had, had daughters imbsure I would have felt the same.

Stats show that men are far more likely to leave the family unit when their offspring are solely female.
Whether that's a good thing in your case is another matter.

Children are children. A large part of the problem is how we stereotype them. There are loud girls and quiet boys, affectionate girls and independent boys. And vice versa, of course.

One thing I would say, based on what I've observed, is that if you have a child who loves to run, climb, be active, roll in the dirt, fidget, can't sit still for two seconds etc.....that behaviour is likely to be viewed as much more socially acceptable (and therefore you will feel less stressed) if your child is a boy. I'm not even talking about 'boys will be boys' (i.e. unacceptable behaviour being tolerated because the child is a boy), but more that some young children, boys and girls, have problems sitting still and conforming when they just want to be up and about and being active. I've seen girls being treated much more harshly for this behaviour and viewed as 'naughty', whereas with boys it is seen as more 'natural' and the boy is gently encouraged to comply with instructions. So girls who don't fit the 'quiet, well-behaved' stereotype have a tougher time imo.

But understandable Sorry for your loss. So painful.

It's odd how some of us really want a particular sexed baby, I wonder if it is hormone based? But the longing and disappointment is real. Perhaps we ought to talk about it more.

And yes we should be grateful for a healthy baby. Miscarriage is not well understood either.

I'm sure these are massive generalisations as it all depends on the child. I often hear boys are 'easier' and that boys tend to want to be close to their mums growing up - 'mummy's boys'. But yeah, I take it with a pinch of salt.
I have just one child (only 5 months), a boy. I love him more than I ever could have imagined. I thought (but didn't want either way - my ideal was one of each!) that I was carrying a girl.

The erosion of womens rights is a huge concern.

I have two boys. They are both incredibly different people, other wonderful and unique, neither are classic “boys”. I thought I would have a girl but two boys has proved to be amazing.

Don't even look at it in terms of boy and girl. He will be him - his own unique person. I have 1 of each and my girl has more stereotypical boy behaviour (loud, active, sporty) whilst my boy has more stereotypical girl behaviour (likes to sit quietly with a book, draw etc). Once he's here and starts developing you will love him for being him and stop thinking of him as a "boy".

What about the love mothers have for their daughters? I certainly do not love my son more than my daughter or think he's better than his sister. Nor is the opposite true.
I hope to god you don't have a daughter and are just talking out of your arse.

OP these threads always descend into an absolute shit show of people tripping over themselves to explain why boys are better than girls or explaining what boys and girls are like based on a sample size of 2 or 3.

Your son will be lovely. You don't know what he will be like yet but you will love getting to know him. If you ever have a daughter she'll be lovely too.

I agree, it's ridiculous I don't have girls, but if I did I would have loved them just as much as I love my sons ,because they would have been my children .

This is purely anecdotal each child is their own person and not a gender stereotype etc etc etc

But in my friendship group the boys really really love their mums! I'm definitely the centre of my son's world for the time being he is boisterously affectionate in a way my daughters weren't.

Also boys seem to be able to entertain themselves a bit better. My daughters were always asking me to sit and play some game with them whereas my son made it quite clear I was messing the order of his toys up!

I had pictured a girl and was irrationally a bit upset after the reveal scan but that was my family issues affecting me.

Fast forward a decade and I'm a single mum to a beautiful, funny, affectionate boy who also has ASD but bags of empathy and intelligence and he's just brilliant.

Some girls seem to be very dramatic and they seem to get older quicker at the tween stage but that's not all girls. One of my DS best friends is an amazing little girl who is just fabulous so it doesn't matter, they're all wonderful and different.

So many generalisations on this thread. 'Boys are more likely to....", "girls tend to....". Surely much of this is heavily influenced by social conditioning. Think I need to use this thread when I teach language and gender.

I've never, ever assumed my dc's traits were due to their sex. It's just their personalities. If dd were a boy she'd be described as boistrous. Instead, she's described as lively and energetic. If ds were a girl, he'd be described as shy.

And mine

I have a 10yr old DS. He is sensitive, anxious and prone to emotional outbursts. He also has very long hair I have to do in Viking braids each morning and he adored Frozen, including dressing up as Elsa. In comparison, my DD has a shaved head, is the most straightforward and uncomplicated person I've ever met and spends her free time playing chess, drawing, reading or sitting at the park doing physics revision with her entirely male friendship group (they play football during their breaks).

That was just to address some of the gender led nonsense people always trot out. I've attempted not to raise my dc free of stereotypes per se because what that usually looks like is a rejection of stereotypes out of hand (see the boys don't watch Frozen stuff above) or a desire to raise children without acknowledging the conflicting needs between men and women. Instead, I've tried to follow their leads. They're indubitably, undeniably, astonishingly a young man and young woman respectively. There are differences that arise from biological and societal inevitability. But they're individuals.

95% of the stuff on these threads is transient or projected tut.

Each child is a curious, magnificent and unique person with their own tangle of eccentricities. It really doesn't matter whether they're male or female in terms of who they are to us.

I was horribly disappointed when DS2 was sex revealed, but I totally adore him now. The most gorgeous, loving sweet boy ever. My little soulmate.

My children are young adults now. I have a DD and 2 DS. DS 's more affectionate and buy me flowers for no reason, just because I am their Mum.

This thread is awful, just a bunch of harmful stereotypes. There are no positives or negatives to either sex because every child is an individual, you can have a caring, straightforward girl and a difficult distant boy and vice versa.

Also boys seem to be able to entertain themselves a bit better. My daughters were always asking me to sit and play some game with them whereas my son made it quite clear I was messing the order of his toys up!

For every anecdote shared here, there’ll be a poster whose had the opposite experience! My DD always played independently when she was little, and didn’t need or want much input from us. She got lost in her own world of play and imagination. Our DS on the other hand, was always asking us to play with him and even now aged 14 is often on at his dad to play football/tennis/table tennis/go to the gym with him.

As for the idea that there is something unique about a mother’s love for her son, (or his love for her): it’s nonsense. I can only hope those posters don’t have daughters! Imagine being the daughter of a Mum who loved your brother more than you 😞

My DD is 16 and told me yesterday that I am her best friend. I was quite surprised by it. I never set out to be one of those pally kind of mums. But it was nice to hear it. She loves me and I love her (just as much as I love her brother!)