Pros of a boy when you wanted a girl…

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just that… I am likely to be single parent so even more worried about that angle!

Called "Mummy's little boy" for a reason!! Boys can be more affectionate well past the time girls stop being so. Cheaper by far!! I'm taking teen - hair, make up, nails, clothes, shoes. There's this meme of someone throwing money out the window with the line - that's what it's like if you have daughters :)

They don't call men mummy's boys for no reason!

I do too. It’s really interesting.

Boys are awesome. From my experience I’d say uncomplicated and being unconditionally affectionate are the two biggest positives.

My son loves frozen

I think it's a really good chance to examine your own gender stereotypes and see them for the nonsense they are. Then go and love your boy for the delightful person he is, it's personality that matters.

When I found out that my third was a boy, I was absolutely gutted.

He's the best thing in the world!! He's always been extremely cuddly and is even more so at 17 months. He's the most beautiful, adorable, gorgeous little creature I've ever known or seen. The amount of times I think about him when I'm at work and just desperately miss him, it's ridiculous.

Anyway, point is, boys are bloody amazing. If I ever had a 4th (I don't want another!) I'd be so so hopeful for a boy.

My DD was always independent, outgoing and confident. She never needed me although she liked I was there.

My DS is a mummy's boy. Loving, devoted, caring. Hugs me, kisses me. I am his world, he needs me.

I have raised them both the same and I love them the same but if I'm after a cuddle my ds is the go to!

Having always imagined having girls, in reality if I was to have a third I'd want another boy!

I always thought I would have all girls and I did have 2 daughters first, when I was pregnant with number 3 people would ask if we were trying again for a boy, I definitely wasn't and at that time if given an option I would have chosen another girl , I could just picture myself as a mum of girls , It was all I knew but in to the world came my beautiful big baby boy and he is only almost a year now but I'm besotted , my girls have always had this feisty independence from day one but he has this calmer more sensitive nature , he is everything I didn't know I was missing and god am I glad you don't get to choose !

I don’t have kids but have nephews and nieces and I would certainly not say that boys are less complicated - really depends on the boy!

Boys can be equally sensitive, complicated, imaginative and anxious as girls. My favourite nephew is like this - is also hilarious, creative, philosophic and very charming.

I thought I would prefer the girls but they’re quite me me me drama llamas with endless histrionics and I find that quite annoying.

That’s nothing to do with girls though - if all the girl children in your family are ‘me ne me drama llamas with endless histrionics’ it means your brothers/sisters are poor at parenting. Or that you’ve (and your family) subconsciously decided girls are x and then impressed that upon them. Much like the ‘ooh girls have an agenda/are bitchier/are meaner/are sly’ and ‘boys are so simple and loving.’ They’re children, they’re born brand new to the world and they become their own people.

Single mum to a boy. He’s the the most caring and loving child. It has nothing to do with his sex/gender. He has qualities traditionally attributed to girls - sensitive, helpful at home, protective. He’s unlike me in many ways in that he’s confident, witty, and self-assured. You really won’t know what type of child you’ll get. Don’t wish for one over the other.

I have boys and they absolutely love Frozen.

It feels a bit strange having it on at the moment.

OP, you will likely feel just as happy with either sex once they arrive. Try not to over-think it, just enjoy your new baby.

Some of us can’t have any children, let alone get fussy about what genitals they have. Count your blessings!

I do remember feeling slightly disappointed when I found out I was having a boy which surprised me as I didn't think that I had a particular hankering for a girl.

Anyway all I can say is that I love him SO much. He is so kind, really emotionally mature for his age (7) and I could not imagine my life without him, or with a girl for that matter!

I promise you, you will love having a boy.

The biggest pro is that he will be your child. No child in the world is as awesome as yours, just don't make it too obvious to the other parents that you've recognised his superior awesomeness.

Boys (in my opinion) are very affectionate and loving. Mine write letters to tell me they love me. They are easy to sort clothes wise. Minor I know. It's just a haircut every few weeks. Jobs done.
I don't know what it's like having girls but mine love a trip to Primark to buy a cosy love heart cushion for their bed 🤣 so maybe it's the exact same ???

That’s incorrect it’s just their personalities. They just came out like that - they both love acting, performing and being on stage, dressing up - and with that goes rather self-centred, histrionic personalities. Opposite in fact to my sister’s own personality - who is a musical horse loving tomboy.

Hmmm.... this thread is (inadvertently) a bit of a trap isn't it!

a) we're saying check your gender stereotypes
but b) we're also saying - the good things about boys are: x,y and z

So many things are cultural too

Oh okay the girl children just came out histrionic. Nothing to do with the parenting of those kids, just their personalities are histrionic, self-centred, and ‘me me me.’

I have someone to reach into the top kitchen cupboards and able to easily shift and carry things when my partner isn't here!
And, he's just as lovely as my girls.

Not all girls, not even most girls, just these particular girls.

Assumptions about people you’ve never met is a bit of a waste of time.

I have to dispute the ‘cheaper for clothes’ thing. Or at least it hasn’t worked out that way here. Our DD stopped growing aged about 14 and buys most of her clothes from charity shops. Luckily not into fashion and has her own style. DS (aged 14) is still growing like a weed and seems to need new trainers, school trousers and pants every 5 minutes. Also costs us a fortune in milk and cereal!

Not a single parent here, but i always wanted a girl! My first was a boy and its just wonderful. He is 8 now and such a great person! I had a DD a bit after him and its just 2 totally different relationships!
pros with DS: he is just so much fun to be around. He understands my sarcasm, humour etc. and we have a great time together.
He is interested in so many things. Sports, music, games doesnt matter what it is, he always wants to play. DD has had one game for the last 3 years and its called “im your baby and youre my mummy” and it sucks so much! 🤦🏻‍♀️
DS is actually fun to play with and its not just something I have to do as his mother.
he has his own flaws of course, but when i have to plan a day with DS i always do something just the 2 of us and i actually enjoy it. When i have time alone with DD i always organise a playdate or a day out, because i cant stand the games she wants to play with me when we are alone!

it might also be a bit of an age thing, but DD is 6 now and still very babyish. DS was a lot more versatile at that age already.

My first child was a boy and I was literally petrified. I had my reasons. I sought therapy. And then he arrived. For me - it simply didn't matter. He was mine and i just adored him. Sure I had stuff to figure out, but him being a boy wasn't one of them. For me the fact he's a boy doesn't even come into parenting him... I know he's a boy, but he's just mine and I adore everything he is. He just happens to be a boy.

Yeah, so is my girl.