Pros of a boy when you wanted a girl…

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just that… I am likely to be single parent so even more worried about that angle!

Boys are the best. The love mothers have for their sons is like no other.

We tried for over 5 years to get pregnant and had IVF in the end. I was adamant I didn’t care about the sex. When baby was born they told me it was a boy- I was overjoyed with a tiny tinge of disappointment (secretly and guiltily I’d hoped for a girl). Within a couple of minutes they corrected themselves- it was a girl. Love her to pieces, always felt guilt about that moment of doubt. Got pregnant again, this time with a boy. Honestly, love them both so much. Of course they have different personalities etc but my heart is swelling while I right this. Girl is funny, clever, needs a bit of social guidance, cuddly on her terms, boy has been a mini me since day one (husband is mixed race if that matters and girl has his colouring boy is blond and blue eyes) boy is a handful but funny, cuddly, loving and direct.
honestly, whichever sex you end up with, I can’t imagine you feeling regret once you meet them

Every one of these threads without fail trots our tedious gender stereotypes about what a boy is like and what a girl is like 🙄.

Can’t be arsed to go through all of them but I’ve watched Frozen hundreds of times as my DS2 was obsessed with it.

It would be so lovely not to see this nonsense repeated time and time again - no wonder kids start getting confused about their gender when parents draw the lines so black and white.

You can always identify as having a dd.

Sorry, don't agree with a lot of this.
Basically, ds is a cat: aloof, superior, quirky.
Dd is a dog: clingy, loving and loyal. Never been boisterous etc

Ds is more like me. I get him, but he's hard get to know. Dd is the girl I wanted to be in school.

There's more drama with dd and her friends, but I worry more about ds getting beaten up after school.

I have two little boys. They are incredibly loving and affectionate, and very easy to dress 😂 I love them so much it hurts.

Agree it's hideous.

This is bollocks. And a bit weird. And explains quite a lot of mil issues.

I have three kids, two boys and one girl and boys are so much easier, I find with girl there is so much drama

I'm also sick of the 'boys need more exercise/ they're like dogs' etc. I've taught for a long, long time. There are wired girls and quiet boys. Fuck all to do with sex.

It’s not a pros and cons thing, he's your baby and you’re going to completely and utterly adore him.

Me and DS have a great bond, gender doesn't matter.

I have a niece and I absolutely adored her and thought no one else could ever come close. Then, when she was 4, her little brother came along. We’d had no boys in our family and it was all a bit of a surprise. Turns out that hearts just create space for new occupants. My nephew is a dream - he’s just as wonderful as his sister and brings us all so much happiness. I don’t want to pit them against each other and say ‘he’s better than her at this’ and ‘she’s better than him at that’, they’re just different people, like their mum and I are different.

I have a baby girl myself now and wouldn’t swap her for a boy, but I do hope my next one is a boy as I’d really like to have one :-)

I think it's ok as long as you acknowledge the two go hand in hand. Yeah you might not have to watch Frozen loads of times, you won't have to paint nails as often and you'll save on sparkly Princess things. Not because girls like that stuff particularly but because boys have been conditioned not to like them. Acknowledging that gender is bullshit and that gender stereotypes exist aren't mutually exclusive. We shouldn't gender stereotype our kids but we do, because we want to, or they want us to, or we haven't thought that much about it, or we just don't really care if it's stereotypical for a boy to have short hair and like hot wheels.

I seriously hope you aren’t suggesting that you love children more if they are boys or that boys are better than girls. That’s so messed up and just plain ugly. Thought we’d moved on from those attitudes!

I adore my son and my daughter equally. I have quite a different relationship with each of them but I genuinely do not love one more than the other. They both make my heart glad.

I have two boys. My youngest is a big fan of unicorns, often selects knickers when new pants are required because they have the designs he likes. Asked for a make up kit for Christmas and his birthday present was tickets to Frozen in the west end to which he proudly wore his full Elsa costume. He is also an absolute whizz at football and loves joining in with Minecraft with his older brother.

You never know how boys and girls are going to turn out!

I am also a single parent and I was quite worried when my husband left that they'd suffer from 'just' having mum around but a) turns out I'm pretty good at this parenting thing (and you will be too if you're already worrying about it) and b) there are plenty of male role models out there who don't need to be their dad. For me that happened to be my brothers and my dad who have eagerly stepped into the breach and are adored by my boys. You'll find them out there and if not, there are many many men who have been brought up in a mostly female environment who have turned out to be thoughtful, sensitive and excellent men

My two boys, one in particular, are extremely squishy and cuddly.

The only con I've found with a ds is now he's at an age where he is still too young to use the men's changing room on his own, but is getting too old to be in the women's.

No family changing room

Why were you scared, and why did you need therapy?

Some of the posts on here about boys / men are heartbreaking; some mothers really seem to dislike all males.

It’s symmetrical though, isn’t it? You can’s take a son into the women’s toilets and your husband can’t take a daughter into the ladies. This isn’t a boy / girl difference, per se, more an opposite-sex parent issue.

I have three boys. Forget your preconceptions. My kids are people..there very different unique human beings. Two are taller than me now and I worried how I would feel living with three young men. It's rather wonderful really.. two have significant SEN and showed me that I'm stronger than I ever imagined I could be. That doesnt come having a boy or girl. It come from creating a human being with it's own free will. you facilitate its growth them set it off like a butterfly.